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A question re: wedding etiquette

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by bsyde82, Jun 8, 2009.

  1. bsyde82

    bsyde82 Well-Known Member

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    My sister's wedding is approaching and I'm a groomsman. My question is, is it ok to change out of my tux into a suit of my choice after the ceremony and picture taking w/ the bridal party has concluded?

    I'd rather spend the evening in my own suit rather than the inevitable men's wearhouse tux I'll be rockin' at the ceremony. Since I'm a groomsman by default (brother of bride), I feel like it might be ok as opposed to a situation where I'm one of a band of friends who does this. Obviously, I don't want to go against proper wedding etiquette. My sister is ok with it, but she's not the type to say no to something like this.

    Thoughts?
     
  2. videocrew

    videocrew Well-Known Member

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    Buy your own DJ. Don't forfeit this opportunity to score with bridesmaids/guests. Plus, everyone will be confused by the pictures from the reception (wasn't he wearing a tux? does he have a twin brother?)
     
  3. Gradstudent78

    Gradstudent78 Well-Known Member

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    I'd stick with the tux.
     
  4. Bird's One View

    Bird's One View Well-Known Member

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    I would not change clothes between the ceremony and reception unless the bride and groom were doing so.
     
  5. radicaldog

    radicaldog Well-Known Member

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    Just don't wear evening clothes to a wedding. Forget about American conventions, or you'll be missing the forest for the trees.
     
  6. Zenny

    Zenny Well-Known Member

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    I would stay in the tuxedo.
     
  7. 63f100

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    given I am in the throws of wedding planning myself my suggestion is wear what you are asked to wear. Wear it like it is the best bespoke suit you have ever worn. Your sister will love you for it.
    After all it is only one day of your life.

    cheers
    Bob
     
  8. GusW

    GusW Well-Known Member

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    If you are asked to be in the wedding, and you accept, you also accept the wardrobe. Just go with it and at your wedding you can choose what to wear.
     
  9. bowtielover

    bowtielover Well-Known Member

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    I wouldn't change clothes inbetween, you will probably be the oly one who dose which will stick you out like a sore thumb.
     
  10. davidrichards

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    given I am in the throws of wedding planning myself my suggestion is wear what you are asked to wear. Wear it like it is the best bespoke suit you have ever worn. Your sister will love you for it.
    After all it is only one day of your life.

    cheers
    Bob


    I agree - it's her show, not yours.
     
  11. Warren G.

    Warren G. Well-Known Member

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    What shoes are you gonna wear? [​IMG] But yeah...like everyone said ; just wear the tux.
     
  12. Dr Huh?

    Dr Huh? Well-Known Member

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    You need to stay in the tux, sorry. There are usually different things that happen during the reception. For example there are often wedding party introductions. So the DJ will say your name and the bridesmaid you are escorting as you walk into the hall. If you're the only one not wearing a tux, it's going to look off. You might also be sitting at a specific table, and will then be on display.

    Also, knowing weddings, you won't have time to change anyway. It's a pretty tight schedule. Taking photos at the church (or hall), then probably driving to another location for the other photos (sometimes a park, or outside a historic looking building). As soon as they're done it's straight to the reception.
     
  13. acidboy

    acidboy Well-Known Member

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    what everyone said. its your sister's wedding- her rules.
     
  14. GBR

    GBR Well-Known Member

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    If it is daytime event convince her that tuxedos are not daytime wear - merely fancy dress before 1900.
     
  15. sanrensho

    sanrensho Well-Known Member

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    I'd rather spend the evening in my own suit rather than the inevitable men's wearhouse tux I'll be rockin' at the ceremony. Since I'm a groomsman by default (brother of bride), I feel like it might be ok as opposed to a situation where I'm one of a band of friends who does this. Obviously, I don't want to go against proper wedding etiquette. My sister is ok with it, but she's not the type to say no to something like this.

    Thoughts?


    You're selfish. So go ahead, change your clothes, get drunk and try to get laid. Weddings are great for that.
     
  16. porcelain monkey

    porcelain monkey Well-Known Member

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    If you are asked to be in the wedding, and you accept, you also accept the wardrobe. Just go with it and at your wedding you can choose what to wear.

    Yup
     
  17. Marciah

    Marciah New Member

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    Hi,

    Much of the etiquette surrounding weddings has to do with comporting oneself with a certain degree of dignity and respect. Another point of etiquette for groomsmen is that it is merely a matter of common courtesy to make any necessary reservations in a timely manner.
     
  18. munchausen

    munchausen Well-Known Member

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    "I'm a pallbearer at a funeral, but black suits are so 5 years ago..."

    Seriously, I love this forum, but the narcissism goes a bit too far sometimes.
     
  19. Mr Herbert

    Mr Herbert Well-Known Member

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    It seems a little backwards to wear a dinner jacket early in the day and then switch to a lounge suit later in the day. I was contemplating the opposite for my wedding (as i wanted to wear a dinner jacket but am getting married at 3pm) but then took 5 seconds of critical thought to realise that finding time to sneak off and change suits was both not going to happen but would also make me look like an incredible ponce.
     

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