I broke up with my gf (general breakup thread) - Page 231

At least she lets you call her a bitch. That is a mark of a secure, independent woman.

Independent yes apart from my wallet..

^ I will happily spoil Jamie and my side chicks but the moment they start asking for my credit card info, it's see-ya-later-alligator!

Any hot nurses in your hospital?

A gentleman doesn't reveal such things.

I love nurses...

I went out with a student nurse 20 years ago and as soon as I saw her in normal clothes , I was gone..

I like surgical masks.

And the enma /colonic machines too.

Important if anal is in consideration..

Indeed..

So I have been going out with this girl that I got in touch with through mutual friends for four or five times.
We spent long evenings together and talked and laughed nonstop.
She even rejected my plan to go to some artsy museums in favour of asking me out to go to the spa instead.
Without hesitation she did not only follow into the nudist area where all the saunas and steam bathes are located but also striped naked in an instant.
We have been kissing in the car in front of her house and I was a happy man until out of a sudden she brought up her ex and that she was not sure to be over the breakup yet and that she needed some time to sort out her feelings.

Everything went downhill from there.
I didn't want to be pushy and said she should take her time, especially since she just started her first job and was working 12-14h 6 days a week and was preparing for her first out of house presentation for an important customer.
We saw each other for the last time last monday, her presentation was wednesday and I was to leave early thursday morning to be away working until monday or tuesday this week.
As we spent a lot of time talking about her job, I asked her to give me a call wednesday evening or during thursday just to know how the presentation went.
She didn't call.
I had to switch SIM cards mid thursday and put back in my privat one no sooner than sunday to monday night.
Nothing, not a single call or text message.
I sent her a message that I had returned and if everything was alright because I have not heard of her for several days, just to receive a message saying she had been busy all weekend and have had no time to think of other stuff.
This evening I will meet with a friend to play a round of squash and she always told me she would be interested in learning how to play.
So I give her a call to tell her to join us and she acts weird, telling me she has time to come, only to tell me a minute later that she has to sort some paperwork out and that she won't join.
Some more smalltalk and she throws the obligatory "This should not be said through phone, but I am afraid I am not open for a new relationship at this point" at me.



Seriously, what is this shit?
She tells me how much she enjoyes the time with myself and last time we met she barely let me go, holding myself tightly for several minutes and now she would rather see her female friends than myself in her spare time?
If the past breakup hurt yourself, what would be better medicine than somebody who cares for you and you feel comfortable with?
Women are alien to myself....

^ I am sorry to say that she is, in all likelihood, being banged by her ex as we speak.

This is what she meant. Sorry.

neo, you don't need to apologise.
I feel I have made enough experiences with women in the past to know that you are probably right.
Also, I am not feeling bad, but rather angry, especially because of her stressing the fact "at the point/moment" because it indicates that she will try to play female mind games with myself and I also know that I treated her better than her ex ever could have.
So if she thinks she can hold myself on the back burner she is definitely wrong.
What I am really worried about is how the situation with our mutual friends will turn out.
She studied with the girlfriend of one of my oldest and closest friends and and I enjoy spending time with them a lot.
I am not at all interested to tear the group apart only because this girl doesn't know what she wants and is good for her.

Ambulance Chaser, I totally agree.
It's a female way of saying she would much rather sleep with as many guys as possible at this moment of time than to be bothered to build a relationship with somebody who is up for something serious, like myself.
Too bad, because she had a look at my friend at the sauna and seemed not to be disappointed, maybe I should have just taken my share and left her alone afterwards.
It's not my style, but I don't know how much more often I have to be prooven wrong by women, thinking this very one is different.
They are all the same.
Edited by Louis XIV - 9/12/12 at 8:03am

^ In that case, you can at least tell your friends you smashed. No harm, no foul. Everybody wins.