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Cheapness... What people would and won't do to save a few bucks...

Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by sonick, Jan 29, 2010.

  1. ratboycom

    ratboycom Well-Known Member

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    Shamefully, I used to go with a hippie girl back in college who didn't shave her legs and she thought Friendly's was great food and the Olive Garden was the height of fancy eating. I didn't know any better at the time so I happily paid for the all-you-can-eat-soup-and-salad special in order to get some action. I'm really not very proud of myself.

    Well, in my hometown the majority of girls think that OG/PF Changs/etc are the height of fancy eating. Means cheap dates, but damn thems are some trashy bitches. Of course these are the same girls that would only shop at abercrombie or Nordstrom if they were feeling extra rich.
    And people wondered why I liked to hang out with foreigners...
     
  2. BrianVarick

    BrianVarick Well-Known Member

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    Most of my family are very frugal. It annoyed me alot when I was growing up, but not so much anymore. One that pops into my head, is the fact that my parents have 4 grown children, but whenever we go on family trips, and need to stay in a hotel for a night or something, one or two of us need to sleep on the floor. Now my two older sisters both have jobs, and my younger sister and I are still in college. It's not a big deal though. They have money, but they choose to spend it on things that are important to them, and that's one of the reasons they actually have money, because they are thrifty. Everyone chooses to spend their resources in different ways.
     
  3. Milpool

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    I'm so cheap I that whenever I cook, I save all the little vegetable trimmings from onions, celery, mushrooms, carrots, etc in bags in my freezer. Same with the carcasses from chickens or turkey, bones from any bone-in roasts, ham bones, etc.

    Then, when I get enough, I make some kind of stock or soup with all that stuff.

    I'm trying to figure out what to do with potato peels. I watched a documentary about the people in Kentucky that still make moonshine, and apparently potato peels are good for that. I haven't come up with any other ideas yet.
     
  4. Risque

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    I haven't come up with any other ideas yet.
    Save up the vegetable scraps and use as compost to aid in growing vegetables. That's probably a more socially acceptable use of your trimmin's and giblets.

    Unless of course, you live in a flat, in which case you can use it as really earthy pot pourri.
     
  5. Thomas

    Thomas Well-Known Member

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    Didn't you just publicly admit to drinking Boone's Farm? and create a thread about it? You can't possibly call anyone cheap now.

    I did know a fellow in his 90's who went to McDonalds for breakfast so he could get the free coffee refills, read/steal the newspaper, and pocket a bunch of sugar packets. When he passed away, people cleaning out his house found dozens of plastic containers full of sugar packets.


    The Boone's Farm post was in DT, mi amigo. Don't Take it too seriously [​IMG]

    And, FWIW, I think most anyone north of - say - 75 tends to exhibit a miserly or exceedingly thrifty mentality, to an extent a product of the Great Depression. My wife's grandfather had a monstrously-large collection of fasteners and scrap metal, but even that paled in comparison with my dad's uncle - he had shipping containers (yes, plural) on his land that he turned into storage for all his tools, scrap metal, and fasteners. When he passes on, his sons will have a hell of a time sorting through it all.
     
  6. M. Bardamu

    M. Bardamu Well-Known Member

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    I stopped going out with some of my high school friends because I got sick of the bill arriving at last call, shortly to be followed by a litany of excuses ("I only got $20") and dumb, uncomprehending looks from the oafs who, inevitably, had drank the most.
     
  7. Faded501s

    Faded501s Well-Known Member

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    Hilarious, I know exactly what groupons you've got and which one's you've used. If the cognac class is for drinks over dearborn (I had a wine and scotch tasting class there), it's actually quite a bit of fun. Bespoke cuisine was a lot of fun too (hope you got the groupon for that, it's normally $80/person, down to $40 via groupon).

    Maybe we should go on a groupon double date, lol.


    LOL, Groupon rules. I'm sure the cognac class is at the same place you went to, OTB place called Stretch Run? I got 2 so I'll do the cognac and the scotch. What's really neat about it is that there's a lot of stuff I didn't even know existed (like a cognac class : ) I was 1/2 tempted to get today's stripper pole dancing class just to go and watch [​IMG] Seriously though, their offerings run the gamut and while I was a little leery at first, I've never had any problems with Groupon (or any of those deals) and actually sometimes seem to get "preferential treatment". From a marketing standpoint it's win-win-win. Honestly, I'm kind of disappointed that I didn't think of it 1st.

    wow, never heard of these. Any other special ones people know of for the los angeles area?

