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post #46 of 51
I used to hang out by the bar all night too... Felt very uptight and self-conscious. I've always been into dance music and ended up going to more underground nights which played harder music, proper raves rather than clubs where people go to drink/hook up. Because of the atmosphere of openness and friendliness at those places (helped largely due to various drugs going around), I found it easy to open up and move with the music. I probably looked stupid but because everyone was too mashed, no-one cared. Now I find it's just confidence that comes from doing something. I have no skills as a dancer (pretty much just bounce along in time and move my arms around) but if I just look like I'm having a great time, most people don't mind. And more importantly, I don't care about the few that do mind. Also did about half a dozen Salsa lessons, that helped. Club dancing is very basic, so a couple of months of salsa + raving should bring you to a level above 90% of the people in a club.
post #47 of 51
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I used to hang out by the bar all night too... Felt very uptight and self-conscious. I've always been into dance music and ended up going to more underground nights which played harder music, proper raves rather than clubs where people go to drink/hook up. Because of the atmosphere of openness and friendliness at those places (helped largely due to various drugs going around), I found it easy to open up and move with the music. I probably looked stupid but because everyone was too mashed, no-one cared. Now I find it's just confidence that comes from doing something. I have no skills as a dancer (pretty much just bounce along in time and move my arms around) but if I just look like I'm having a great time, most people don't mind. And more importantly, I don't care about the few that do mind. Also did about half a dozen Salsa lessons, that helped. Club dancing is very basic, so a couple of months of salsa + raving should bring you to a level above 90% of the people in a club.
Thanks. I've been going out the last few weeks, and yes, going to places where I'll be less of a "problem."  I just find the most crowded club on a given night and go there; nobody notices when it's a huge mass of bodies close together, so I can just "rock out." But yeah, it's all about the confidence, so I shouldn't care anyway.  And I'm definitely headed in that direction.
post #48 of 51
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I used to hang out by the bar all night too... Felt very uptight and self-conscious. I've always been into dance music and ended up going to more underground nights which played harder music, proper raves rather than clubs where people go to drink/hook up. Because of the atmosphere of openness and friendliness at those places (helped largely due to various drugs going around), I found it easy to open up and move with the music. I probably looked stupid but because everyone was too mashed, no-one cared. Now I find it's just confidence that comes from doing something. I have no skills as a dancer (pretty much just bounce along in time and move my arms around) but if I just look like I'm having a great time, most people don't mind. And more importantly, I don't care about the few that do mind. Also did about half a dozen Salsa lessons, that helped. Club dancing is very basic, so a couple of months of salsa + raving should bring you to a level above 90% of the people in a club.
If you look like you're having a good time, that's the best, really. So go out there and try to enjoy yourself. It's supposed to be fun, not an exercise in self-consciousness. (I know this is easier said than done if you're self-conscious.)
post #49 of 51
You know you all want to be Fred Astaire.
post #50 of 51
You know, a lot of women view a man dancing like people in foreign countries do tourists trying to speak their language: he's making an effort. I can't dance to save my life but I'm always graded passably because I make the effort to get out there and try it. That's probably more than half the battle right there. The secret? Don't worry about what other people think about your dancing. Trust me, a majority of people can't dance well. Unless you dance like Seinfeld's Elaine, most guys out there are just as self-conscious about their dancing as you are about yours.
post #51 of 51
I don't think anyone can save me when it comes to dancing. Oh well, at least I look good while at the bar or club.
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