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Getting married: What to wear?

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by panorama, Jun 11, 2010.

  1. panorama

    panorama Member

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    This is my first post on here, so please go easy!

    I am going to be getting married in the next few months and am looking for some advice on what I should wear. I am not a big expert on suits and usually wear informal, progressive stuff in my free time, but I have started to take more of an interest in formal wear over the last few months.

    I am thinking that I would like to wear something slim fitting and traditional for the wedding. I am thinking of wearing a grey coloured suit. Would that be suitable for a wedding? What kind of shade would be most suitable?

    I was looking at some Kurt Geiger loafers that I liked. A friend has also showed me a few Church brogues. They look great, but I consider brogues to be more of a work shoe...

    I will have more questions later, but would appreciate any suggestions now. I guess I am just as interested in "dress etiquette" for wedding wear, as much as style/co-ordination tips...

    Once again, sorry if I appear as a clueless beginner, that is what I am but I've always been into other types of clothes. I now want to learn more about suits!
     
  2. Sander

    Sander Well-Known Member

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    A dark grey suit would be good I think, personally, I like navy better. I wouldn't wear loafers, they would be too casual for me for a wedding, why not wear an oxford?
     
  3. holymadness

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    I will refrain from being a total dick as I am developing something of a reputation.

    If you use the search function to look for threads about marriage and wedding attire, you will find dozens of topics that cover this already.

    If you stay on the forum for a few months and browse regularly, you will learn the basics of formalized dressing.

    If you start multiple threads like this you will gain enemies.
     
  4. SuitMyself

    SuitMyself Well-Known Member

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    This is my first post on here, so please go easy!

    I am going to be getting married in the next few months and am looking for some advice



    My advice is not to get married.
     
  5. Made in California

    Made in California Well-Known Member

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    My advice is not to get married.

    +1 - Don't do it!

    Choosing the wrong suit for the wedding might be a mistake, but one that can (and will) be forgotten. Not to mention it's one that most people won't care about. Taking this plunge- committing to this person- is going to be a mistake you're never going to forget, and so I think we should focus on that.

    What are the pros here? Like, what will you get out of marrying this person that you're not getting already?
     
  6. culverwood

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    I will refrain from being a total dick as I am developing something of a reputation.

    If you start multiple threads like this you will gain enemies.


    It's his first post for heavens' sake!

    Wear something you will be comfortable in and not too fashionable remember your grand-children will still see the pictures 50 years from now. A grey suit with a white shirt a smart tie and black loafers sounds fine to me though loafers covers a lot of ground I am assuming they are more at this end if the spectrum in black.
    http://www.gazianogirling.com/monaco.html
     
  7. panorama

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    If you start multiple threads like this you will gain enemies.


    I wasn't planning to do that...
     
  8. panorama

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    It's his first post for heavens' sake!

    Wear something you will be comfortable in and not too fashionable remember your grand-children will still see the pictures 50 years from now. A grey suit with a white shirt a smart tie and black loafers sounds fine to me though loafers covers a lot of ground I am assuming they are more at this end if the spectrum in black.
    http://www.gazianogirling.com/monaco.html


    The shoes are quite similar to those, though those are nicer!
     
  9. holymadness

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    +1 - Don't do it!

    Choosing the wrong suit for the wedding might be a mistake, but one that can (and will) be forgotten. Not to mention it's one that most people won't care about. Taking this plunge- committing to this person- is going to be a mistake you're never going to forget, and so I think we should focus on that.

    What are the pros here? Like, what will you get out of marrying this person that you're not getting already?

    See, now this is a dick. Here is a guy who not twenty-four hours ago started a thread to whine because he couldn't buy a gay periwinkle blazer made of rayon and "boning" that he saw on a tv show made for women aged 16-24. He is likely a girl-shy, pimpled-faced teenager and undoubtedly unfit to be dispensing either fashion or relationship advice.

    Congratulations on convincing someone to marry you. You must be quite pleased.


    It's his first post for heavens' sake!

    Wear something you will be comfortable in and not too fashionable remember your grand-children will still see the pictures 50 years from now. A grey suit with a white shirt a smart tie and black loafers sounds fine to me though loafers covers a lot of ground I am assuming they are more at this end if the spectrum in black.
    http://www.gazianogirling.com/monaco.html

    I wasn't too mean, I just believe in nipping problems in the bud. [​IMG]
     
  10. Astan

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    Depends on how traditional you want to be. rocking a morning suit or stroller would be the bee's knees but people probably wont get it.

    Yeah, dark suit, white shirt, dark tie, oxford shoes, done. Just make sure everything fits well, you dont want any drape on your suit for this kind of thing, actually you never want drape, I hate drape.
     
  11. culverwood

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    Mother of the bride/groom clothes from a wedding shop are almost without exception dire and overpriced. Just buy a smart dress or suit from somewhere you are used to and as you have said keep away from pastels and creams.
     
