I broke up with my gf (general breakup thread) - Page 235

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Originally Posted by Matt 



It had to be done.

She's great, but it wasnt a relationship that was heading anywhere, so after a year and a half I put a stop to it.

Just kinda eating into each other's futures if we keep going like that.

It's still sad though.

I've been living with my landlord now for almost 11 years and my mother wants me to just go ahead and marry her!  In the 10 years we have only argued 4 times.

Hmmm...

broke up with my girl, this is she, foul beast

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Originally Posted by lasbar 


Will you strangle in her sleep?????

If no ,she is the special one.

I treat her as if she is my sister.   Plus her ex died and so I am like a temp father image for her son.

I even told her the truth about me and the real story how Dexter came about.  Her son is like "HOLY CRAP!" so now he is into Dexter and he is always asking stuff from the show.

Just broke up w my gf. I'm kinda relieved, she had borderline personality disorder. I was there for her to help her get better, but she wouldn't deal with it even after promising to. After dating for 4 months and having 5 or so borderline episodes I had to give up. There was no progress being made and I felt like I can't keep beating my head into a brick wall. She thought I was abandoning her (her worst fear) but it was really the most loving and compassionate thing I could do for both of us. Sucks...

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Originally Posted by lasbar 


Run away...

You cannot save her by yourself from these episodes...

Borderline people are scary and recklessly dangerous.

Yeah, the episodes are a split in her personality. She's a great person when she's normal... she actually recognizes what's wrong with her when she's really being honest with herself and promised to work on coming to terms with the traumas in her childhood that lead to the borderline condition. But it was all talk... she never made the effort so I had to leave. Luckily she wasn't so bad that she did a lot of dangerous things, just figured out ways to hurt me as much as possible, then did those things. She would apologize later, but at some point enough is enough... especially when things aren't getting better.

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Originally Posted by lasbar 


Borderline cannot control their emotions/feeling ..

It will never get better.

I wish her the best... I think she knows what's up but is too scared to face it. I think eventually the pain of driving away everyone she loves and cares about will be more painful than facing her traumas. She had a really rough childhood and I can't blame her. I think it will get better, but it might not be anytime soon. It's very sad and tragic.

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Originally Posted by Neo_Version 7 

I understand where you are coming from, Dorje. The promises of changing. Feeling really guilty for leaving.

Be careful the next time you hook up with a crazy.

Wish I would have known... she had no idea what was wrong with her, couldn't even put into words the emotions she feels sometimes. I had to tell her... it wasn't easy but she accepted it to some degree. I am the only person she has told about her childhood traumas in her adult life so I kinda feel bad for having to leave, but I have to... it's the best thing to do for both of us.

I also have to put my dog down that I've owned since he was 9 weeks old, he's 9 years right now.... can someone please write me a country song?  

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Originally Posted by hendrix 

speaking of crazy, a friend of mine recently broke up with this crazy crazy girl he was seeing.

two days after, she hacked into his facebook account, messaged all his friends saying he'd kidnapped her, called the police and his MSc supervisor and told them he had kidnapped her...

He was arrested at university.

I'm really hoping the police press charges against her for false accusations and wasting their time.

I feel better, mine isn't quite that crazy...