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How can I pull myself out of this self-induced rut?

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by robbie, Apr 19, 2009.

  1. sploosh

    sploosh Well-Known Member

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    Robbie I saw on your blog you had an idea of being a photojournalist for coke, try to see if that works.
     
  2. bawlin

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    I hope this was sarcasm, because it's always worth it to try and make yourself a better person.

    I'm talking about work skills. Go and speak to any career councillor and they will tell you the same thing - once you're in your 20's, it's time to exploit strengths.
     
  3. Connemara

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    I am just so intimidated by the idea of going back to a liberal arts college. I get overwhelmed, and feel I am taking 2-3 classes of no interest, and 1 maybe 2 with the smallest slivers of interesting course material.
    Not be harsh, but that's what college is. In large part it is about showing you can put up with a lot of bullshit and unnecessary crap. Unless you want to do a trade or something similar, I'd say suck it up and take the classes.
     
  4. GQgeek

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    Not be harsh, but that's what college is. In large part it is about showing you can put up with a lot of bullshit and unnecessary crap.

    Unless you want to do a trade or something similar, I'd say suck it up and take the classes.


    You have to at the very least be interested in the general field of your major. If you are not, it will be a miserable time. But ya, even within a major there are going to be things that you like and things that you do not like, and you just have to do them.
     
  5. whacked

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    You have to at the very least be interested in the general field of your major. If you are not, it will be a miserable time. But ya, even within a major there are going to be things that you like and things that you do not like, and you just have to do them.

    Robbie doesn't sound like he knows exactly what he wants to do/study for yet, in which case a LAC education is a great way to try out different things.
     
  6. nerdykarim

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    I really don't have any new perspective, but I'll mention car mechanic because it hasn't already been mentioned in this thread.

    I think it would be an awesome job to tinker with cars and fix them for people every day. Build up a good reputation as a car mechanic and get good referrals. Maybe fix up and sell some cars as a side job. I don't know what kinds of qualifications/schooling one would need to make that happen, but I think it would be awesome.

    Too bad I've already sold my soul to the man.
     
  7. Teger

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    Take loans and go to a state school like the majority of the country. There also are many, many financial aid programs and grants available.

    Edit: Also I would say move out of Omaha and move to a large city on the coast.
     
  8. needshoehelp

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    Lets see. You want a job that: requires little formal training; compensates you handsomely; and gives you a lot of free time to pursue your other interests. Let me break it to you: I'm not sure that job exists, at least not without a lot of luck, hard work, or both. You seem to want to take the easy way out. You have to work for things, and until you buckle down you can't expect very much in return.
     
  9. robbie

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    I think a handful have misunderstood me.

    I am not opposed to hard work.



    I really am just looking for ideas of jobs that pay better than retail (17k a year) , that I can do for the time being to be able to afford to go back to school. If this means saving up to go back, fine. If this means the job pays enough that I can afford to work fewer hours and take some classes, I am down for that too.

    I am not opposed to college, I just don't know if I learn as well in that setting as I might in some other one.

    Teger, I am not familiar with the east coast, and have only briefly visited CA and the Upper NW... I couldn't do either. It might not make sense, but people I encountered were of a completely different mentality than I feel I myself am. Nothing against those places or the people in them, I just don't feel they'd be a good fit for me. Thanks for the suggestion though, there is plenty of opportunity on the coasts I am sure.


    I do need to start to take more pictures of Coke lore I notice around. I doubt much of what I found interesting would really be of much interest to Coke... it never hurts to try though.

    Honestly though, what does a person like say Lynn Downey (levis) or Phil Mooney (Coca-Cola), historians/archivists study to get their jobs?
     
  10. Teger

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    take loans and get scholarships and go back to school. if you are broke you should be able to get some decent grants and some low interest loans. the majority of people who graduate college do so with some debt, it's not a huge deal. if you have some schooling see if you can transfer credit.

    also you can always go to community college for 2 years and then transfer. most community colleges are cheap, have good financial aid and have matriculation agreements with many 4 year schools that lets graduates with an associates transfer as a junior.

    those people are most likely professional historians with PHDs.

    the issue isn't that you're working retail, it's that you're working retail at target. that sucks, but I don't know if omaha in this economy is going to offer a better opportunity
     
  11. JohnnyLaw

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    I would recommend consulting a career counselor. Around here, every city and town has a local employment center where you can get all kinds of information on career options. They can help you find out what you want to do for a living and tell you what training you need and what to expect on the job market. They'll help you polish your resumÃ[​IMG] as well.
     
