I used to hang out by the bar all night too... Felt very uptight and self-conscious. I've always been into dance music and ended up going to more underground nights which played harder music, proper raves rather than clubs where people go to drink/hook up. Because of the atmosphere of openness and friendliness at those places (helped largely due to various drugs going around), I found it easy to open up and move with the music. I probably looked stupid but because everyone was too mashed, no-one cared. Now I find it's just confidence that comes from doing something. I have no skills as a dancer (pretty much just bounce along in time and move my arms around) but if I just look like I'm having a great time, most people don't mind. And more importantly, I don't care about the few that do mind. Also did about half a dozen Salsa lessons, that helped. Club dancing is very basic, so a couple of months of salsa + raving should bring you to a level above 90% of the people in a club.
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5/14/05 at 8:24am