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Does anyone get mocked for over-dressing at work?

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by NeedStyleHelp, Jul 24, 2013.

  1. NeedStyleHelp

    NeedStyleHelp Well-Known Member

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    I know I said to keep the comments nice, but...

    Boy, I hope you have aspergers. Otherwise, there's no excuse for not detecting this sarcasm.

    You've come here trying to be a douche. Congratulations, you have succeeded. Now, if you have nothing more to say, go back to your pathetic life. Enjoy!
     
  2. BrooksLauren77

    BrooksLauren77 Well-Known Member

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    Do you work at Metro Hall by any chance?
     
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    [​IMG] My bad, I meant to say Toronto City Hall. My mother is a law clerk there (or somewhere else I'm not sure exactly) and she can get away with a T-shirt and khakis. She says the lawyers there aren't the best dressers either.
     
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    Honestly, keep doing it. It makes you who you are and what your seeing from others is their own lack of effort or style.

    I have this everyday when I go out and about doing banking, odd jobs etc here in the UK and I own my own tailoring company...and still get grief.

    Hold your head up high and you may find people start to follow you.
     
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    I say keep doing it as long as you dont come off as a pompous ass or an arrogant prick. If people still say something, just wear a sport coat, no tie, and nice chinos/wool pants.
     
  7. NeedStyleHelp

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    BrooksLauren77: No worries, but not there either. A lawyer at my work was wearing sneakers today.

    SuitRowCharles: Thanks for the encouragement. I think I'll tone down on the ties, although it gets rid of a fun element to incorporate.
     
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    With a suit? [​IMG] That's even worse than wearing a suit with square toe shoes. [​IMG]
     
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    [​IMG]
     
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    I haven't followed all the subsequent posts, but to the OP, I simply do not understand these threads.

    You need to work out whether you want to indulge what you "enjoy" or prioritise career development. If the latter, then why is this even a question? You should aim to fit in, be a team player, not risk being seen as putting on airs. For sure, dress well within the normal range for the workplace. But don't wear suits because it's what you enjoy.
     
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    The questioning comments almost always come from men and most of these conversations go something like this:

    Random guy: Why are you wearing that suit [or whatever] today?
    Me: Have you noticed that all of the hot women in the office go out of their way to talk to me when I wear a suit [or whatever]?
    Random guy: Ah!

    (I should mention that I'm an extremely senior guy who's fairly well-known in my industry. If I wasn't, then the comments about dressing to fit in definitely apply.)
     
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    Could also try taking it down a notch by sticking to patch pockets, soft shoulders, avoid french cuffs (or use silk knots), knitted tie. Well dressed without dressing like 'the boss'.
     
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    In my experience, subtleties like this are lost on almost everyone. A few weeks ago, I actually went out of my way to dress in a way that people here would think is fairly bad - a tie with no jacket, top button on the shirt unbuttoned, etc. And I received lots of toally non-sarcastic comments on how nice I looked. Just because I was wearing a &^%$#ing tie.

    To give an extreme example of this, I remember someone (a government employee, actually) giving me a hard time because of the cheap polyester suit that I was wearing when I was actually wearing a Zegna Napoli Couture XXX suit that probably cost more than the crappy car that the government employee drove. (Nothing against government employees, of course. I used to be one.)
     
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    If it's really bothering you that much, get a new job where they dress better. Maybe they will pay you more too. :)
     
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    +1.
     
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    That's the plan! I have no formal training as a doctor, but am willing to apprentice [​IMG]
     
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    It's funny how many people you see wear just a shirt and tie and think they are dressing stylish. It always results in a facepalm.

    I take no offence. Government employees are lazy, in most cases.
     
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    Like most old, trite adages, that's stupid advice. That's an easy to remember tip for drones. For reasonable people, making a show of yourself and rubbing your peers and immediate supervisors the wrong way isn't worth it. People who overdress generally don't have the social awareness or grace to balance things out and avoid giving the wrong impression (see OP's line of questions). They dress ackwardly because they are, you guessed it, ackward. You have to find the appropriate sweet spot.
     
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    I think this advice originated at a time when higher ups dressed better and it was important to be able to look the part to be seen as someone who could be promoted to a more senior level. There are a decent number of companies where employees tend to dress with a bit more rigour as they become more senior, so done correctly and with a good sense of awareness of one's surroundings, this advice can still be pretty good. There are ways to do this without rubbing people the wrong way too, IMO, though in an ultra-casual environment, wearing a suit everyday probably doesn't scream "promote me."
     

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