  12. Teger

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    also I'm 22 and I have no idea what I want to do with my life. I don't think anyone my age does (unless they are freaks). I know many people who at 22 thought they were going to be a lawyer, a banker or a doctor, and now they're something totally different 10 years later.

    i totally get how you're feeling, but there's lots of opportunity out there, you just need to reach out and grab it

    fyi: once you are married you can file a FAFSA (free financial aid document from the federal government) as an independent couple, and if you both are pretty broke, you are almost GUARANTEED a full ride..
     
  13. robin

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    Maybe you could be a life coach.
     
  14. thekunk07

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    i'm not being a dick, but start boning for chrissakes. if it wasn't for vag, i'd still be on my mom's couch.

    and why don't you just get shitty grades and struggle through college and finish, and then learn a trade. college opens doors, and before long, no one will give a shit what your GPA was/is, but the paper itself will open doors. that you don;t "do well in school" is pretty lame. also, you'd need to throw yourself into a trade. being an a-man/master craftsmen takes the same kind of dedication excelling in school does.
     
  15. Teger

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    also when you say you don't do well in school that seems like a cop out/excuse. if you want to succeed, you put the effort in and study and do well. you don't need a 4.0 GPA, but if you aren't pulling better than like a 2.5, then you just arent trying...
     
  16. thekunk07

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    have to continue, here sorry.

    believe me, the world conspires against you, so don;t conspire against yourself. i don't have the world by the balls by any stretch, but i make a very nice living, have a solid house, a great wife and kids. statistically, none of this should have happened. i grew up with a single mom who i love dearly but was/is screwy as shit, no father, in a kinda crappy neighborhood with no money at all. didn't have a vacation til i got married. couldn't take karate, piano, even afford little league uniform. if not for my grandparenmts, i';d have no education at all-they paid for catholic school as i was zoned for the worst high school in nyc. sorry for the feeling sorry for myself, but i have a point here.

    i dropped out of college a week into freshman year because i didn't think i deserved or was entitled to any modicum of higher achievement. took a security job for $8/hr. 6 months later, i went back to school, and realized i could do better and did deserve better.

    believe me, do something now or you will perpetuate the cycle and your eventual children will be in the same boat. you owe it to yourself to do better.
     
  17. clee1982

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    It's ok not to know what you want to do, but you have to explore, and by not going to college, you already limited yourself. You will never find out if you're interested in something if you didn't try. Also you will never know if you truly love it until you had to pull your brain and guts out for it.

    Why don't you try community college in something that you're at least remotely interested in. If you do very well in community college, you might just end up going to a 4 years school after 2 years and got the rest 2 years with full scholarship. I definitely knew people who have done it. I am not saying you have to go to college, but you should know that will always be a frustrating limiting factor in the beginning.

    Sure, 10 years down the line, no one will care, but today, at least as something to knock on the door, it will.
     
  18. JohnnyLaw

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    Do something, but don't rush into it without thinking things out first. You'll just end up with more debt and a job you hate.
     
  19. JayJay

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    i'm not being a dick, but start boning for chrissakes. if it wasn't for vag, i'd still be on my mom's couch.

    and why don't you just get shitty grades and struggle through college and finish, and then learn a trade. college opens doors, and before long, no one will give a shit what your GPA was/is, but the paper itself will open doors. that you don;t "do well in school" is pretty lame. also, you'd need to throw yourself into a trade. being an a-man/master craftsmen takes the same kind of dedication excelling in school does.

    QFT
     
  20. edinatlanta

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    I don't think my view of the military and their business would make me a viable candidate for service.

    Then try the Coast Guard.

    I appreciate all the suggestions so far.

    I have tried looking into some volunteer work Jonathan. I do a little with my church, but really need to look into something involving Adult Literacy. I worked with several functional illiterates, and it really pained me to see them trying to make sense of instructions, ordering food at lunch etc.

    Thanks for the reminder man.

    Keep the suggestions coming by the way, I really do appreciate them.


    Sounds like you might have a "calling."

    have to continue, here sorry.

    believe me, the world conspires against you, so don;t conspire against yourself. i don't have the world by the balls by any stretch, but i make a very nice living, have a solid house, a great wife and kids. statistically, none of this should have happened. i grew up with a single mom who i love dearly but was/is screwy as shit, no father, in a kinda crappy neighborhood with no money at all. didn't have a vacation til i got married. couldn't take karate, piano, even afford little league uniform. if not for my grandparenmts, i';d have no education at all-they paid for catholic school as i was zoned for the worst high school in nyc. sorry for the feeling sorry for myself, but i have a point here.

    i dropped out of college a week into freshman year because i didn't think i deserved or was entitled to any modicum of higher achievement. took a security job for $8/hr. 6 months later, i went back to school, and realized i could do better and did deserve better.

    believe me, do something now or you will perpetuate the cycle and your eventual children will be in the same boat. you owe it to yourself to do better.


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