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Official Wedding Attire Question/Answer/Picture Thread

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by unbelragazzo, Dec 31, 2012.

  1. random-adam

    random-adam Well-Known Member

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    You won't find any love for matchy-matchy neckwear in this forum (or the entire website). Purple is not something most of us can in good conscience advise if "classic" is the look you're after... and if it isn't, I'm afraid you're looking in the wrong place for approval.
     
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  2. JohnShrike

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    Was kinda looking for more "Style" advice rather than "classic men's fashion" but all wedding questions get moved into this thread so here I am. =P
     
  3. HughJ

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    What happens if it's not purple? You are getting solid advice here - those ties are frankly awful. Sorry.

    I could swear one of the affiliates stocked a purple and white shepherd's check, but I can't find it now. Vanda has one pictured in their swatches - you may want to drop them a line. I'm pretty sure I've seen a RLPL purple on grey glen plaid somewhere too. Good luck and congrats.
     
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  4. marcodalondra

    marcodalondra Well-Known Member

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    Purple is not really a wedding colour. In Naples is seen as a grieving/funeral colour for example (the brides would have a fit if female guest turned up with a purple dress).
    If you must, really, wear a purple accent, I think this is really how far you should go :
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    Source: Turnbull & Asser : http://www.turnbullandasser.co.uk/l...pyBLLVPhelm_67jXV2IF3imSsfwFxfp2LcaAnI-8P8HAQ

    However, I would really recommend that you went for a three piece suit, black plain Oxford captoe, a silver based tie, and probably a purple flower in the boutonnière
     
  5. archibaldleach

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    Okay. If the wedding color is purple and you must wear purple, the world won't end even if it's not the most elegant or classic choice (but you already know that). The houndstooth tie that Marco posted is a decent alternative. Otherwise I would go with a solid colored purple tie (I'd go light or dark, I don't care for the middle ground in purple) if you are rejecting the silver/grey advice. I don't see why you need the tie to have some other color to match other clothes you are wearing. If you need white in the outfit, you can get it from your shirt and from a white linen pocket square.

    http://www.samhober.com/diamond-weave-silk-ties/ (10 or 11)
    http://www.samhober.com/grenadine-grossa-solid-silk-ties/ (32 or 34)

    The ties you posted are pretty ugly IMO. Not trying to be a jerk; just being blunt in how I see things.
     
  6. JohnShrike

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    Why captoe and not plain toe oxford, isn't cap-toe for more casual situations?

    Also, three piece would've been nice, but the wedding is in august I wont be able to keep the jacket on if I also add the vest. (If you look back 5 or 6 pages; posters on this sight have veered me away from wearing vests, or having my groomsmen wear vests).
     
  7. archibaldleach

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    Plain toe oxfords are fine if you have them, but cap toes are perfectly appropriate and traditional for daytime weddings involving suits. I have plain toe oxfords, but only use them for black tie.
     
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  8. JohnShrike

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    Thanks for the links, and yeah I know the ties I posted would not go well on here, maybe I was being a bit of a troll afte my conservative choice got shot down so unconditionally.
     
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  9. kaffenons

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    Hi

    I'm a 34 year old Norwegian, and I'm getting married in August. I'm not a clothing expert, but I try to learn more about it. Today I went to get my clothes for the wedding, and here is how it turned out:
    I wanted a morning suit, witch they had. But it was a bad fit, and made of polyester, so I discarded that.
    Then I went for a tuxedo, navy blue with shawl collar. This was in 100% wool, and the jacket fitted without any need for alterations. The pants need to be taken in, but that's not a problem, so I bought it and I'm getting it in 14 days. I also bought a white shirt with pleated front and wing collar.

    So then I thought that this was it, tuxedo with a bow tie. But the lady in the shop presented me an option that I could have a west and a cravat (the ones you wear with a morning suit). I thought maybe this would be what you call faux pas, but the lady said it was very stylish. And I must admit that I thought it looked good, very wedding style if you know what I mean. I also like the idea of changing to a bow tie for the evening party, to get another appearance. So I bought that too.

    Now I'm starting to doubt mixing elements into the tuxedo, and I would like some advise on what to do. The wedding starts at daytime, that's why I wanted a morning suit. I also didn't get any west for the tuxedo, I got to confused to think about it. So do you have any advise, how should I do this?
     
  10. archibaldleach

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    Hi and congratulations on the upcoming marriage. A tuxedo should be worn only in the evening. You can argue for a bit of an exception if the wedding starts very late in the day and the vast majority of the festivities are after 6:00PM, but I wouldn't really stretch it too much. A shawl collar tuxedo should take a bow tie and a cummerbund (a vest can be okay but I think a vest is slightly better for a peak lapel tuxedo). If you want to wear a cravat, do so with a morning coat. Mixing and matching elements between different types of formal attire is a mistake. If you are going to change, change your entire outfit (i.e. wear a suit or morning coat for the wedding and the dinner jacket for the reception).

