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Houses with 'No Shoe' Rules

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by RSS, Aug 25, 2011.

  1. james_timothy

    james_timothy Well-Known Member

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    Same here. I've visited people in lots of states and countries and except for Asian countries, I've never, ever been asked to remove my shoes.
     
  3. caxt

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    Perhaps this is true South of Ocala, but ironically I happen to reside in North Florida.
    (Almost South Georgia but still.)
    And it is to that region I am referencing - where it is certainly not the “norm.”
     
  4. teddieriley

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    I wonder how well this would have gone over on Christmas Eve going to my gf-at-the-time's aunt and uncle's fairly new house (who have always been nice and kind to me) for dinner and holiday celebration. Yah I was wearing my Chan suit. While I didn't prefer the idea of taking off my shoes considering my get up. I quickly got over it. Thinking that they should go to hell was the farthest thing from my mind. I mean, really?
     
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  5. Wes Bourne

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    Perhaps there is. What shoes were you wearing when you were in Orinda? Your bespoke joints or some offensive rtw JLP beaters?
     
  6. james_timothy

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    The southernmost state in the Union is Hawaii.

    I'm aiming at a certain thread of provincialism running through the thread, not necessarily best embodied in your writing.... but since we're talking...
     
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    hmmmmm...........it's sure to raise some hackles, but I do wonder if we might find the custom of removing shoes within the house to be more predominent in more suburban and rural areas than in urban areas.

    And at the risk of being truly controversial I wonder about the predominence of the custom based on various socio/economic strata as well. Although in America political correctness causes us to deny the existence of class structures and their associated social mores. So this may not be something we can chat about in this format without it degrading rapidly into hostility.

    :wow: :stirpot:
     
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    I was wondering where everybody had gone!
     
  9. Gdot

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    I scared 'em off Dig........nobody can 'shut down a thread' like me.

    It's a gift, what can I say?

    :bigstar:
     
  10. lefty

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    I usually ask guests to remove one shoe and insist they hop around all night. But I let them decide which foot to use.

    lefty
     
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  11. james_timothy

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    Love that.

    Hey, its Friday night. Some of us do have lives, after all.

    Hey Caxt, I think I'm not giving your writing enough credit- I'll re-read it later.

    Gdot- I'd say it has more to do with traditions then socio-economic class; having said that I've never lived deep in a 10 million person city.

    The provincialism that I'm pushing back against is really just poor attempts to universalize widespread local traditions into rules to be universally applied (or to be agahst at their breaking); the sensible writing is filled with exceptions, context, and graciousness, a smooth cosmopolitanism that has seen it all and deals with the person and the situation as it comes.
     
  12. Monaco

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    Damn, 12 page discussion on taking off your shoes in others' homes.

    I grew up wearing no shoes in the house and always do so when at other peoples homes. I see no point in dragging disgusting crap from outside into a place where you live. This is why I hate letting phone/internet guys in the house to do their work, I cringe at their every step.
     
  13. lanbexx

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    *sigh* wow, I honestly can not believe this thread.

    Disclaimer: I am Asian and have grown up with this practice all my life. I do it pretty much anywhere.

    People are claiming to be offended over something as small as being asked to take off their shoes. Something that takes half a minute to do and barely inconveniences you. Perhaps its just my upbringing but I've never considered my place as a guest being so much higher than the host's. The host has been nice enough to invite me to their house and make sure I am comfortable in their own home. I have been invited, it's not like they have to suffer my company. Would you be offended if they chose foods you didn't like? Offended, not just dislike. Additionally, you say that you know your shoes are clean when you walk in the house. But in my experience there's always been that one person, sometime, who had some sort of shit lodged into his shoe and got it onto the floor. We wouldn't regularly rub our clothes on the ground outside, even if the ground is "clean" why would you do it with your shoes?

    I echo other people's thoughts, where do you live? What place do you live in that you are so sure of the cleanliness of the surrounding environment that you are willing to risk other people's carpets? Yes, carpets need to be cleaned, its a fact of life. That doesn't mean you should speed up the process. If you're afraid of germs, thats what socks are for. Otherwise, its worrying about the dust and little bits of rocks that are inevitably stuck on your shoes.

    I personally find life a lot more comfortable without shoes inside the house. It lets me throw my feet on the couch without worrying about scraping it or damaging it.

    If the sheer fact that your outfit is ruined due to your lack of shoes, get your stick out of your ass and relax a little. And if you're offended just being requested to take off your shoes to enter someone else's home, that says a lot more about you than it does about them.
     
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    Yes it does. I remember when i was small i went to my friends place and his dad would sleep blanket and all with his work boots still on.
     
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    Then again ... the southern most state isn't actually Florida.
     
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    All I recall is that they were bluchers ... on both occasions. As one occasion was an indoor/outdoor event ... there was a lot of lacing and unlacing. As I noted in a previous post, at some point I found myself on the back terrace in socks ... which I would imagine defeated the purpose of their 'no shoe policy.'

    I'm not famililar with JLP beaters.
     
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    No, I don't live in an "ethnic enclave" - although my experience of householders taking shoes off before they walk around the house has been largely consistent irrespective of ethnicity.
     
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    Can't believe this thread has gone on this long without a mention of this:

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  19. Saturdays

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    My parents and all of their friends are like this. No Shoes in the house.

    I usually defy the rules of my parents and wear my shoes in the house and let my friends as well, but they usually take them off because they are so used to it.

    Its funny how everyone from the Middle-East and South Pacific/Asia thinks shoes in the home is like a sin, yet where they live you would always wear something. My family's relatives overseas all wear their shoes/sandals in their houses.
     
  20. impolyt_one

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    People who have asked me to take my shoes off before entering their home have been of all ethnicities and cultures, it's not an Asian/Middle Eastern thing exclusively. In high school many black friends lived in homes where they'd tell me to take off my shoes before going inside, they kept their houses very clean. My aunt is German and they do the same thing, and keep their house clean as well. My grandmother is a typical old white lady who lives in Ohio, and she makes us take off our shoes, and also keeps the front door locked all the time and makes us leave our shoes in the garage and come in through the kitchen in the back.

    I will say that people whose homes I've visited, who didn't take off their shoes inside their own homes, usually had grimy houses that I did not enjoy visiting. They often had unpleasant smells and were visibly dirty.
     

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