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post #31 of 148
12/28/08 at 4:52pm
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Originally Posted by 8-Ball View Post
Yes, I have friends and go out on average of 2X a week I'd say. I have one friend who was great at talking to girls and he'd always do the legwork, but ever since he got involved in a serious relationship he doesn't approach the girls any more.

My main problem is that I really don't know how to talk to girls, but it's a little more than that. I don't really have anything in common with most of them and can't relate. Aside from finding a girl that is really into sex, I just don't feel like I bring much to the table for them. Again, it's a little more complex than that but hopefully that puts things into perspective a little bit. And I'm not (necessarily) looking to just go out and use women for sex. I've been really happy before in relationships but after a period of time my GF and I will find ourselves feeling distant from each other once the initial sex appeal wears off.

Stop talking about your career, might it be you're not a very interesting person outside of work? The first key to having conversation is understanding that your work is like your children, while you may and should find it quite interesting nobody else gives a fuck that young Tommy was great at piano lessons today. I'd work on developing interest outside of work, the rest will follow.
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post #32 of 148
12/28/08 at 4:59pm
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Stop talking about your career, might it be you're not a very interesting person outside of work? The first key to having conversation is understanding that your work is like your children, while you may and should find it quite interesting nobody else gives a fuck that young Tommy was great at piano lessons today. I'd work on developing interest outside of work, the rest will follow.
Um, I wasn't aware that I talked about my career too much with women nor do I remember saying that I did here in this post. I'm not entirely sure what you are talking about.
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post #33 of 148
12/28/08 at 5:01pm
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Um, I wasn't aware that I talked about my career too much with women nor do I remember saying that I did here in this post. I'm not entirely sure what you are talking about.
You did reference it a couple of times in this thread, not a good sign. I'm basically telling you that if you're not having interesting conversations with women it might be because YOU need to become more interesting. This is an outside of work and ever involving process.
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post #34 of 148
12/28/08 at 6:07pm
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You did reference it a couple of times in this thread, not a good sign. I'm basically telling you that if you're not having interesting conversations with women it might be because YOU need to become more interesting. This is an outside of work and ever involving process.
No I didn't say that. I said I had been focusing on my career (i.e. putting my time and emphasis into not, not necessarily talking about it with females). You made an incorrect assumption there.

I don't think I'm an inherently boring guy. I get along well with the guys and can almost always entertain them and be the center of attention. It's just that the stuff that us guys find interesting isn't always the same as it is for women.
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post #35 of 148
12/28/08 at 6:14pm
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No I didn't say that. I said I had been focusing on my career (i.e. putting my time and emphasis into not, not necessarily talking about it with females). You made an incorrect assumption there.

I don't think I'm an inherently boring guy. I get along well with the guys and can almost always entertain them and be the center of attention. It's just that the stuff that us guys find interesting isn't always the same as it is for women.

This is the best book I have read on women, what they want, what they are attracted to and, most importantly, WHY they want what they want and why they are attracted to certain qualities:

http://www.amazon.com/Without-Embarr...0498769&sr=1-1

This one is also very good:

http://www.amazon.com/How-Become-Alp...0498769&sr=1-2
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post #36 of 148
12/28/08 at 6:19pm
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I'd work on developing interest outside of work, the rest will follow.

This is CRUCIAL. Women rarely want to talk about work, their's or your's. When they socialize, they are looking to take a "break" from work and all the other boring, mundane things of a monotonous life.
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post #37 of 148
12/28/08 at 6:24pm
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This is the best book I have read on women, what they want, what they are attracted to and, most importantly, WHY they want what they want and why they are attracted to certain qualities:

http://www.amazon.com/Without-Embarr...0498769&sr=1-1

This one is also very good:

http://www.amazon.com/How-Become-Alp...0498769&sr=1-2


The first book sounds like a masterpiece:

"Automatic Female Submission is the Ultimate Goal

A man who knows how it's done can set off mating triggers buried deep within a woman's subconscious mind. Powerful instinctual forces will then compel her to submit to what she perceives to be a dominant male. Seduction becomes an enjoyable pastime that you can play at your leisure once you understand these principles."
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post #38 of 148
12/28/08 at 6:33pm
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The first book sounds like a masterpiece:

"Automatic Female Submission is the Ultimate Goal

A man who knows how it's done can set off mating triggers buried deep within a woman's subconscious mind. Powerful instinctual forces will then compel her to submit to what she perceives to be a dominant male. Seduction becomes an enjoyable pastime that you can play at your leisure once you understand these principles."

