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Originally Posted by GeekSheek View Post

Be a good man and practice the campground rule, especially when dating someone much younger or with much less experience: leave it in better condition (emotionally, duh) than you found it.

I don't agree with this at all. How else are they going to learn if you don't mistreat them? Because believe me, if you don't do it, someone else down the road will.
post #3347 of 3570
^ Tough love.
post #3348 of 3570
Fu

Everything piecesofsand went through I'm going through now
post #3349 of 3570
:/
post #3350 of 3570
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Originally Posted by indesertum View Post

Fu
Everything piecesofsand went through I'm going through now

That kinda sucks frown.gif

Bang some hot college broads.
post #3351 of 3570
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Originally Posted by GeekSheek View Post

Be a good man and practice the campground rule, especially when dating someone much younger or with much less experience: leave it in better condition (emotionally, duh) than you found it.




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Originally Posted by indesertum View Post

Fu
Everything piecesofsand went through I'm going through now

Thanks for the good words, you are by far a fine gentlemen. I am nothing but cheerful to inform you that I have, indeed, left her in better condition than when I found her. She was a shy, low-self esteem quite girl, I do however believe than I have lessen those characteristics by a certain degree with most still at remain. I have accepted the separation in good terms with her, I know for a fact that this discomforting feeling, that of a mixture of anger,frustration,self pity, is nothing but only to be normal and it will gradually cease with time. as I've gone through a much greater magnitude of break up, I somehow knew that within me,this break up is nothing to be obsessively cared for. I all honesty I truly believe she will meet someone who suits her better than I. I do not wish this didn't happened because I feel that I had learned from this experience. It's worth it if you ask me.


Cheers gents icon_gu_b_slayer[1].gif

-Sand
Edited by Pieceofsand - 6/5/12 at 1:58pm
post #3352 of 3570
^ just curious, how did you break up with her?
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To be exact, she is the person who first initiated. She broke up with me. I am not shocked to be honest, though I am guilt of being a bit surprised given that she has told me in the past that she felt she is lucky to have a guy like me. I surely hope the case does not rest on the fact that I am much less desirable than she had imagined. Truth be told, she originally were intending to break up with me in person, however it did took place via telephone.

Now that the initial "shock" experience has passed, I am however discovering the unpleasant taste from recalls of our memories together, which will only be in absence from this point on. I do remind myself constantly that such emotional occurrence is indeed normal. That I ought to embrace and welcome to such unpleasant feeling, because truthfully, the good things wouldn't be good if its opposite does not exist.
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Originally Posted by Pieceofsand View Post

To be exact, she is the person who first initiated. She broke up with me. I am not shocked to be honest, though I am guilt of being a bit surprised given that she has told me in the past that she felt she is lucky to have a guy like me. I surely hope the case does not rest on the fact that I am much less desirable than she had imagined. Truth be told, she originally were intending to break up with me in person, however it did took place via telephone.
Now that the initial "shock" experience has passed, I am however discovering the unpleasant taste from recalls of our memories together, which will only be in absence from this point on. I do remind myself constantly that such emotional occurrence is indeed normal. That I ought to embrace and welcome to such unpleasant feeling, because truthfully, the good things wouldn't be good if its opposite does not exist.

It is always difficult to start with for mainly ego reason...

She might have been emotinally disturbed by the all relationship thing being new to it..

Coming from a strict background , she also might dreamt of the mirage called perfect relationship and found the reality of it difficult to bear...

The question of sexual intimacy might have spooked her a little bit.

I think you still like/love her maybe for the wrong reasons.
Edited by lasbar - 6/6/12 at 4:52am
post #3355 of 3570
I hashed it out with mine. She was just very sarcastic and condescending the whole weekend even though I sacrificed my weekend to help her out. I prolly exacerbated the situation by belittling her as well. I just hope the relationship improves over time cuz if this happens again and again I'm going to be really miserable.
post #3356 of 3570
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Originally Posted by indesertum View Post

I hashed it out with mine. She was just very sarcastic and condescending the whole weekend even though I sacrificed my weekend to help her out. I prolly exacerbated the situation by belittling her as well. I just hope the relationship improves over time cuz if this happens again and again I'm going to be really miserable.

Why are you with somebody making you feel miserable?

You're not married with kids ...

Enjoy your life.
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Bc the majority of the time she makes me happy. She's also been there for me when I hit a really rough spot and had basically nobody I could rely on.

When things stress her out she doesn't cope with it very maturely and I have to deal with the fall out. We're working on it tho.
post #3358 of 3570
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Originally Posted by indesertum View Post

Bc the majority of the time she makes me happy. She's also been there for me when I hit a really rough spot and had basically nobody I could rely on.
When things stress her out she doesn't cope with it very maturely and I have to deal with the fall out. We're working on it tho.

You're right to be working on it for a while but at one point ,you need to decide if it was a rough spot or an inability for both of us to have a relationship together.
post #3359 of 3570
You're married right? I'm sure you've had a lot of fights with your gf before you married. How'd you deal with it and how'd you decide whether it was worth it to keep going?
post #3360 of 3570
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Originally Posted by indesertum View Post

You're married right? I'm sure you've had a lot of fights with your gf before you married. How'd you deal with it and how'd you decide whether it was worth it to keep going?

Fights ,disagreements are all part of a healthy relationship ...

There is no perfect relationship scale or benchmark because you're the only one able to appreciate when the relationship is not emotionally viable..

Some people live all their lives in mentally or physically abusive relationships when others will leave at the first problem.

Horses for courses.
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