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post #3316 of 3570
Well I havent broken up with the GF I want to have but do not have. I have come to the conclusion that a girl I have been chasing on and off is never going to be caught and it is painful. Quite painful moving between denial and the reality. Not a nice thought that someone else is boning her while I am being toyed with all her innocence. I dont know why some men (like myself) can be that stupid.
post #3317 of 3570
Friend IMed me to inform me he finally broke up with his psycho girl friend. They've been on/off for a while but always dealing with some form of jealous psycho ness from her and ultra controlling. It didn't bother me too much apart from the fact I always had to hear about it from him. Anyway final month, things seemed to reach a boiling point and she exploded a few times (in my absence), so he finally cut her lose yesterday (icon_gu_b_slayer[1].gif). Anyway, he says they'll try being close friends for a while and see how things go (facepalm.gif). Anyway baby steps... gonna celebrate with our crew at the clubs Thursday
post #3318 of 3570
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Originally Posted by MarkI View Post

Broke up with my girl bout two months back. Dated for nearly two years. Still think about her all the time, still think about her all the damn time.
Done all of the requisite things, seeing other people, laid the pipe down several times, working on myself, but she is still always on the back of my mind.
I suppose it does not help that we've spoken a couple of times, and she's told me she still considers me the love of her life, and all this other bullshit.
Getting lunch with her on Monday...probably is not the best idea, but I don't know. The prospect of seeing her makes me want to simultaneoulsy vomit, and jump for joy. And i've felt that way since Friday, when we made these plans.
I have a huge feeling she will cancel though, trying to mentally prepare myself to take that if it comes, and play it cool, rather than get desperate and whiny.
FUCK@$
Time heals all wounds eh
Feel like I have to post script this with a 'this isn't the girl of sf fame haha, that 'relationship' lasted all of two months" end

damnit i was going to ask this

is she the one you recently posted?
post #3319 of 3570
Not sure if this is the right place, but screw it.

Girlfriend found a picture of this topless chick we both know on my phone. She is shocked that I would do such thing. I've said I'm sorry and we sort of made up last night. It's a big deal to her and therefore a big deal to me. Can anyone tell me what to expect in this sort of situation?
post #3320 of 3570
Why did you have that picture there in the first place? Some context might be nice.



Also, post picture, obv.
post #3321 of 3570
Why was she going through your phone? Don't you guys have boundaries?
post #3322 of 3570
I feel like trust easy to lose but difficult to gain back. You might have to deal with jealousy issues a lot going forward.
post #3323 of 3570
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Why did you have that picture there in the first place? Some context might be nice.
Also, post picture, obv.

I asked to see them and wasn't really expecting a picture. I guess I was bored. Dude I deleted the pic immediately after she saw it.
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Originally Posted by Neo_Version 7 View Post

Why was she going through your phone? Don't you guys have boundaries?

We were going through my phone together. Looking through pictures, what sort of apps I had on it, what the iOS5 update was like, nothing really too intrusive IMO. I got the picture like 2 weeks ago and completely forgot about it. I deleted it from my photo stream, but the pic was still freaking saved on my camera roll censored.gif

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I feel like trust easy to lose but difficult to gain back. You might have to deal with jealousy issues a lot going forward.

It is. She's told me it'll take time, but she's willing to trust me again. Sigh. I know it'll be tough being subject to scrutiny by her and her mother. I'm not a bad dude, but one slip up like this makes it seem like everything I say, or do has much less credibility.
post #3324 of 3570
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Originally Posted by mr.orange View Post

I asked to see them and wasn't really expecting a picture. I guess I was bored.
That wouldn't fill me with confidence if I was your gf. "I was bored so I asked one of our friends to show me her tits and she did." Why would you think that was acceptable?
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Dude I deleted the pic immediately after she saw it.
So...once you got caught, you deleted the offending picture? You paragon of virtue, you.
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It is. She's told me it'll take time, but she's willing to trust me again. Sigh. I know it'll be tough being subject to scrutiny by her and her mother. I'm not a bad dude, but one slip up like this makes it seem like everything I say, or do has much less credibility.

