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Sure, she gets a ring, but what do I get?

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by rdawson808, Apr 7, 2006.

  1. rdawson808

    rdawson808 Well-Known Member

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    Question for you all: my gf says that she feels she should be me something for our engagement (hasn't happened yet so hold the applause that I am sure you are dying to give [​IMG] ). My first reaction was Shoes, of course. Then I thought that maybe a pocket watch would be nice.

    So if your fiancee were to buy you an egagement gift what would you like? My only guidelines are that it would be under $1000 (probably more like $500) and that it would be clothing, shoes, accessories, etc. (i.e. no booze or car stuff or electronics, etc.).

    Let 'er rip.

    bob
     
  2. aportnoy

    aportnoy Well-Known Member

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    Sixteen years ago I got a pair of Edward Green mink suede Malverns.[​IMG]
     
  3. AlanC

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    I would suggest something more permanent as a remembrance of the event such as cufflinks. Tiffany has some appropriate options starting at around $100.
     
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    No gift for my engagement. Wedding gift was Breitling Wings Automatic. My advice, skip the engagement gift and hold out for a Patek.
     
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    chorse123 Well-Known Member

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    I think an antique pocket watch would be a great gift. It's special, it's "jewelry," and it is far less likely to wear out than a suit or shoes. And it is less likely to be lost than cufflinks.

    I didn't get an engagement gift (other than my wife). But my father bought me a pocket watch for my 18th birthday. It gets infrequent use, but it's in fantastic shape, is beautiful, and cost somewhere in the neighborhood of what you're looking at. Mine is an Elgin opera watch, white gold, 17 Jewel, size 12, with art deco arabic numerals. A little like this, but different numbers:

    [​IMG]
     
  7. topcatny

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    I would suggest something more permanent as a remembrance of the event such as cufflinks. Tiffany has some appropriate options starting at around $100.

    I agree with this advice, both that the gift should be more permanent and the cufflinks suggestion.

    I myself did not receive an engagement gift, but I did receive a wedding gift. An Omega Speedmaster Chronograph, which I will always have unless I choose to pass it on to my son, assuming I have one someday.
     
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    Some consider the gifting of timepieces inappropriate for weddings as they imply impermanence.
     
  9. LA Guy

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    Some consider the gifting of timepieces inappropriate for weddings as they imply impermanence.

    In Chinese tradition, giving a timepiece as a gift is strictly verboten. It is seen as a sign of great disrespect, Patek or otherwise. Shoes are generally a no-no as well, although there are not the same connotations, just the typical Chinese (or maybe it's just Cantonese) superstitions vis a vis unfortunate puns. Seriously.
     
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    In Chinese tradition, giving a timepiece as a gift is strictly verboten. It is seen as a sign of great disrespect, Patek or otherwise.

    Interesting, given the fact that I recently witnessed an engagement ceremony in Taiwan, I believe it was a tea cake something or other (forgive my ignorance) where among the gifts given to the prospecitve groom by the bride's parents was a watch (brand un-important, but high end). Should we take that to mean that they harbor ill will toward the marriage? Seriously, no joke, I am curious. (One of the alternatives being, of course, that they pay less attention to Chinese symbolism than I do.)

    At any rate, it seems there are several of us whose wives meant us great disrespect on the day of our wedding. Or at least great Chinese disrespect. [​IMG]
     
  11. Dakota rube

    Dakota rube Well-Known Member

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    Might be the perfect occassion to break out the:

    MY G/F GOT
    A 5 CARAT RING
    AND ALL I GOT
    WAS THIS LOUSY
    T-SHIRT

    (Sorry guys, it is finally spring on the Plains and I'm celebratory.)
     
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    I hate it when my wife Chinese disrespects me.
     
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    I hate it when my wife Chinese disrespects me.
    I wish mine would start! My wife clearly is far too respectful. [​IMG]
     
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    Interesting, given the fact that I recently witnessed an engagement ceremony in Taiwan, I believe it was a tea cake something or other (forgive my ignorance) where among the gifts given to the prospecitve groom by the bride's parents was a watch (brand un-important, but high end). Should we take that to mean that they harbor ill will toward the marriage? Seriously, no joke, I am curious. (One of the alternatives being, of course, that they pay less attention to Chinese symbolism than I do.)

    At any rate, it seems there are several of us whose wives meant us great disrespect on the day of our wedding. Or at least great Chinese disrespect. [​IMG]


    It's an old school thing, and maybe strictly limited to the Cantonese - I really don't know. I do know that the bride's parents are supposed to pack a bag for the prospecitve husband though, including a suit, in Taiwanese tradition. My brother's wife is Taiwanese, and asked him and his fiancee at the time to choose the suit with the instructions "just get something he likes", and I know that he toyed briefly with the idea of hitting them up with a big dollars item, but thought better of it - especially since their wedding gift from his in-laws was a condo in downtown Toronto.

    Edit: I think I gave them a book.
     
  16. itsstillmatt

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    I got a platinum Jaeger le Coultre wristwatch.
     
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    It's an old school thing, and maybe strictly limited to the Cantonese - I really don't know. I do know that the bride's parents are supposed to pack a bag for the prospecitve husband though, including a suit, in Taiwanese tradition. My brother's wife is Taiwanese, and asked him and his fiancee at the time to choose the suit with the instructions "just get something he likes", and I know that he toyed briefly with the idea of hitting them up with a big dollars item, but thought better of it - especially since their wedding gift from his in-laws was a condo in downtown Toronto.

    Edit: I think I gave them a book.


    Apropos of nothing - In the interest of full disclosure, my witnessing of the previously mentioned ceremony was via DVD video of it, and came without commentary. One interesting thing I saw was a large exchange of gifts between several of the parties, all of which seemed to come in the same colored boxes, and included, for the prospective groom, the aforementioned watch, cufflinks, a tie, and other items. I had the impression that they had come from the same store, either a jewelry store (excluding the tie), or some sort of store that sell items specifically for this purpose. Perhaps this offering included a suit, I am not sure, but I doubt it, because the proportions necessary for a suit would have blown the mind of the average Taiwanese tailor, and I sincerely doubt they are stocked OTR. Think NFL offensive lineman, or small Sumo wrestler.

    -Sorry, didn't mean to hijack the thread!!
     
  18. rdawson808

    rdawson808 Well-Known Member

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    I got a platinum Jaeger le Coultre wristwatch.

    While I appreciate the watch itself, note the "less than $1000" criterion I stated. Sorry Matt, I don't know you from Adam, but this strikes me as purely bragging. Can't you simply say "I received a very nice watch"?

    Thanks everyone for your comments. I think in the end I will go with the pocket watch. I have always liked them (and own two already) and it will be something I can wear often and always be reminded of her.

    bob
     
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    Is anyone else having visions of Lucy Liu in Payback?[​IMG]

    That movie is way underrated.
     
  20. itsstillmatt

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    While I appreciate the watch itself, note the "less than $1000" criterion I stated. Sorry Matt, I don't know you from Adam, but this strikes me as purely bragging. Can't you simply say "I received a very nice watch"?

    Thanks everyone for your comments. I think in the end I will go with the pocket watch. I have always liked them (and own two already) and it will be something I can wear often and always be reminded of her.

    bob



    Sorry, I didn't read the initial post, and it didn't cost her a thing as it was a family heirloom of hers.

    I personally think that the best gift that you get is a wife. Other than that, I wouldn't rally know what to ask for.

    I apologize if I offended you in any way.

    Matt
     

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