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Good Natured Advice Thread (improving a business wardrobe)

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by Claghorn, Jan 6, 2014.

  1. sugarbutch

    sugarbutch Well-Known Member

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    It seems to me that an overcoat might be the place to go a bit wild. You're unlikely to be conducting business in it, and you wear it only in transition. I like it.
     
  2. Pliny

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    Opinion about this tie anyone? (it's cashmere)
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  3. Coxsackie

    Coxsackie Well-Known Member

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    Nice tie. Inappropriate for CBD but could be great in winter fits with odd jackets, 3-piece tweed/textured suits etc. Strikes a mean between rustic (texture) and formal (colour and pattern).
     
  4. Pliny

    Pliny Well-Known Member

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    cheers Cox- Actually this is a bit of a 'Cox's hlelp me make up my mind to buy it Thread' type deal.
    You know, the tie is very you when I think about it. Earthy, textured.
     
  5. Pliny

    Pliny Well-Known Member

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    I just bought it. Your work is done. [​IMG]
     
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  6. TM79

    TM79 Well-Known Member

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    I don't mind straying from traditional overcoats. I just don't care for that one in particular (to give a non-joking response).
     
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  7. in stitches

    in stitches Well-Known Member

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    If you are gonna wear that coat, thats the way to do it I guess.


    NIce pick up.

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    Cox, from left, 2, 5, 7, 10, are my faves.
     
  8. The Noodles

    The Noodles Well-Known Member

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  9. in stitches

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    I would say to put the kibosh on kops for a month minimum and try not to be on SF too much when you are around her. The initial shock has clearly not worn off yet.

    You can buy her all the Prada in the world, she will still be mad about your kops and indulgence of SF. Just peel back a little on SF time that she would notice and hold off on kops.

    I bet if you do that for a month and then slowly increase to a level that is not insane it will be ok.
     
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  10. WeakMonday

    WeakMonday Well-Known Member

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    For me... I just started teaching my wife about the different qualities and compositions of fabrics, and told her about the lines of the suit (shoulder line and outer sleeve line, and silhouette in general) and how they were rather important. She didn't get it at first but now after a few pictures and seeing me in the Neapolitan suits vs Chinese she understood.

    When we go shopping for her stuff now she likes to feel the different fabrics and try to guess at their composition haha.

    Also I let her play a part in the process of ordering stuff. We had a rather long argument where to place my initials on the shirts... I preferred it on the chest, but she wanted it on the cuffs so people could see (which I felt was rather indecent... she ended up winning this argument)... but now that I see them they're pretty nice if a bit flashy haha.
     
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  11. The Noodles

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  12. in stitches

    in stitches Well-Known Member

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    Yes. Zip it and your chances of BnT are going to increase exponentially.
     
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  13. EliodA

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    Well, my wife is a professional fashion designer and an absolute perfectionist in her work, so I'm fairly certain that she can at least partially understand what is going on around here. Then again, two days ago, I was browsing SF while she was sitting next to me with her ipad, when I came across a post with a pic of one of @Patrick R 's superb Despos suits. I couldn't help exclaiming "Wow, look at that!" She barely looked up and I explained: "Look at that suit!" She kept looking at me with an expression that looked suspiciously like "Why did I marry that nerd?"
    On the spending front, since she's literally buying clothes on a daily basis due to her profession, I don't have to justify my purchases. Problem is, after she's done with hers, there usually isn't much left to spend [​IMG]
     
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  14. The Noodles

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  15. Patrick R

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    I would say a few things:

    1) I personally believe that clothing purchases should be negligible to the budget. If you are spending so much money that you need approval of purchases or you are raising the ire of a spouse, you have gone overboard.

    2) I don't believe "the best stuff" is a legitimate description of purchases being made for Mr. or Mrs. Noodles. That is not a criticism, but a reframing of the situation.

    3) "Stop being so childish. You can get what you want but you've had so many big purchases lately. You seem like you're addicted to this whole SF/Classic Menswear thing. You need to focus more on us."
    If this is a real statement from your wife and you aren't interested in blowing up your relationship, turn off the computer, walk away from the forum for a bit, and focus on more important things.
     
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  16. Patrick R

    Patrick R Well-Known Member

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    I would like this story better if your wife had the unbridled reaction to my pictures. [​IMG]
     
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  17. in stitches

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    Defo.

    Women tend to over state things and resort to hyperbole in general. Husband says that to wife, instant death. Wife says it to husband, he sighs, moves along, and waits for the situation to simmer down.

    Very stereotypical thing to say, I know, but its not like there is no truth to it.
     
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  18. EliodA

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  19. SeaJen

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    This sounds to me as though her reaction to your shopping/interest in menswear is merely the manifestation of something deeper. She doesnt feel like you are as invested in her and your relationship as you should be. Fix that and she wont care what else you are doing with your (spare) time and money.
     
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  20. The Noodles

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