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If I knew when I was 20 what I know now....

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Flambeur, Sep 16, 2010.

  1. imatlas

    imatlas Well-Known Member

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    Go to medical school.

    Travel more.

    Don't ask her where she learned how to do that.
     
  2. SG0123

    SG0123 Well-Known Member

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    20 year old here...awesome thread haha
     
  3. renman23

    renman23 Active Member

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    1: Your Parents are FUCKING IDIOTS! Everything they've said is WRONG

    2: You are the best thing ever. Love yourself as hard as you can!

    3: Dont marry til you're 40... Go live life everywhere, every day!!!
     
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  4. Gibonius

    Gibonius Well-Known Member

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    Don't pick a research field because it appeals to your intellectual interests. Pick something with industrial demand, that you can also stand to study. Grad school is going to suck donkey asshole one way or another, you might as well be in demand when you get out.
     
  5. CTGuy

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    I think this is very true. I know plenty of people who followed all the rule, studied hard and met with great success who have shitty attitudes and are for various reasons unhappy and/or unsuccessful. I'm no role model, but much of the mistakes and hard times I've had have shaped me as a person in good ways. As to the OP: I'd go to therapy earlier. I had some stuff to work out that I waited far too long to take care of professionally. For all the mentions of saving money- I'd worry less about the financial stuff. I'd try to spend less on things like clothes and cars and spend it on experiences.
     
  6. Flambeur

    Flambeur Well-Known Member

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  7. rdawson808

    rdawson808 Well-Known Member

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    study more
    less screen time, more dating time--go meet some fucking women
    be more open about potential future career choices


    edit: that said, it's worked out okay I think
     
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  8. FidelCashflow

    FidelCashflow Well-Known Member

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    I like this.

    Also - do a semester abroad - I know people who are doing it now and based on the amount of partying they are getting in - I am almost tempted to re-enroll in university just to get in on it.
     
  9. apocalypse later

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    1. Learn how to manage your time. You can have a 4.0 in a difficult major, party your ass off and have ton of friends, keep in shape, and be outside activities in college if you just figure out how to study efficiently and have the "don't waste time" attitude.
    2. Stop watching sports unless you're hanging out with people. You can watch the highlights of baseball games, no need to sit through them. And it's not worth multi-tasking during them, you won't get anything done.
    3. Don't try and be the white knight. If a girl is damaged, let her down easy and move on to one that's emotionally stable.
    4. Don't play video games. They're a gigantic waste of time.
    5. Don't buy so much stuff. You end up selling it all anyways and regret that you didn't go on trips or spend it on binge drinking.
    6. Move to a city with good public transit and find a job with a short commute.
    7. Don't live in DC. The women are AWFUL.
    8. Travel internationally every year. No matter what.
    9. Always be juggling a couple personal projects. Do things like reading a book a week, cooking a new meal every night, and something else you've always wanted to learn. The internet is a huge obstacle to doing stuff like this--if you get off it it's amazing what you can accomplish.
    10. Before your second corporate job, take 3 months off and travel. You can tell your next employer it's something you always wanted to do and now you're fresh and ready to go. It's not like you lose all business knowledge once you go off for a little while.
     
  10. death shot

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    Get that cert.

    Buy that Saab.

    Start taking propecia P R O N T O.
     
  11. Thomas

    Thomas Well-Known Member

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    Holy fuck. Right now, I think I'd reconsider nearly every major life decision I've made since 20.
     
  12. acidboy

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    testify, brother! over the past month, I realized that all this fucking idealism/selfless/sacrifice bs might've been all a big mistake and I should've packed my bags and never looked back.
     
  13. death shot

    death shot Well-Known Member

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    ^^^

    Nothing is more sickening than realizing that hard work, discomfort, and time invested all turned out to be utterly fruitless. I invested seven years of my life down a career path that was stolen from me by the vindictive and egotistical motives of one fat, ugly, untalented, female I.T. manager (who knew absolutely nothing about I.T.).
     
  14. mkarim

    mkarim Well-Known Member

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    How can someone "steal" your career. Explain.
     
  15. mkarim

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    Sound advice.
     
  16. death shot

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    I was part of a small I.T. department in a charity hospital. We were integrated into the system of a larger, university-based medical system after my staff and I built the charity hospital's network from basically nothing. The takeover is something that happens, we understood that. But most of us received an offer to move to another company immediately. The institution that bought us out basically begged us to stay by guaranteeing us that we had jobs that would be in absolutely no danger if we came over. We came over, integrated our systems, and were immediately terminated on trumped up claims that were completely fabricated. One guy had a heart condition and ended up in the hospital over it. Some of us were even offered other positions in that same institution when a few sympathetic directors and managers in other departments caught wind of what was going on. In order to block that from happening, that same bitch manager made sure that we were terminated without the possibility of re-hire. We went to HR, nothing ever came of it.
     
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  17. mkarim

    mkarim Well-Known Member

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    Ok so you learnt a few important lessons which many don't get a chance to learn:

    1. Never ever depend on an employer to take care of you in any way.
    2. The only entity that can make or break your career (or life, in general,) is you.
    3. Always keep your skills updated, esp in IT so job scurity rests with you, not your employer.

    You're very lucky you went through this and, hopefully, will be much better off in the future.
     
  18. plei89

    plei89 Well-Known Member

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    Don't be afraid to take risks...
     
  19. foodguy

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    short-term adaptability trumps long-term planning every time.
     
  20. mkarim

    mkarim Well-Known Member

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    The stock market is a huge casino that just uses our hard-earned money to fund the retirement s of brokers and market makers.
     

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