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Married SFers: How much did your wedding cost?

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Fraiche, Dec 29, 2010.

  1. HORNS

    HORNS Well-Known Member

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    Where, if you don't mind?
     
  2. Fraiche

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    Where's her extra $5K-$10K coming from?

    $20-25 is talking like barebones with minimal stuff on neccessities. Realistic average is like $25-30K.



    Maybe I need people from the other side to weigh in....anyone spent money on an extravagant wedding and thought it was worth it?
     
  3. SpooPoker

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    Mrs. Spoo and I eloped, but eloped somewhere that was ballerific. Did about $19k for the 2 of us and 2 friends. Worth every penny.
     
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  4. Xiaogou

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    Dude...you're preaching to the choir here. That's what I've been trying to tell her.

    I even told her "Imagine I gave you $4,000 to spend in 1 hour for shopping. Now imagine I gave you a whole week to do this."

    She started to get it but went back to her old ways of wanting the 1 day party.


    I just went through this. I spent 30k for 8 hours at the Hilton [​IMG]

    If I had to do over, I would have rented out an entire restaurant and saved half.
     
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    I think we spent ~35k total, had 100 people.

    The cost will depend massively on location. Easily 2x cost swings from one part of the country to another. We did ours in Northern VA, one of the most expensive regions for weddings in the country. We ended up dropping $135 a plate for 100 guests, including venue rental and ceremony costs. Her parents paid and really wanted us to have something "nice," probably 10k of that was stuff they added on. Could have slashed a lot of that, stuff like paid hotel rooms for guests, but they wanted to pay, so....

    I looked at some places that were in the $85/plate range in NoVA and they were pretty atrocious. I wasn't terribly picky, but I wasn't going to serve cafeteria food in an unairconditioned building.

    However, $60/plate in GA would have given us something great.

    If you really want to save money, avoid anything with the word "wedding" in it, and don't tell the people you're planning for a wedding until you already have a price.
     
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    We quicky realized that it was our parents -- well more precisely our mothers -- who wanted a big wedding. We bowed out gracefully and let them plan and pay for it. That said, I recall seeing my father-in-law at the post wedding reception (1000+ guests). For a brief moment he was standing all alone in that crowded room ... looking terribly lonely. I walked up and asked if he was alright. He responded, "Alright, but broke." I retorted, "You know this was not our idea, we didn't really want a grand wedding. You didn't have to do this." He replied, "You really don't know your mother-in-law well enough yet. You will."
     
  8. Rambo

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    Romantic - Its the one day you'll remember for the rest of your lives. Isn't that worth spending money on to be happy with how it will come out?

    Rationalist - Spending $25,000 on a one day party is $25000 less that you and your wife can use to start a family and life together

    Realist - Almost 50% of marriages end in divorce. Would you spend $25000 on something you knew you were going to regret for the rest of your life?
     
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  9. Joenobody0

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    $20-25 is talking like barebones with minimal stuff on neccessities. Realistic average is like $25-30K.



    Maybe I need people from the other side to weigh in....anyone spent money on an extravagant wedding and thought it was worth it?


    My wife and I spent about $20K out of pocket for a 100 guest wedding. We did almost everything ourselves or with help from friends. Our videographer, photographer, DJ, set up people, flower arrangement creator, hair stylist, and all the other small things were handled for free. We paid for our caterer (food+staff), cake ($1,000), and location (it was very rural and fairly cheap at $3,000). Had our friends and family not handled so many tasks, the cost would have been astronomical.

    I did not even really get to enjoy the wedding since I was too busy.
     
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  10. IUtoSLU

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    Our wedding cost about $4k. Her family paid about $3.5k and mine paid $500. We got married at the age of 22. We had about 150 guests. It was a blast.
     
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  11. Fraiche

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    I just got shitted on for trying to convince her to spend a little less money on wedding so we can have a better down payment for a home.
     
  12. herzzreh

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    Almost nothing. Wedding is an overpriced event to satisfy outsiders. We both agreed on this and we'd rather spend the money on a kickass round-the-world trip.
     
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    Realist - Almost 50% of marriages end in divorce. Would you spend $25000 on something you knew you were going to regret for the rest of your life?

    By the time divorce rolls around, 25k between the two of you is a drop in the bucket of the hit to your wallet.
     
  14. LA Guy

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    As this thread shows, you can have really ballerific weddings, or do it on the cheap. My advice is to just let your fiancee have the wedding she wants. $10K is nothing in the grand scheme of things. And if an extra $5K will make it her dream wedding, as opposed to the minimum acceptable, I mean, seriously, $5K is nothing. Think about it this way. If, in a few years time, you are making baller money, $10K will be a drop in the bucket. If you are not, you'll still have saved up enough to make up that extra bit of down payment. Not worth it to start off the marriage with a fight over money.
     
  15. LA Guy

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    Romantic - Its the one day you'll remember for the rest of your lives. Isn't that worth spending money on to be happy with how it will come out?

    Rationalist - Spending $25,000 on a one day party is $25000 less that you and your wife can use to start a family and life together

    Realist - Almost 50% of marriages end in divorce. Would you spend $25000 on something you knew you were going to regret for the rest of your life?


    Realist - The extra $10K will save you a lot of headaches. Cheap, effective, healthcare.
     
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    We quicky realized that it was our parents -- well more precisely our mothers -- who wanted a big wedding. We bowed out gracefully and let them plan and pay for it. That said, I recall seeing my father-in-law at the post wedding reception (1000+ guests). For a brief moment he was standing all alone in that crowded room ... looking terribly lonely. I walked up and asked if he was alright. He responded, "Alright, but broke." I retorted, "You know this was not our idea, we didn't really want a grand wedding. You didn't have to do this." He replied, "You really don't know your mother-in-law well enough yet. You will."

    That is a very haunting story.
     
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    By the time divorce rolls around, 25k between the two of you is a drop in the bucket of the hit to your wallet.
    A large number of divorces happen within the first few years.
    Realist - The extra $10K will save you a lot of headaches. Cheap, effective, healthcare.
    If your wife is causing you $10k worth of headaches, maybe its time to rethink the marriage thing.
     
  18. Fraiche

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    They need to make it a requirement for girls to take financial planning courses.
     
  19. Matt

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    give me a beach, a barbecue, a couple dozen people I actually like, and a few of my friends in key roles (we ordained one for just this purpose) and I am pretty much happy.
     
  20. LA Guy

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    If your wife is causing you $10k worth of headaches, maybe its time to rethink the marriage thing.

    You clearly haven't been following the healthcare threads.
     

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