    I don't know how comparable it is to here but they've got Groupon in LA. Click here, buy something, and I get $10 [​IMG] Viral marketing...you gotta love it! The guy that started this thing is a genius.
     
  8. Listi

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    I'm so cheap I that whenever I cook, I save all the little vegetable trimmings from onions, celery, mushrooms, carrots, etc in bags in my freezer. Same with the carcasses from chickens or turkey, bones from any bone-in roasts, ham bones, etc. Then, when I get enough, I make some kind of stock or soup with all that stuff. I'm trying to figure out what to do with potato peels. I watched a documentary about the people in Kentucky that still make moonshine, and apparently potato peels are good for that. I haven't come up with any other ideas yet.
    I wouldn't consider that "cheap," in my mind cheap is tipping low, freeloading, complaining about the prices of things, and people who are unable to do something for someone without asking for compensation. Saving up all your leftovers and using them is a good practice, one we all should do except most don't. Asking someone to help you pay for gas when they offer to drive you to a restaurant is cheap. Leaving the waitress a 5% tip is cheap. Back when I was in high school I used to go out and get wings with a group of maybe 14 guys every Friday. One time someone had the suggestion that we do something nicer and go to Olive Garden. 4 people refused to go to Olive Garden because it is too expensive and requested that the rest of us not go. We went anyways and badmouthed them sporadically for being cheap bastards.
     
  9. bullethead

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    huge difference between thrifty and cheap. My parents grew up in WW2 and though they recycled everything at home till the day they passed, they were never cheap.

    One night I was drinking with some guys at pj clarkes. We knew the bartender and he gave us a favorable check, so naturally, we tipped heavy. One guy-who has more money than anyone in the group-decides to stay for one more to talk to this woman. As we walked out the door, my friend looked back and saw this guy peel two twenties off of the pile and put them in his pocket. What a fat fuck.

    If i find myself out drinking at the bar with a large group consisting of a couple of suspect cheapies I just open my own tab with the bartender. Keeps me from getting angry at the end of the night.
     
  10. tropics

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    I'm so cheap I that whenever I cook, I save all the little vegetable trimmings from onions, celery, mushrooms, carrots, etc in bags in my freezer. Same with the carcasses from chickens or turkey, bones from any bone-in roasts, ham bones, etc.

    Then, when I get enough, I make some kind of stock or soup with all that stuff.


    simple common sense imo. the stock you make yourself will be better and cheaper than almost any you can buy.
     
  11. acidboy

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    a good friend of mine was practically ostracized from his clique when the group decided to buy another friend of theirs a mid-priced bottle of wine and they were like 4 or 5 springing for the bottle... my friend refused to give his share since he says he does not drink anyway.
     
  12. Listi

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    a good friend of mine was practically ostracized from his clique when the group decided to buy another friend of theirs a mid-priced bottle of wine and they were like 4 or 5 springing for the bottle... my friend refused to give his share since he says he does not drink anyway.
    If some people weren't so goddamn tightfisted they'd realize that the enjoyment from money comes not from hoarding it and spending it on things for yourself but from spreading the wealth and having good times. He deserve to be ostracized in my opinion.
     
  13. acidboy

    acidboy Well-Known Member

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    well I have another friend who, years ago, was having dinner with his parents and siblings. in the middle of dinner he asked to be excused and his dad asked why and he said his car's parking fee is for two hours and he doesn't wanna pay more than that. suffice to say his dad whipped out his wallet, and angrily placed parking money in front of him.
     
  14. Gradstudent78

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    Saving up all your leftovers and using them is a good practice, one we all should do except most don't. Asking someone to help you pay for gas when they offer to drive you to a restaurant is cheap. Leaving the waitress a 5% tip is cheap.

    Depends on if it equates with the service being offered. I don't think I've ever left a 5% tip but I have left a 10% one when the service has been bad. I don't really consider that cheap, I'm more then happy to leave 20% or higher if I think the service was worth it.
     