Seriously, it's a really good book that cuts through all the "outer game" BS and tells you in plain English exactly what women want and why they want what they want.

I would highly recommend it for the OP, he is the right target audience.
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post #39 of 148
12/28/08 at 6:38pm
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Originally Posted by mkarim View Post
Seriously, it's a really good book that cuts through all the "outer game" BS and tells you in plain English exactly what women want and why they want what they want.

I would highly recommend it for the OP, he is the right target audience.

Women aren't a collective, hopefully they want some dick and human connection, otherwise you're fucked, but aside from that, as sad as it sounds, you're on your own.
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post #40 of 148
12/28/08 at 6:41pm
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Women aren't a collective, hopefully they want some dick and human connection, otherwise you're fucked, but aside from that, as sad as it sounds, you're on your own.

Everyone comes from different backgrounds and has different experiences with women, both in terms of depth and variety. I just thought I may be able to guide the OP to resource(s) that are good and may help him in this aspect of his life.

Just like people have to be taught how to drive, how to fly, how to have table manners, etc. not everyone is born with knowledge about women. It seems the OP has a lot to offer otherwise...
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post #41 of 148
12/28/08 at 6:44pm
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Originally Posted by mkarim View Post
Everyone comes from different backgrounds and has different experiences with women, both in terms of depth and variety. I just thought I may be able to guide the OP to resource(s) that are good and may help him in this aspect of his life.

Just like people have to be taught how to drive, how to fly, how to have table manners, etc. not everyone is born with knowledge about women. It seems the OP has a lot to offer otherwise...

My point is somewhat more diffuse. I guess that what I'm saying is that he should work on the human connection part by making himself more interesting. It's not just about getting laid anyway but enjoying what life has to offer.
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post #42 of 148
12/28/08 at 9:11pm
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Originally Posted by likeitaloud View Post
Well you got the hard part about the looks, intelligence and money handled so you should work on your game. Lots of books that are really helpful, I recommend read the ones by "Mystery," lots of other good ones. They are very helpful in a sense that they teach you how to be initially compatible by acting the right way and talking about the right things. Will most likely do wonders for your confidence which you seem to lack.
I always figured you were a douchebag but I didn't remember why, now I know.
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Seriously, it's a really good book that cuts through all the "outer game" BS and tells you in plain English exactly what women want and why they want what they want. I would highly recommend it for the OP, he is the right target audience.
Ah, the perfect gift for the man with a severe case of Asperger Syndrome.
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post #43 of 148
12/28/08 at 9:46pm
God dammit, these threads make me rethink SF; I mean, I don't understand this? I am much, much younger and do not have these problems with socialization. I suggest to not pretend to be gay, to not talk about your job much, to not try to be classy, and most importantly, listen.

No one wants to feel as if they have gone in for an interview; with you handing them a resume.
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post #44 of 148
12/28/08 at 10:58pm
^what he said.
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post #45 of 148
12/28/08 at 11:24pm
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God dammit, these threads make me rethink SF; I mean, I don't understand this? I am much, much younger and do not have these problems with socialization. I suggest to not pretend to be gay, to not talk about your job much, to not try to be classy, and most importantly, listen.

No one wants to feel as if they have gone in for an interview; with you handing them a resume.
Biscotti,

I didn't have this problem when I was younger either. And again, I NEVER SAID OR IMPLIED THAT I AM TALKING T GIRLS ABOUT MY JOB so I don't know why people keep bringing that up. I don't "act gay" and I don't "try to be classy" either.
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