  12. Made in California

    Made in California Well-Known Member

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    Here is a guy who not twenty-four hours ago started a thread to whine because he couldn't buy a gay periwinkle blazer made of rayon and "boning" that he saw on a tv show made for women aged 16-24. He is likely a girl-shy, pimpled-faced teenager and undoubtedly unfit to be dispensing either fashion or relationship advice.

    Now this is being much more of a dick. Would you rather I be complaining about a blazer or a child separation dispute? Considering that the divorce rate is 50% here in the states, I hardly think I'm being cynical. I don't know whether OP resides here, but I believe I am correct in saying our divorce rate is higher than anywhere in the world. I don't know OP at all, so not having any extra info aside from that he's posting on a style forum, it's a coin flip as to whether they'll stay together.

    I also think it's safe to say that happy couples do not get divorced, while plenty of people stay in marriages where they are unhappy, so I also don't think it's a stretch at all to say that if you get married, odds are good that it will not end happily. My post is (sort of) joking in that I don't expect to convince OP of anything, however my questions were definitely not just trolling.

    If you don't know someone at all, have access to the same facts I do, and still advise them to get married with no extra knowledge, you are the one unfit to give relationship advice.

    Congratulations on convincing someone to marry you.

    And this is patronizing. I went off the assumption that OP was a charming guy who would have no trouble "convincing" someone to marry him.
     
  13. Martin Stall

    Martin Stall Well-Known Member

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    Son of a...!!!! What a thread!

    Totally off-topic, or maybe entirely not: I was told just yesterday that studies have shown that the chances of marriage enduring throughout life etc, is inversely proportional to the amount of money spent on the entire wedding day etc. So, as a (shoot myself in the foot) tailor, and a nice feller, I would say: Jeans. T-shirt. Burger for dinner. And lively very happily, and very ever after. Jeans and T can be replaced for a cheap and decent suit, but don't you dare get champagne with that burger. Cava, if you must have bubbles.
     
  14. Canal Directo

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    I will refrain from being a total dick as I am developing something of a reputation.

    If you use the search function to look for threads about marriage and wedding attire, you will find dozens of topics that cover this already.

    If you stay on the forum for a few months and browse regularly, you will learn the basics of formalized dressing.

    If you start multiple threads like this you will gain enemies.


    +1
    LURK MOAR n00bs!

    http://www.styleforum.net/showpost.p...9&postcount=17
    http://www.askandyaboutclothes.com/T...DINGATTIRE.htm

    http://www.styleforum.net/search.php?searchid=7499193
     
  15. MrDaniels

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    In the interest of helping the young man...


    A few things you need to consider:

    1) General formality of the wedding; are you getting married at the local cathedral and then having the reception at a huge ballroom, or are you getting married in someone's backyard?

    2) What is the bride wearing?
     
  16. gladhands

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    In the interest of helping the young man...


    A few things you need to consider:

    1) General formality of the wedding; are you getting married at the local cathedral and then having the reception at a huge ballroom, or are you getting married in someone's backyard?

    2) What is the bride wearing?


    This.

    Wear something timeless and flattering that suits the setting and day and also makes your wife happy. On a day-to-day basis, I put waayyyyy more thought and effort into my clothing than my wife does (I have to because, I don't have her beauty), but for the wedding, my only goal was to sport a look that complemented her.
     
  17. voxsartoria

    voxsartoria Well-Known Member

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    I will refrain from being a total dick as I am developing something of a reputation.

    Don't despair. I feel that you will soon be reassigned from unclaimed cadaver duties at rue Gabriel.


    - B
     
  18. Doxe

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    To the OP,

    Congratulations.

    If you are wearing a charcoal suit I would recommend wearing a "wedding" tie. See thread here on wedding ties: http://www.styleforum.net/showthread...t=wedding+ties

    My wedding advice is that you should get a suit that you are going to have occasion to wear again (i.e., not too fashion forward).

    My marriage advice is that you should take your wife to special events that require you to wear the suit.

    All the best [​IMG]
     
  19. panorama

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    In the interest of helping the young man... A few things you need to consider: 1) General formality of the wedding; are you getting married at the local cathedral and then having the reception at a huge ballroom, or are you getting married in someone's backyard? 2) What is the bride wearing?
    Thanks: 1: The wedding will be quite informal. In a hotel and then we will go have a meal. There will actually be two weddings, one in in Seoul, Korea and one in the UK. 2: The bride will be wearing a simple, classic white dress. She is very beautiful and well dressed. I assume she will look amazing. I am want to keep things pretty simple. I am thinking charcoal grey but want to get the details right. Would a light pink shirt be suitable for a wedding, or is that a no no? Are navy blue suits suitable for a wedding?
     
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