And justifiably so. You fucked up, admitting that to yourself is a necessary step here. Probably recoverable, but it'll take effort from you and some level of understanding from her. If you make an honest effort and she keeps bringing it up, it may be a sign that things are just too damaged to fix.

Why is her mother involved? Not exactly a good sign for the future of the relationship if she's running off to mommy to keep tabs on you.
post #3325 of 3570
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Originally Posted by Gibonius View Post

That wouldn't fill me with confidence if I was your gf. "I was bored so I asked one of our friends to show me her tits and she did." Why would you think that was acceptable?

I wasn't thinking about my girlfriend at the moment and had a moment of weakness.
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So...once you got caught, you deleted the offending picture? You paragon of virtue, you.
Yes, why would I keep the photo?
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And justifiably so. You fucked up, admitting that to yourself is a necessary step here. Probably recoverable, but it'll take effort from you and some level of understanding from her. If you make an honest effort and she keeps bringing it up, it may be a sign that things are just too damaged to fix.
Why is her mother involved? Not exactly a good sign for the future of the relationship if she's running off to mommy to keep tabs on you.

She's very understanding and I have promised to make things right. Her mother saw her crying and she told her what happened. Her mom's not keeping on tabs on me. If anything, she's been very cool about me coming over and trusting me with her daughter. I guess I owe her an apology too? I'm not sure, but I think it wouldn't hurt.
post #3326 of 3570
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Originally Posted by mr.orange View Post

She's very understanding and I have promised to make things right. Her mother saw her crying and she told her what happened. Her mom's not keeping on tabs on me. If anything, she's been very cool about me coming over and trusting me with her daughter. I guess I owe her an apology too? I'm not sure, but I think it wouldn't hurt.
Ok, I'm guessing that the girlfriend lives at home and you're both <20. Which puts the whole thing in some context I guess.

Either way, you don't owe the mom anything and shouldn't be apologizing to her. You didn't do anything to the mom. She's not part of your relationship, and treating her like an active party is going to set up a really weird and damaging dynamic.
post #3327 of 3570
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Originally Posted by mr.orange View Post

Not sure if this is the right place, but screw it.
Girlfriend found a picture of this topless chick we both know on my phone. She is shocked that I would do such thing. I've said I'm sorry and we sort of made up last night. It's a big deal to her and therefore a big deal to me. Can anyone tell me what to expect in this sort of situation?

A friend's girlfriend was snooping through his email a while back and found a flirty GChat between him and another girl from about a year ago. He's not the kind to act upon it and it was an isolated incident. Still, his girlfriend, never let it go once she revealed she had seen it. They've since broken up and one of the reasons was she didn't trust him anymore. I'd say that was based more on her past experiences of having boyfriends relentlessly cheat on her, but trust is certainly an easy thing to lose and an arduous process to regain.
post #3328 of 3570
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Originally Posted by APK View Post

A friend's girlfriend was snooping through his email a while back and found a flirty GChat between him and another girl from about a year ago. He's not the kind to act upon it and it was an isolated incident. Still, his girlfriend, never let it go once she revealed she had seen it. They've since broken up and one of the reasons was she didn't trust him anymore. I'd say that was based more on her past experiences of having boyfriends relentlessly cheat on her, but trust is certainly an easy thing to lose and an arduous process to regain.

Insecurity is a mental disease ...

Insecure people are very keen of self-destruction and must be avoided at any cost..
post #3329 of 3570
it's worse that she also knows the chick.
post #3330 of 3570
I just can't imagine, sitting at home one night and texting a mutual friend to show you her tits lol8[1].gif Would make more sense if it was some random Internet tramp, but a friend? Shit is hilarious, in the tragic-comic vein.

I knew I wasn't part of the texting generation, but this just blows my mind that people could do something like this out of "boredom." You gotta wonder what the chick who sent the pics was thinking too, since she had to have know that dude was dating a friend.
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