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I think a working group should be formed to pen the defintive Styleforum guide to avoiding the friendzone. Slap it on the front page. It needs to be the 'Amen' of this re-occuring problem.

A brainstorm before a shitstorm..

Great idea.
post #3407 of 3570
Guys, I need your help.

As my last relationship ended almost 1,5 years ago I feel it is time for some companionship, both intellectually as well as sexually, of a girl.
Recently I moved to a new city and still know little people, mostly those I do study and live with.
Besides my studies I pratice a lot of sports, both on and off campus.
In the evenings I have gone to a few different bars but have not yet seen and/or met any interesting women.
Since I have never had problems meeting girls naturally through mutual friends before I find myself frighteningly desperate on how to get in touch with those that are completely unknown to myself.
At the campus there are very little women, something like 4 guys to 1 girl, technical university, and they are mixed well into larger groups of people which I do not know how to approach.
I feel daytime people at university are always in a rush, very focused on their studies and people already known to them, in the evenings they might be more open minded but somehow I have never seen those girls I liked at campus at the bars/clubs.
Any ideas how to approach the girls directly at the campus?
post #3408 of 3570

it's breave

post #3409 of 3570
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Originally Posted by Louis XIV View Post

Guys, I need your help.
As my last relationship ended almost 1,5 years ago I feel it is time for some companionship, both intellectually as well as sexually, of a girl.
...
At the campus there are very little women, something like 4 guys to 1 girl, technical university, and they are mixed well into larger groups of people which I do not know how to approach.

Maybe it's time for you to try something new foo.gif
post #3410 of 3570
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Originally Posted by Louis XIV View Post

Guys, I need your help.
As my last relationship ended almost 1,5 years ago I feel it is time for some companionship, both intellectually as well as sexually, of a girl.
Recently I moved to a new city and still know little people, mostly those I do study and live with.
Besides my studies I pratice a lot of sports, both on and off campus.
In the evenings I have gone to a few different bars but have not yet seen and/or met any interesting women.
Since I have never had problems meeting girls naturally through mutual friends before I find myself frighteningly desperate on how to get in touch with those that are completely unknown to myself.
At the campus there are very little women, something like 4 guys to 1 girl, technical university, and they are mixed well into larger groups of people which I do not know how to approach.
I feel daytime people at university are always in a rush, very focused on their studies and people already known to them, in the evenings they might be more open minded but somehow I have never seen those girls I liked at campus at the bars/clubs.
Any ideas how to approach the girls directly at the campus?
Go to a bar at a (different) local uni or your own but when a Vets social is on. More women do vetinary science than men because they want to heal all the cuddly animals.
post #3411 of 3570
I think I can hang my hat up in here. We hadn't put the "exclusive" label on it, but that's pretty much what it'd been since the beginning of the year. We sort of left things on an ambiguous note tonight, but past experiences have made me too old and wise to not see where this is headed. She's got a history of flaking after a certain period of time, so it's not really surprising. And for me, it was one of those situations where it should have worked on paper: Beautiful (like, we couldn't go anywhere without at least one guy making a pass), funny, sexy, great in bed. But it's never felt "right" for an extended period of time, which is one of the reasons I was hesitant to get too involved.

Times like this you're glad you've dealt with these heartaches before, because when they present themselves again, you're better equipped to handle them and sort of just move on with things instead of dwelling. Oh hai, maturity.
post #3412 of 3570
Thinking of ending things with Jamie. She's been very busy and we hardly talk these days. Already started ignoring her calls.
post #3413 of 3570
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Originally Posted by APK View Post

I think I can hang my hat up in here. We hadn't put the "exclusive" label on it, but that's pretty much what it'd been since the beginning of the year. We sort of left things on an ambiguous note tonight, but past experiences have made me too old and wise to not see where this is headed. She's got a history of flaking after a certain period of time, so it's not really surprising. And for me, it was one of those situations where it should have worked on paper: Beautiful (like, we couldn't go anywhere without at least one guy making a pass), funny, sexy, great in bed. But it's never felt "right" for an extended period of time, which is one of the reasons I was hesitant to get too involved.
Times like this you're glad you've dealt with these heartaches before, because when they present themselves again, you're better equipped to handle them and sort of just move on with things instead of dwelling. Oh hai, maturity.

This begs for emotionless sex. Just keep in there until the inevitable happens.
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Originally Posted by Neo_Version 7 View Post

Thinking of ending things with Jamie. She's been very busy and we hardly talk these days. Already started ignoring her calls.

Be a man and tell her. Don't be a pussy about it.
post #3414 of 3570
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Originally Posted by Rambo View Post

Be a man and tell her. Don't be a pussy about it.

I'm tired of being a man. We have had this fight countless times. They always end up with vows of us trying harder next time. I just think, fundamentally, we are two different people.
post #3415 of 3570
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Originally Posted by Neo_Version 7 View Post

I'm tired of being a man. We have had this fight countless times. They always end up with vows of us trying harder next time. I just think, fundamentally, we are two different people.

That's what I meant. Be a man and just end it already. Sometimes you just have to rip the bandaid off.
post #3416 of 3570
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Originally Posted by Neo_Version 7 View Post

I'm tired of being a man. We have had this fight countless times. They always end up with vows of us trying harder next time. I just think, fundamentally, we are two different people.


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post #3417 of 3570
After I've ignored 3 missed calls and 4 SMS, she seems really sorry about being busy all the time. Decided to give her another shot. Told her my phone was acting weird.
post #3418 of 3570
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Originally Posted by Neo_Version 7 View Post

After I've ignored 3 missed calls and 4 SMS, she seems really sorry about being busy all the time. Decided to give her another shot. Told her my phone was acting weird.

Good job acting like a man.
post #3419 of 3570
^ It's complicated. We have a very long history. And what's not manly about comforting someone who is crying asking for forgiveness? If you ask me, ignoring/walking away from someone who cares about you shows more weakness than strength.
post #3420 of 3570
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Originally Posted by Neo_Version 7 View Post

^ It's complicated. We have a very long history. And what's not manly about comforting someone who is crying asking for forgiveness? If you ask me, ignoring/walking away from someone who cares about you shows more weakness than strength.

There's a great scene in The Maltese Falcon where Bogart grabs tearful Mary Astor and says, "I won't play the sap for you".
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