I broke up with my gf (general breakup thread) - Page 206

as corny as this is going to sound, last night i made a wish that for my ex to just call me already instead of emailing me 1-2x a month, asking the most random things (IMO) in hopes of getting in contact with me.

back story: broke up beginning of last summer after almost 2 years (5 years total of knowing each other), i had 2.5 months of minor to severe depression. then started to hit the gym and found work that pretty much put me at ease. pretty much moved on mentally/physically, 50% emotionally. still think about her. have not been in contact for 4+ months now?

really caught me off guard but just received phone call from her. she kept calling every time i didn't pick up until i finally did, after 3rd call. wanted to meet me after work, i cant. will not be "off work" till 11PM tonight. asked me when is lunch and to call her back then.

what to do?? is this fate? is this real life? i couldn't really read her tone but sounds like she is either upset/misses me, or something happened. i am thinking the latter, and i hope to god it has nothing to do with the puppy we raised.

(i'm freaking out if you cannot till)

Not sure what to say to that.

Go if you think you can take seeing her again, perhaps one last time, and go back to moving on with your life.

Do not go see her.

It doesn't sound like an emergency or she would've flat out said so/she shouldn't be contacting you anyway, doesn't she have friends/parents?

Do not.

Do not

Do not.

It will undo everything man.

4 months is way too long to have been broken back and just to expect to get back together that easily.

Remember, there's a reason she broke up with you in the first place and tat won't have changed.

Good luck toasty.

I would ask her for a drink or something. Nothing fancy. It has been more than four months.

I know a couple of people who gave a relationship a second go-around that resulted in success. The odds, however, are against that happening.

It's a depressing thought, especially if things didn't end on terrible terms and/or you still get along very well with that person. But even in those cases, I think the "You can't go home again" adage applies.

But what if it did? Haven't you seen The Core?

i know this is trolling, but:


I don't even care if it works or not, just that he doesn't seem like someone who's gonna be able to handle the emotional roller coaster.

hey dudes

got off work @ 11:30pm

swung by her house

i called and no response while walking in front of her house. then by fate? her garage door opens and mom pulls out the car to clean garage.

i speed walk to the driveway and ask for ex. ex then calls me back after mom goes in to wake her up. mom then invites me in, which is a surprise to the both of us.

we sit down, catch up, then i am asked if i can take care of the dog while she goes back to school for 3 months.

(the whole time i was kind of anxious/nervous illustrated by my excessive talking and leading the convo essentially)

she then says "so yeah the reason i called, you probably saw this coming, is that i am leaving for school soon and you're the only one i know who can care for dog"

tbh, i was kind of like WTF? then said sure. in hindsight, i think i was just really happy seeing them. now that i think about it, i am not sure if i really want to take up the responsibility again. it is both a financial and physical care if that makes sense, which i do not have the finances currently.

"the road not taken" -
choice one, i say no i cannot. give my reasons (i am living my life right now and do not want to "stop)" may come off as an asshole;
choice two, go with it, ask her to compensate, and ??

seeing her and thinking about this thread, i tried to gauge my emotional attachment. quite honestly i didn't feel anything and it was as if two friends were just catching up.
she did bring up all the times i ignored her and i just kept saying 'i had good reason'

we didn't hug or anything when i left. just 'call you' bb.

(FYI, i was consuming alcohol 3 hours before and had 2 cups of coffee)

(other thoughts, so i made a wish for her to call me, it came true. i go late at night to visit, and the garage opens up--is this real life??)

Ok here's my advice, take it or leave it:

Agree to care of dog
If she doesn't compensate you enough, cook it and serve it to her and her family
reveal the mystery ingredient after they've eaten only.

Hope this helps.

i hear you.

and when i say compensate, i mean:
get the dog a haircut (hair is totally matted)
1-2 month of food
shots (neuter)

my mindset at this exact moment "here are my stipulations, follow them or just find someone else. i've found my stride and the last thing i need is a pit stop"

so like when you return in 3 months time, i'm suppose to return the dog and continue moving on??

going to ask my boss tomorrow. he seems pretty knowledgeable too.

i drank too much tonight fml.

Forget about her and the dog, continue moving forward. The dog will only be a constant reminder and a reason to continue contact while trying to move forward. If it is meant to be, it will be, dog or not.

You should care for the dog. She clearly thought you were responsible enough to take care of it otherwise she could have given it to someone else. That's got to tell you something.

Tell her if you take custody of the dog it's yours forever. Otherwise she can keep custody and find a friend not her ex to look after it. Are you really going to help her look after the dog for the rest of it's life? Mind you that's 12-15 years...

THISSSSSS!!!!!