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Handshakes

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Tck13, Mar 9, 2006.

  1. Tck13

    Tck13 Well-Known Member

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    I don't quite get when I should be shaking someone's hand (especially women). What is some proper etiquette?

    I am clear about the regular stuff; firm handshake, look at other person (in eyes), not clammy, but what about shaking a woman's hand? When is that appropriate? What if it is someone I am attracted to - would she think I am a weirdo if I shake her hand (as it should be up to her if she wants to extend her hand to me)? Do women regard handshaking the same as men?

    I read somewhere that one shouldn't shake a woman's hand unless she extends it. That seems a bit old fashioned and (especially in business) should it matter if one is shaking hands with a man or woman?

    In addition, what about friends or strangers? With good friends, it seems almost silly to shake their hands everytime I see them but if we don't see each other for a while it seems to re-aquaint us.

    I have also read that it is rude not to shake someone's hand if it is extended, even if you don't like the person.
     
  2. shellshock

    shellshock Well-Known Member

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    hmm... i extend my hand when i meet people. i dont shake peoples hands every time i see them. and i HATE when guys give me a weak handshake and they do the turn thing so your hand is like to the side, just cause i'm a girl. its gross. i mean you dont have to do the superman grip of steel and crush my hand, but just a NORMAL handshake is just fine thanks. [​IMG]
     
  3. Pink22m

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    Interesting avatar, shellshock.[​IMG]
     
  4. whoopee

    whoopee Well-Known Member

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    Refusing to shake a proferred hand is obviously rude.

    I do not impose a handshake upon women in social situations. This may be out dated.

    Friends either get nothing, a hug, or a light kiss. A handshake for some manly finality on occassion. These days some sort of hand clasp seems common among men.
     
  5. Tokyo Slim

    Tokyo Slim Well-Known Member

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    I like to punch new people in the mouth instead of shaking their hands. Not because I am angry or hate them, but to teach them a life lesson. Strangers are dangerous. With flesh eating disease, ebola, bird flu, faux-thugs, frat boys, wiggers, nazi's, those to the far left or right, rapists, gay people who think they are straight, people in the under 20k income bracket, people with rough hands, people who wear socks with sandals, people who listen to boy bands, fast food employees, and people who don't sanitize themselves after they use the restroom, you never can be too careful.

    I didn't punch Shellshock in the mouth when I met her but she looked relatively clean. Plus I was afraid of chipping a nail.
     
  6. Alter

    Alter Well-Known Member

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    I missed you, Slim. Hope you have been well.

    I like to punch new people in the mouth instead of shaking their hands. Not because I am angry or hate them, but to teach them a life lesson. Strangers are dangerous. With flesh eating disease, ebola, bird flu, faux-thugs, frat boys, wiggers, nazi's, those to the far left or right, rapists, gay people who think they are straight, people in the under 20k income bracket, people with rough hands, people who wear socks with sandals, people who listen to boy bands, fast food employees, and people who don't sanitize themselves after they use the restroom, you never can be too careful.

    I didn't punch Shellshock in the mouth when I met her but she looked relatively clean. Plus I was afraid of chipping a nail.
     
  7. Tokyo Slim

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    I missed me too... I just couldn't bring myself to post anything fun on AAAC.
     
  8. operationexpat

    operationexpat Well-Known Member

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    I live in China. I try to avoid shaking hands since soap in bathrooms seems to be an alien concept.

    Sara
     
  9. faustian bargain

    faustian bargain Well-Known Member

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    slim that's an old-school avatar...couple years at least.
     
  10. Tokyo Slim

    Tokyo Slim Well-Known Member

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    Yeah, its like a new beginning!

    My hair is like a foot and a half longer than that now.
     
  11. shellshock

    shellshock Well-Known Member

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    I didn't punch Shellshock in the mouth when I met her but she looked relatively clean. Plus I was afraid of chipping a nail.

    damn right
     
  12. Tck13

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    I like to punch new people in the mouth instead of shaking their hands. Not because I am angry or hate them, but to teach them a life lesson. Strangers are dangerous. With flesh eating disease, ebola, bird flu, faux-thugs, frat boys, wiggers, nazi's, those to the far left or right, rapists, gay people who think they are straight, people in the under 20k income bracket, people with rough hands, people who wear socks with sandals, people who listen to boy bands, fast food employees, and people who don't sanitize themselves after they use the restroom, you never can be too careful.

    I didn't punch Shellshock in the mouth when I met her but she looked relatively clean. Plus I was afraid of chipping a nail.


    Ummm. That wasn't the answer I was expecting. Do you have trust issues?

    I am curious, are you from Tokyo? I have never been there but is it true that one shouldn't look into another's eyes when greeting as it is considered offensive?

    hmm... i extend my hand when i meet people. i dont shake peoples hands every time i see them. and i HATE when guys give me a weak handshake and they do the turn thing so your hand is like to the side, just cause i'm a girl. its gross. i mean you dont have to do the superman grip of steel and crush my hand, but just a NORMAL handshake is just fine thanks. [​IMG]

    I understand you can't speak for all women but... A general consensus of women might be that a handshake upon meeting is normal?

    Funny, I just spoke to a customer and she shook my hand.
     
  13. Huntsman

    Huntsman Well-Known Member

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    Yeah that avatar rules, Tokyo.

    ~ Huntsman
     
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    I am curious, are you from Tokyo? I have never been there but is it true that one shouldn't look into another's eyes when greeting as it is considered offensive?


    It isn't offensive. It's just difficult to maintain eye contact while bowing.
     
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    Tck13 Well-Known Member

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    It isn't offensive. It's just difficult to maintain eye contact while bowing.


    I think I like bowing better than handshaking.
     
  16. Etienne

    Etienne Well-Known Member

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    I don't quite get when I should be shaking someone's hand (especially women). What is some proper etiquette?
    Where I live the real question is whether to kiss or not. You kiss your family and close friends (both genders). You kiss a woman, even stranger, unless it is a very formal setting.* You shake hands the rest of the time.

    I had forgotten how different some other cultures are with body contact, and collected a few raised eyebrows the last time I've been in the UK, a couple weeks ago.

    *: "you" is meant in a general sense here, not only "me because I am a man" - I really mean that women kiss men and women, whereas men kiss women but shake hands with men
     
  17. globetrotter

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    I live in China. I try to avoid shaking hands since soap in bathrooms seems to be an alien concept.

    Sara


    wait until you get to india, Sarah
     
  18. Renault78law

    Renault78law Well-Known Member

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    Yeah that avatar rules, Tokyo.

    ~ Huntsman

    Word.
     
  19. Renault78law

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    Where I live the real question is whether to kiss or not. You kiss your family and close friends (both genders). You kiss a woman, even stranger, unless it is a very formal setting.* You shake hands the rest of the time.
    Brings up a good point. As an American, I've never really mastered this one. Is it a real 'lip on cheek' kiss? Or more 'cheek on cheek'? And I know you're supposed to pucker, but are you supposed to make a noise? Like a real kiss sound, or just a 'muah'? I'm being serious, I always wondered these things...
     
  20. Vintage Gent

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    Brings up a good point. As an American, I've never really mastered this one. Is it a real 'lip on cheek' kiss? Or more 'cheek on cheek'? And I know you're supposed to pucker, but are you supposed to make a noise? Like a real kiss sound, or just a 'muah'? I'm being serious, I always wondered these things...

    The protocol is really quite simple. Bring your lips to the side of the intended's face, open your mouth and lick from the jawbone to just under the eye. Hope that helps.
     

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