    If we're really being pendantic, I'd return the wing collar shirt and get a tuxedo shirt with a regular spread turndown collar. The wing collar is pretty much a white tie and maybe black tie with peak lapel look. But that's a lot less of an issue than wearing a cravat with a tuxedo.
     
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  11. kaffenons

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    Hehe, that's what I thought. Thanx for the advice. I've been reading a lot about this, so I should know better, but I guess I'm too easy to convince. So I guess I have two options (since a polyester morning suit isn't an option), either buy a suit, and have a suit in the daytime wedding ceremony, and a tuxedo in the evening party. Or try to have them take the tuxedo back and buy a suit that I wear the whole day.

    Does anyone have an option on what colour the suit should be? If I have a navy tuxedo, should I then have a grey/charcoal suit to make it different from the navy tuxedo? How should I style it? I have a wedding tie from Sam Hober and a white pocket square.

    And I must mention that I've seen many celebrities here in Norway who wear tuxedo in daytime weddings, only the royal family does pull it off correctly. The wedding is in Kenya by the way, but I guess it would go under the radar there too. But I guess the main advise here is to get a suit anyway, and also that wearing a tuxedo at the wrong time is the lesser evil compared to mixing in another attire into the tuxedo. I would hate to be embarrassed of my wedding picture in 1 or 10 years from now.
     
  12. archibaldleach

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    ^ Hopefully the tuxedo is midnight blue versus navy, but that's an issue for another time. I'd say don't worry about whether the suit and tuxedo are in the same color family if you decide to wear both. The suit, white shirt and wedding tie will look sufficiently different from the tuxedo, white shirt with studs and black bow tie regardless.
     
  13. Veremund

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    One of those dark purple Sam Hober ties would be an excellent way to go. You'd have a beautiful tie to go to for years to come and will always look nice.
    The flower advice was also spot on. Get a simple purple flower to put in your lapel. You'll look stylish and dashing, and isn't that what we all want? :D
     
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  14. Veremund

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    There is no reason you shouldn't have a grey suit in your wardrobe anyway, so if you haven't got one yet, now is a perfect time to get it. Wear the suit in the daytime, and change into your tux for the evening. Both a grey suit and tuxedo/dinner jacket/smoking will serve you for years to come.

    What time does the ceremony begin?
     
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  15. marcodalondra

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    Cap toe Oxfords are the most formal shoes aside of being worn with dinner cloths.

    I see people getting married in South Italy in three pieces all the time, May to September when temperatures can be often 27-30 degree Celsius. The whole suit needs to be of appropriate weight, than the waistcoat should not make a difference.
     
  16. Veremund

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    Absolutely. Do as Archibald says. Return the shirt, get a proper one. And, by the way, is your bowtie pre-tied? :embar:
     
  17. kaffenons

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    I'm afraid the tuxedo is not as dark as midnight. I will try to get them to take it back for a suit. But if not it is, as you're saying, an issue for another time.

    I'm thinking that you are right about this, so should just go and get a suit on monday. The ceremony is starting 2 or 3 pm. I think there was some photo's before that. I tried to ask my fiancée, but could not get in touch at the moment.

    Ok, I understand. If they have it, I will. The shops here are not so pro as they probably are in the USA and England and other countries where formal wear is more normal. The shop gave me a pre tied bowtie, but I'm going to get one and tie myself. Should be able to learn that in a month :)
     
  18. kaffenons

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    The ceremony starts at 1 pm, my fiancée has informed me. I'm half the world away from the planning, so that's why I don't have all the details yet, I'm just focusing on getting my thing's right and gettnig there in time[​IMG].
    Why did you ask?
     
  19. Veremund

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    I'd say you should definitely have both! A grey suit and a tuxedo are both wonderful to have. 1 o'clock start time means you have quite a few hours of sunlight for the suit to be a must. If the wedding were to take place an hour before sunset (6 o'clock in Kenya), I'd say you could get away with only wearing the tuxedo.

    Congrats on your upcoming wedding. Is the bride Kenyan? What will her wedding dress look like? Traditional, or white?

    PS. Oh yeah, and definitely get a bow tie you need to tie yourself. As easy as tying your shoe laces. :)
     
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  20. kaffenons

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    Thank you [​IMG] Yes, the bride is Kenyan. She will wear a white wedding dress. I think the weddings in Kenya has inspiration from America, when we're talking about white weddings. There are a few minor differences from the ones in Norway.

    With all this good advice, I think I have it covered. One last question: would a charcoal or a mid grey suit look best?
     

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