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Good Natured Advice Thread (improving a business wardrobe)

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by Claghorn, Jan 6, 2014.

  1. Monkeyface

    Monkeyface Well-Known Member

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    There's your problem. My GF was grumpy/sad when she didn't know anyone in London. I was at work all day, and she was just studying by herself all day. Little issues suddenly become very big issues.

    Just think of this: when you come home from work, you'll probably be the first person she sees that day.

    Something as innocent as buying a tie or being on SF for 15mins can suddenly become a big issue, even if you spend just as much money or more for her. It's not really about the money, it's about the attention. Even doubly so because she moved to a different country, being entirely dependent on you, because she doesn't know anyone else. I can imagine that must be quite scary for her.

    Having friends solves this issue.

    EDIT: What SB said.
     
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  2. SeaJen

    SeaJen Well-Known Member

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    I third this. My first wife came to the US with me and never acclimated (whereas I clearly have, since this is supposed to be acclimatized!). She refused to try and pined endlessly for home, which is precisely where she ended up. Before the end, though, it was a steady decline into misery for both of us and one where I sought refuge at work (pursuing tenure can do that anyway) and where she sought refuge at the bottom of a bottle (both wine and pill).

    A cautionary tale.
     
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  3. The Noodles

    The Noodles Well-Known Member

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  4. in stitches

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    Noodles, it does not behoove you to even consider the actions of Mrs. Clags, or Mrs. Anyone else, in regards to the matter.

    All you need to do is make the situation work for you and Mrs. Noodle. Your distinct personalities and interests are all that should matter when working it out, which I am sure you will do successfully.
     
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  5. TM79

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    I agree, and I'd tread lightly with the "give all the attention she wants" statement as that can lead to issues like co-dependency and other things.

    A balance needs to be struck - simple as that. Can't all be flowing one way. One person ends up resenting the other.
     
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  6. MGoCrimson

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    +1 to everyone saying she needs to get out of the house and have her own friends/life.

    You guys aren't two halves to a whole, but two wholes that have come together to make something greater.

    ^corny
     
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  7. Monkeyface

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    Since this is somewhat of a wardrobe planning thread, these will probably be my purchases over the next 2-3 years, in no particular order.

    Considering I'm living in London, where flannel is a 3-season fabric, is there anything I'm missing or you'd do differently? All suits will be SB, notch lapels, 3 roll 2, barchetta chest pocket. I'm aiming for versatility, where ideally the jacket and trousers could be worn separately. The Forest green one could end up being a brown donegal one, but I think green might look better on me.

    1) Forest Green Donegal tweed suit, patch pockets
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    2) Grey Donegal tweed suit, patch pockets (already started on this one).
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    3) Minnis 306 Navy Flannel suit, patch pockets
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    4) Minnis 302 Grey Flannel suit, flap pockets
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    5) Minnis 511 Grey Fresco suit, flap pockets
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    6)Minnis 520 Airforce Blue Fresco suit, patch pockets
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  8. Murlsquirl

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  9. in stitches

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    Indeed. I wish I could plan purchases out to 2-3 years. Once I get something in my mind to buy it needs to happen yesterday.
     
  10. sugarbutch

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    I hope your children have better impulse control than you do, Steeeeeeeeechy.
     
  11. kulata

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    Your wife needs a baby. Do it!!! :D
     
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  12. Murlsquirl

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    That is the worst advice in the history of SF, Kulata.
     
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  13. TM79

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    Haha - yeah, that's for sure the missing link when it comes to Noodles having more spending freedom!
     
  14. sugarbutch

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    I agree, Murl, but it would keep her occupied... :)
     
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    Awww, a little Doodals...
     
  16. Murlsquirl

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    So would a puppy and you can give those away if you don't like them.
     
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  18. archibaldleach

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    Noodles, find some interesting classes to take / charities to get involved with. Do some with the wife, let her check out some others on her own. Being around a bunch of people with common interests is a great way to make new friends (friends who will probably help keep your wife sane when she is in grad school and can hang out with people other than her classmates who won't be able to shut up about whatever it is they are studying).
     
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  19. in stitches

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    They seem to so far, but they are yet young. Hopefully they take after their mom in this regard.


    That is the truest post in the history of SF. And I am a huge advocate for making babies. Not just going through the motions, but actual baby making.


    I lol'ed
     
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  20. The Noodles

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