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Should I have bought it for the president, teh coffee?

Discussion in 'Business, Careers & Education' started by patrickBOOTH, May 25, 2011.

  1. patrickBOOTH

    patrickBOOTH Well-Known Member

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    This morning I was in the cafeteria at work and the president of the company was behind me. We exchanged small chit chat and he said to me, "when I grow up I want to be as sharply dressed as you." Of course I was flattered, but I had to correct him, "I'm wearing a one-button peak lapel suit, NOT CBD."

    Joking, I didn't really say that, but I thanked him for the compliment and I paid for my breakfast and said my goodbyes. As I am walking away I am thinking to myself, should I have bought him his coffee? Would that have been a good move, or a kind of lame one? What do you think?
     
  2. tj100

    tj100 Well-Known Member

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    Lame. He should have bought you your coffee/breakfast.
     
  3. theyare

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    Depends on the size of the company any relationship you might have with him, but I think he should have been the one taking it down.
     
  4. patrickBOOTH

    patrickBOOTH Well-Known Member

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    But if I bought him the coffee would it have helped or hurt me?
     
  5. tj100

    tj100 Well-Known Member

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    But if I bought him the coffee would it have helped or hurt me?

    Probably neither. Personally, I think it would have put him in an awkward place, which is never a great thing to do. If, between the two of you, one is going to pay for both, it should be the most senior person who offers. If you throw out the offer, you make it seem as though he's cheaped out on his responsibility.
     
  6. ter1413

    ter1413 Well-Known Member

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    Lame and considered brown nosing!
     
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    He's the boss, he's making fucking money and you're making peanuts. Unless he's your friend, don't buy.
     
  8. SkinnyGoomba

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    you did the right thing.
     
  9. spertia

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    It wouldn't even cross my mind to buy him coffee in this scenario. Don't worry about it.
     
  10. patrickBOOTH

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    Cool, thanks guys. I will sleep tonight. Lonely, in a one-room leaky apartment, with no heat, hot water, or windows.
     
  11. munchausen

    munchausen Well-Known Member

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    The guy with authority is the one who picks up the tab. It's one of the folkways of the business world.
     
  12. Slopho

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    No offense, but does he even know your name?
     
  13. patrickBOOTH

    patrickBOOTH Well-Known Member

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    No offense, but does he even know your name?

    Yes, he knows me. I give him presentations and such.
     
  14. unjung

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    Every time I go out for lunch or drinks with a superior, they pay. They won't let me touch my wallet.
     
  15. scientific

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    he'll be impressed if you're smart and make money for him, not if you buy him coffee
     
  16. Jangofett

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    This morning I was in the cafeteria at work and the president of the company was behind me. We exchanged small chit chat and he said to me, "when I grow up I want to be as sharply dressed as you." Of course I was flattered, but I had to correct him, "I'm wearing a one-button peak lapel suit, NOT CBD."

    Joking, I didn't really say that, but I thanked him for the compliment and I paid for my breakfast and said my goodbyes. As I am walking away I am thinking to myself, should I have bought him his coffee? Would that have been a good move, or a kind of lame one? What do you think?


    If you wanted to do so, you shouldnt just offer like that 'Say, Bob, can I pay for your joe since I am paying for my pancakes and waffles?' Mr President would likely decline.

    You should have recommended him something good and graciously offered to pay.

    Not only does it show you are a man of knowledge, you are a man of taste (he already knows, from your clothes) and a classy guy to boot.

    Of course no matter what, you would be viewed as a suck up and brown noser.
     
  17. yjeezle

    yjeezle Well-Known Member

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    you did the right thing.

    i would feel insulted if someone (not my senior) bought me a drink or whatever if we don't have a close relationship (ie. working pretty close together).
     
  18. patrickBOOTH

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    This morning to make up for it I had a coffee and flowers with a card sent to his office from me. [​IMG]
     
  19. ter1413

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    This morning to make up for it I had a coffee and flowers with a card(offering a reach-around) sent to his office from me. [​IMG]

    ftfy
     
  20. Pilot

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    This morning to make up for it I had a coffee and flowers with a card sent to his office from me. [​IMG]

    I hope you included a WAYWT "lifestyle" pic as well
     

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