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Sure, she gets a ring, but what do I get?

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by rdawson808, Apr 7, 2006.

  1. new obsession

    new obsession Well-Known Member

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    While I appreciate the watch itself, note the "less than $1000" criterion I stated. Sorry Matt, I don't know you from Adam, but this strikes me as purely bragging. Can't you simply say "I received a very nice watch"?

    Thanks everyone for your comments. I think in the end I will go with the pocket watch. I have always liked them (and own two already) and it will be something I can wear often and always be reminded of her.

    bob


    Good choice, I am sure you will be happy. Just make sure to have the back engraved with "I love you and mean you no Chinese disrespect."
     
  2. oscarthewild

    oscarthewild Well-Known Member

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    From this take the bolded advice.
    Sorry, I didn't read the initial post, and it didn't cost her a thing as it was a family heirloom of hers.

    I personally think that the best gift that you get is a wife. Other than that, I wouldn't rally know what to ask for.

    I apologize if I offended you in any way.

    Matt


    and embelish it with the bolded advice from here:

    Good choice, I am sure you will be happy. Just make sure to have the back engraved with "I love you and mean you no Chinese disrespect."

    Maybe you want to wait after the wedding to suggest this brilliant idea! Please post feedback here. Those of us who are married may learn something. [​IMG]

    Don't mean to offend but its Friday and I feel frivolous. hey check it out Friday and Frivolous - could it be they have the same root?
     
  3. Tomasso

    Tomasso Well-Known Member

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    I agree with this advice, both that the gift should be more permanent and the cufflinks suggestion.

    I myself did not receive an engagement gift, but I did receive a wedding gift. An Omega Speedmaster Chronograph, which I will always have unless I choose to pass it on to my son, assuming I have one someday.



    I got a Speedy for graduation, I'll never give it up.



    I vote for cufflinks.
     
  4. Ranjeev

    Ranjeev Well-Known Member

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    I am getting married in the summer and my lady is getting me a watch (under a $1000-maybe an Oris). I really appreciate the gesture because I would never buy myself something so expensive even though I really want a nice watch.

    My in-laws are paying for my outfit to the reception. My family is paying for her outfit. Traditional Indian stuff. There's all sorts of other traditional Indian stuff that is passed between the families-jewelry, furniture, etc.. I really like hearing about these cultural traditions. Keep it coming guys.
     
  5. maomao1980

    maomao1980 Well-Known Member

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    In Chinese tradition, giving a timepiece as a gift is strictly verboten. It is seen as a sign of great disrespect, Patek or otherwise. Shoes are generally a no-no as well, although there are not the same connotations, just the typical Chinese (or maybe it's just Cantonese) superstitions vis a vis unfortunate puns. Seriously.


    I think a watch is OK, but a clock is forbidden, since the pronounciation of clock in Chinese is the same as "end". To "give clock" sounds the same as to "give end", which in Chinese means to send off the deceased. As for shoes, I think it's b/c the pronounciation is the same as "evil". In cantonese, I heard that the pronounciation for shoes is same as the sound of a sigh, so it also has bad connotations in that dialect.
     
  6. Max

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    I am getting married in the summer and my lady is getting me a watch (under a $1000-maybe an Oris). I really appreciate the gesture because I would never buy myself something so expensive even though I really want a nice watch.
    I've always thought that there were 2 kinds of perfect gift. The first is something that the recipient has always wanted but couldn't justify buying. The second is something the recipient didn't know they wanted but will absolutely love on reciept. It's tricky to find the right thing, but you'll know when you've found it.
     
  7. Ranjeev

    Ranjeev Well-Known Member

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    Max, I could not agree more.

    Matt, the idea of passing a family heirloom from her family to you is very cool. Btw, nice watch.

    Bob, I have a bit of a bias but I agree with your choice of a watch. Are you looking at something new or an antique?
     
  8. Horace

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    Agree with the links and belt buckle suggestions above, though I think these would make equally nice gifts for groomsmen.
     
  9. globetrotter

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    I actually got a nice watch from my in-laws as a wedding present, but it really wans't my taste, and I couldn't get rid of it, so it has been sitting in a drawer for 7 years.
     
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    My wife got me a necklace; a heavy box chain with an engraved disk. It cost much less than her ring (though, most cars cost much less than her ring...) but I never take it off.
     
  11. rdawson808

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    Sorry, I didn't read the initial post, and it didn't cost her a thing as it was a family heirloom of hers.

    I personally think that the best gift that you get is a wife. Other than that, I wouldn't rally know what to ask for.

    I apologize if I offended you in any way.

    Matt



    No, no offense at all Matt. In fact, I think you received a wonderful gift and your in-laws were very thoughtful to pass on a family heirloom to you.


    Are you looking at something new or an antique?

    I think an antique would be more to my taste. Preferably something from the 1920-1940 time period. And if she were to engrave something on it (I suppose that is her call) that would be lovely. I'm pretty sure she doesn't want anything engraved on her though! [​IMG]


    oh shit here she comes. must go

    bob
     
  12. Tomasso

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    Sorry Matt, I don't know you from Adam, but this strikes me as purely bragging. Can't you simply say "I received a very nice watch"?


    I suppose that I should refrain from posting any photos of my belongings on SF, lest it be misconstrued as bragging and not the intended purpose which is sharing.
     
  13. rdawson808

    rdawson808 Well-Known Member

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    I suppose that I should refrain from posting any photos of my belongings on SF, lest it be misconstrued as bragging and not the intended purpose which is sharing.


    Hardly, Tomasso. But when someone asks for recommendations about a watch under $1000 and probably more likely around $500 and you talk about your $4000 watch (that's what I saw after a quick Google search), that can make you look like a braggart. Matt didn't look at the original post so didn't see the qualification, so I can understand that there was no offense meant. But if you do read the original and then still do that, it's as if you are simply lording it over everyone else. That is rude.

    bob
     
  14. grimslade

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    I think a watch would very nice and suitable for the occasion. More so than shoes.
     
  15. Tomasso

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    But if you do read the original and then still do that, it's as if you are simply lording it over everyone else. That is rude.

    Agreed. When I read iammatts post I assumed that he had misread the thread title(as I have been known to do) and I moved on. Your braggart comment just seemed a bit severe to me. Cheers.
     
  16. LabelKing

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    A Hamilton or Gruen offers very fine craftsmanship for a very low price. The best Gruens were called Dietrich Gruens, which had the workmanship of the highest grade Patek or similar. There was also a 50 Anniversary Gruen with solid gold bridges, and everything.

    However, I've seen white gold Hamiltons with beautiful workmanship for only about $500.
     
  17. The False Prophet

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    Sure, she gets a ring, but what do I get?

    Sex on tap, for the rest of your life? (I mean, it's no pair of Lobb's...but...)
     
  18. globetrotter

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    Sex on tap, for the rest of your life? (I mean, it's no pair of Lobb's...but...)


    not married, are you FP?
     
  19. tiger02

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    not married, are you FP?
    Zach, are you sure you want to post in public that a new pair of Lobbs would be better than sex with your wife?
     
  20. Duveen

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    Zach, are you sure you want to post in public that a new pair of Lobbs would be better than sex with your wife?
    I think that he may be ever-so-delicately implying that being married does not, in fact, imply 'sex on tap for the rest of one's life'. I believe that there is an entire genre of wry remarks that alludes to this unfortunate fact.
     

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