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On suicide

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by MarkI, Mar 28, 2012.

  1. NORE

    NORE Well-Known Member

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    My approach to suicide is a slow one; plenty of Scotch & smokes.
     
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  2. lasbar

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    Very Churchillian...:slayer:
     
  3. lefty

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    After two suicide attempts by hanging - with me in the room both times - my father finally decided to withdraw from the world and drink himself to death. It took a few years, but at the end he had swollen to 300 lbs and his liver shut down leaving him the colour of mustard with orange eyes.

    It was decidedly unromantic.

    lefty
     
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  4. lasbar

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    It must have been awful to witness that...:(
     
  5. Concordia

    Concordia Well-Known Member

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    I had an aunt who did much the same. After many years of being a more or less sober alcoholic, she finally gave up and started binging again. Finally, she started a fire while trying to sneak a cigarette and was so physically disabled that she got stuck in her apartment. Asphyxiation was the result.
     
  6. lefty

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    The second time was hard. I was 15 and he was much too heavy for me to lift so I ran to the next door neighbour and asked his help to cut down my hanging father. Odd request in the middle of the night.

    The things some fathers do to their sons ... they leave scars.

    lefty
     
  7. lasbar

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    I was not going to comment or hurt your feelings on such sensitive matters but as a father myself, I do not understand how someone wants to traumatize his child by doing such act...

    He maybe wanted to be saved in some kind of twisted self-preservation reflex.
     
  8. acidboy

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    :cry:
     
  9. lefty

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    I'm not really much of a touchy feely guy, but one time I was out with a female friend and we were sharing childhood war stories - mine were actually worse than the above, but hers were the stuff of horror movies. We were drunk and laughing as we tried to up each other. We were also a little loud. At one point I looked up to see the people at the surrounding tables staring at us with horror on their faces.

    The point is that while the scars remain the wounds have long healed. I have now lived years beyond the age my father was when he killed himself and despite my sardonic Eeyore-like demeanor every day is a blessing.

    lefty
     
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  10. JLibourel

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    ^It's kind of amazing and much to your credit, lefty, that you came through such a traumatic childhood and are such a sensible, level-headed guy as you have presented yourself in the course of your years and thousands of good posts in this forum.
     
  11. Maximator

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    @Yolo, First of all I have to comment on the irony of your user name, in connection with what you're writing. Yes, You Only Live Once, and thus it's the most precious gift of all. You know what, you are worth something. I don't want to come here and give you a speech about how everyone is important and stuff, but if you feel that you're not important to anyone, why not make yourself important? At your job? For someone else? For an organisation?
    @Lefty.I can identify with that. I was never a social person, to the point where I only had 1 real friend during my 12 years pf primary education, with A LOT of verbal hazing and related incidents. This lead me to believe that 1. everyone was out to hurt me. The rationale was that whenever I became "friends" with someone, I'd end up getting hurt. So, no friends, no pain.
    2. everyone else had these shiny great lives with no problems and parents that are just awesome. Little did I know that every kid has problems and fuck-ups that they have to deal wit, both their own and the ones of their parents.
    It was only much later, when due to an absolutely amazing group of people(and later friends) that I'd come to realize that 1. it's okay to let your guard down, 2. Talking about personal things is okay, not everyone is out to screw you over. Some people really are just nice people.

    This made life A LOT easier to live, and while I was never seriously suicidal(contemplating it as a hypothetical, yes, quite a bit, actually wanting to do it for real, no), These things did help me to in essence start over in life and become the happy(ish) person that I am now. That's not to say that I'm completely different now, but it's a gargantuan step in the right direction.
     
  12. acidboy

    acidboy Well-Known Member

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    even while living in san francisco? :rimshot:
     
  13. lefty

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    Let's not get crazy, ab.

    Thanks, Jan.

    lefty
     
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