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post #16 of 31
Was the question primarily about "romantic" encounters, or what any woman might notice about any man, be it in business or social situations? With anyone, man or woman, I believe everyone plays detective to some level when first meeting a person. What kind of clothes do they chose to wear (or maybe they didn't chose), how do they sit in their chair, do they look at you in the eyes, do they let you talk, etc. On the subject of clothes, and as an aside, it is much easier, I find, for a woman to compliment a man on his tie, his watch, or his shirt. A man complimenting a woman, I suppose, might hesitate for fear of being accused of God knows what, in the US. I always marvel at how gracious Americans can be in giving and receiving compliments.
post #17 of 31
I've been told by several women that they notice a man's shoes first and get an immediate sense of what type of person he is by the style and condition of his shoes. I think thsy may just be checking out the size....nudge, nudge,wink, wink...
post #18 of 31
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yes, that reminds me - i heard a woman admit once that the first things she looks at are shoes and whether a man has manicured nails. granted, this lady was a bit predatory.
I saw that too. Predatory is not an exaggeration-it was Tammy Faye Baker.
post #19 of 31
Shoes Watch Shirt Are the 3 things that aware people will look at (the director of the Ritz Paris told he was looking at these things to have an idea of his client) For body i guess a women will look at the hands, the hair and the teeth.
post #20 of 31
On Friday, between exams, I was sitting next to the aforementioned cute engaged lady with the 1.5 carat rock (her fiance is doing a MBA/JD degree at Wharton/Penn; poor girl), and she complemented my watch... I consistently rotate three watches with a list price ranging from $40-$3300--I received the compliment on the $40 Fossil.  So go figure about "nice" watches; they do nothing to attract the ladies.  To reinforce the point, my buddies GF made a similar comment about how expensive my watch appeared... it was the same $40 quartz.  Outside of a Rolex, no one really notices a great timepiece.  BTW, I've fallen in love with the Chronoswiss Delphis.
post #21 of 31
i've gotten the most compliments on shoes i'm wearing, then trousers and suits. never shirts watches...have to agree. i'll get more compliments on a fossil or $30 skagen wafer thin watch then my Raymond Weil
post #22 of 31
Within what context?  In general?  In a prospective date?  In business?   I think the answer depends somewhat on the context.  And it depends a LOT on the woman.   For instance, I know women who are looking for a meal-ticket (either for dating, travelling and/or marrying).  They are actually LOOKING for signs of financial security, as in "it's just as easy to fall in love with a rich guy and a poor man".  While this has never been a strategy of mine, personally, I think it's probably as instinctive as a man looking for a beautiful woman - population growth.  This woman is looking for a nice looking suit/tie ("he must have an important job - just look how well he's dressed") or a nice watch ("he must be wealthy because he has enough disposable income to pay $xxxxx on a WATCH.") The reason your $40 Diesel watch and/Rolex get more compliments than other more exclusive (more expensive) brands is simple.  Most women, especially young ones, don't KNOW about luxury watches.  I know more about menswear than probably 99% of the female population, and I couldn't recognize - by sight - more than 7 or 8 brands without reading the name on the face. Anyway, this category of woman is going to want to know what kind of car you drive, and where you live.  They aren't alway so subtle about it either. Speaking for myself (as I don't consider myself to fall into the category described above) . . . I notice first a guy's face/hair/teeth.  I don't understand well-paid men - especially those who make a living with their mouths - having bad teeth.  Brush them, straighten them, bleach them, cap them.  Whatever. Anything.  But if I'm going to have to look at them while he speaks to me (much less the thought of him kissing me.???) Puhlease.  Fix the teeth.   I personally prefer the look of a guy with a great hairline.  That's not that I don't find some bald/balding guys attractive.  It's not just my "type".  But as such, I always appreciate a great "do". I notice a guy's clothes, but I don't necessarily disqualify on that basis alone.  This one can change.  It may not be a matter of taste/class.  It might just be a matter of ignorance.  I've left many better dressed Exes in my wake. Since I love dressing a man, this was a pleasant "hobby" for me. Within a few moments of conversation, though, I find I'm always most impressed by the guy who is confident, comfortable in his skin (good posture, athletic, but pleasant demeanor), intelligent in his conversation, but (probably most of all) has the ability to laugh at himself. As I re-read this, I'm afraid that my rambling may not have directly answered the original question.   Let me try again, more directly...and I'm speaking here for myself. I notice how a guy looks at me / addresses me.  If he is cordial, sincere and speaks to me as an equal, I'm always impressed.  I don't always assume he's flirting, either. I just tend to like guys who walk with purpose, and who look well "put together".  This could mean any STYLE of clothing.   But I am actually put OFF by this current trend of ill-fitting "urban" clothes (ridiculous) and some of the 70s revival stuff, which I find comical.  It was ugly the first time around.  Still is.  OK.  I'll stop now.
