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Private dinner cruise event - dress code?

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by rostov, Apr 25, 2012.

  1. ter1413

    ter1413 Well-Known Member

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    You are totally over thinking this.

    What is the event and what clothes will be carrying for the rest of the cruise or are you asking them aboard for one night? You should certainly not set out to out dress them as you appear to be suggesting disgracefully - they are your guests not people to boost your ego.


    If they will have evening dress with them because the cruise demands it then fine but otherwise do not exceed the maximum standard that they will bring with them. Indeed an informal evening might well be quite suffficient for most - it is for their company that you invite people to the event you describe, not something to massage your ego and and ideas of grandeur.
     
  3. F. Corbera

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    OP, do not let anyone who does not meet your Resort Formal standards to come on board.

    In fact, if any slip through, make them walk the plank or keelhaul them.

    Also consider shortening the cruise from three hours to thirty minutes.
     
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  4. rostov

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    Events have dress codes, do they not? Dress codes aren't about ego, but about setting the tone for an event. All such events have dress codes. Because it is a boat and because it is a wedding-style event, I thought that tone should reflect a mix of class *and* casualness, but have clearly had difficulty in expressing that.

    It is a 3 hour event, on and off. The ship *itself* has a slacks+jacket rule for dinner. Not dressing appropriately may result in people not boarding, not by my rule, but by the captain's (but to be honest, I'm not entirely certain how strictly enforced this is).

    "Resort formal" does not appear to be actually formal, but is relatively casual. Light-colored jackets and/or pants for the men and sundresses for the ladies, ideally, but not strictly. All that matters is that people don't come dressed in jeans and sneakers, and wear jackets, which are the captain's orders.
     
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    The main issue with captain's orders are that people will appeal to the admiral, and he's more of jeans guy.
     
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    Why don't you just say jackets, slacks and dresses instead of trying to make it sound cutsie...
     
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    I was trying to avoid being too specific and listing everything that was or was not appropriate, in which case it would become too strict... which is the opposite of casual.

    Still, I think I'll do "jackets and slacks for men, dresses for the ladies", based on the feedback here. My wife was trying to add "pant suits" to this, god knows why.
     
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    It's "ladies and gentlemen," not "ladies and men."

    I think that if you send a DVD of the following with your invitations, it will help people get the dress code right for the cruise.


    [VIDEO][/VIDEO]
     
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    I still think you should get the words "boating" or "nautical" in there somehow.
     
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    That^^^





    This^^^.
    If the boat has rules, then you need to let the people coming know...But you don't need people to say..."geez"....when they get the invite...beause you want to be "creative on the invite!"
     
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    "jackets and slacks for men, dresses for the ladies" - that's good enough
     
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    Sailor's uniform? red-blue white stripes?
     

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