I know, I know.
Dating just plain annoys me.
I am in my mid twenties and have had two long relationships, 2 3/4 and almost 4 years, in the past.
I feel I know how to treat a woman and how to run a relationship but since almost two years things are just not working in my way and I feel it has something to do with the way I present myself while dating.
As I have told you earlier, I am not heads over heels for a lot of ladies but in those past two years I have been to dates with something like five girls I thought were interesting, but not a single encounter resulted in anything remotely close to a relationship.
Either the girl tells me on our third date that in fact she has a boyfriend studying somewhere out of town, the contact diminishes as soon as I reduce my calls/text messages calling for her to make it a healthy balance, or things like what happened today happen.
I never felt as if I bored them or if they grew tired of me, but rather fear I might be too serious about my education, relationships and also interested in things which may come off too 'old' for my peers.
I am not into partying, fashion, TV series or music festivals, but rather spend my money for things like fine dining, American bars, fancy leisure activities and tailored clothing/shoes.
While I get a lot of ahs and ohs for the restaurants I pick to have a date at and also seem to impress with my choices of smaller nice places to go to afterwards like authentic Italian ice cream parlours, lookout points, museums, underground theaters, arthouse cinemas etc. I constantly have to justify how I can afford all of it and am told that she would not be able to do it all of the time.
Yet again I am still a student myself and a young looking so, so I don't feel like looking for older women who have been working for some time would mean a solution to my problem.
Oh, and I want to say that I do never speak badly of girls that I have dated or gone out with in the past.
One of my earlier comments might come off wrongly.
I didn't want to say/indicate she was a whore, but that I have had to experience in the past that girls who said "not interested in a relationship (with you)" actually meant they prefered to have plenty of unbound sex instead.
Of course as long as I don't have any evidence this one is doing the same thing, in dubio pro reo.
Edited by Louis XIV - 9/12/12 at 11:18am