  15. VKK3450

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    Back when I was in high school I used to go out and get wings with a group of maybe 14 guys every Friday. One time someone had the suggestion that we do something nicer and go to Olive Garden. 4 people refused to go to Olive Garden because it is too expensive and requested that the rest of us not go. We went anyways and badmouthed them sporadically for being cheap bastards.

    I dont mind if someone says that a place is too expensive for them. Olive Garden aside, in London there are a lot of absurdly priced places and if someone either doesnt make enough or maybe doesnt like spending on what is frequently style over substance, it's not necessarily them being cheap.

    I dont like drinking at the Charlotte St hotel or the Ritz. Not because I am cheap, but because I dont think they are worth the price.

    K

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  16. Runningman411

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    Isn't cheapness all relative, though? For instance, it wasn't unusual to split the cost of a case of beer in college but I would never think of such a thing today. Yes, I make more money these days and some of my friends aren't as lucky. Should I consider them cheap if they can't spend like I can?

    Let's think about this another way. If you were invited by some super high net worth individual on his private jet to spend a week on his own private island, what would you be able to afford to return the favor? A $300 bottle of scotch may be considered cheap to him considering that your trip might have been worth $10,000.

    Sure, I understand that there are some folks that have/earn decent money and are cheap. I don't like those people either but there are many people that watch what they spend for legitimate reasons.
     
  17. Acephale

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    I choose to abide in a hat-box that is not even big enough for my shoe-boxes but in a great area rather than allocate two to three times the cost on somewhere slightly more spacious… However in doing so I have an excuse to blow the difference on a languorous weekend away in 5*star HotelLand and do frequently.

    Balance in extremes and appreciated all the more as in a way justified.
     
  18. Syl

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    Back in 01 I was working for a high tech company in another city (not my home town). I used to rent cars to drive back on weekends and get 3 other people to offset the costs. A rental, after taxes & gas, usually came up to ~$150 so I'd just say $40/person.
    One guy I worked with, after returning, on the monday, asked me to actually break out the costs individually and determine his costs i.e. the exact cost of the rental plus the amount I spent on gas etc. His costs came out to $39.xx (don't remember the cents amount).

    He then wrote me a cheque for the $39.xx. I never invited him again (and he had the gall to ask each time why I didn't).
     
  19. Hehlol

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    That is kind of being a 'stickler', which isn't just being cheap, but being a nuisance about it too - the worst of all.

    As a rule, for those of you who may not know, when you go out to dinner and the party is 5 people, split the bill 5 ways. If the party is 4 people, split the bill 4 ways. Do not begin to disect the check. I'm a waiter in the evenings and when I see people take out their calculators and begin to determine exactly how much they owe for 1/3rd of a meal and 2 glasses of wine it makes me wonder why anyone would want to go out to dinner with such stingy people.

    Split the damn bill so everyone pays the same, if your friends had more drinks this time, split it, because the next time when YOU have more drinks, you'll expect the same. It's a matter of friendship IMO.
     
  20. sonick

    sonick Well-Known Member

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    Isn't cheapness all relative, though? For instance, it wasn't unusual to split the cost of a case of beer in college but I would never think of such a thing today. Yes, I make more money these days and some of my friends aren't as lucky. Should I consider them cheap if they can't spend like I can? Let's think about this another way. If you were invited by some super high net worth individual on his private jet to spend a week on his own private island, what would you be able to afford to return the favor? A $300 bottle of scotch may be considered cheap to him considering that your trip might have been worth $10,000. Sure, I understand that there are some folks that have/earn decent money and are cheap. I don't like those people either but there are many people that watch what they spend for legitimate reasons.
    There's a difference between cheapness, affordability and thriftiness. Cheapness is when you can actually AFFORD something, but do not; oftentimes at the expense of comfort, time, or the expense of others (as with bar tabs, cab rides, etc. that some have described here.) Perhaps they may spend exorbitantly on other items, but do not wish to spend a mere fraction of that on other things. Affordability is exactly what you said with the scotch example. This is socially understandable and fine by me. Thriftiness is like waiting for an item of clothing to go on sale before buying it, or saving up veggies and meat bones to make stock (this is even PREFERRED as you get better quality stock and soups than buying premade at the market), or perhaps using a coupon at a mid-end restaurant. You are not sacrificing anything (or at least not much) in order to save that money.
     

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