Originally Posted by wootx
Broke up with my gf of 6 months a month ago. It felt bad at first, but I sucked it up thinking I did the right thing.
I recently (i.e. a couple of days) sometimes catch myself thinking back at the times, feeling awful, and wondering if the breakup was worth in. This is when my rational ego gets in and reminds me of how she behaved with me. Still, I can't make this annoying and excruciating sorrow to go away. I'm afraid I still feel something for her (she certainly does) -- or is it the good memories? Fuck.
"how she behaved with me" is the key to guiding you. You can't abide bad behavior or, worse, reward it. In my experience the only thing that works is to break it off, then go about your life, NOT making any conciliatory overtures. If she seeks your forgiveness, you may have the possibility of starting over, perhaps on better terms, but it is unfortunately true that the surest predictor of future behavior is past behavior.
Six months seems to be about the longest most of the seriously flawed can manage to act decently. The arrival of that milestone often triggers a panicked reaction and the need to misbehave in order to bail.Edited by LaoHu - 10/3/12 at 3:28pm