post #23 of 31
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.... I personally prefer the look of a guy with a great hairline.  That's not that I don't find some bald/balding guys attractive.  It's not just my "type".  But as such, I always appreciate a great "do". ....
Dear Jill: I read your words, and they inspired me to buy J's scalp and have it surgically transplanted to my own head. I hope you like it. Love, The Donald
post #24 of 31
OMG. LOL. Faustian, you scare me. You have far too much time on your hands. That is really FUNNY. But thanks for hookin' me up with the Donald.
post #25 of 31
Dammit. FB is using my two minutes of photoshop to impress the ladies again...
post #26 of 31
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Dammit. FB is using my two minutes of photoshop to impress the ladies again...
Jon.
post #27 of 31
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I consistently rotate three watches with a list price ranging from $40-$3300--I received the compliment on the $40 Fossil.  So go figure about "nice" watches; they do nothing to attract the ladies.  To reinforce the point, my buddies GF made a similar comment about how expensive my watch appeared... it was the same $40 quartz.  Outside of a Rolex, no one really notices a great timepiece.  BTW, I've fallen in love with the Chronoswiss Delphis.
A great timepiece I would define as something designed specifically to not attract the attention of the average joe, something simple like a calatrava is bound to not receive the kind of attention it's value would otherwise justify. That being said I do get compliments every now and then on my tank francaise, now I don't know if this is because Cartier is becoming as tacky as Rolex or just because it's a classic watch.
post #28 of 31
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(norcaltransplant @ Mar. 25 2005,22:34) I consistently rotate three watches with a list price ranging from $40-$3300--I received the compliment on the $40 Fossil. So go figure about "nice" watches; they do nothing to attract the ladies. To reinforce the point, my buddies GF made a similar comment about how expensive my watch appeared... it was the same $40 quartz. Outside of a Rolex, no one really notices a great timepiece. BTW, I've fallen in love with the Chronoswiss Delphis.
A great timepiece I would define as something designed specifically to not attract the attention of the average joe, something simple like a calatrava is bound to not receive the kind of attention it's value would otherwise justify. That being said I do get compliments every now and then on my tank francaise, now I don't know if this is because Cartier is becoming as tacky as Rolex or just because it's a classic watch.
A little bit of column A and a little bit of column B. Jon.
post #29 of 31
there's a big difference between noticing and commenting. in college i dated a old money WASP girl who insisted it was bad form to comment about other people's possessions. you could pay close attention to clothes and furniture and what-not and draw conclusions or make judgments. you just weren't supposed to say anything, even to pay a compliment. this was so firm a rule that when her parents invited me to dinner, the daughter warned me to thank them for their hospitality but not for the meal. or to say that i liked the food. the reason was that her mother hadn't cooked the food -- they had a cook. and thanking the hostess for something done by the staff was bad form. i never comment on people's possessions. but yes, i certainly notice them.
post #30 of 31
Here is a big survey about what people find physically attractive. Apparently trimmed nails are very important to women.
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