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Originally Posted by Flambeur View Post

I'm sitting on my couch in the living room drinking a beer. The "ex" is asleep in the bedroom. The last 36 hours have been some of the best in our (old? new? ongoing? dead?) relationship. This is fucked up beyond belief. In a normal world we would have been married by now. confused.gif
(yes, I am heading back to bed in case you were wondering.)

enjoy it if it's good. Think about things afterwards.
post #2942 of 3570
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Originally Posted by Flambeur View Post

I'm sitting on my couch in the living room drinking a beer. The "ex" is asleep in the bedroom. The last 36 hours have been some of the best in our (old? new? ongoing? dead?) relationship. This is fucked up beyond belief. In a normal world we would have been married by now. confused.gif
(yes, I am heading back to bed in case you were wondering.)

I was just in a relationship like this. It's so hard and I felt on edge the whole time. Loved the girl and cared a lot about her. Thought we were going to get married.
We did the on/off thing for probably 6 months and then eventually she said she couldn't do it anymore. I believe if the situation was a little different we would still be together.

now some new girl is really into me but I can't get the ex out of my head... frown.gif sucks that we see each other once a week too cause we are on the same volleyball team making it harder to get over her. But I find myself looking forward to going to volleyball.
post #2943 of 3570
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Originally Posted by poena View Post

I was just in a relationship like this. It's so hard and I felt on edge the whole time. Loved the girl and cared a lot about her. Thought we were going to get married.
We did the on/off thing for probably 6 months and then eventually she said she couldn't do it anymore. I believe if the situation was a little different we would still be together.
now some new girl is really into me but I can't get the ex out of my head... frown.gif sucks that we see each other once a week too cause we are on the same volleyball team making it harder to get over her. But I find myself looking forward to going to volleyball.

She is over you and you will be better trying to rebuild yourself by moving on...

Just change volleyball team and meet news people...

There are reasons why she dfid leave you and they haven't changed..
post #2944 of 3570
Ugh, the next 24 hours were even better... WTF. I hate this girl. I was about to write her off, and now this. Been in so many long term relationships, came close to marrying before, loved before - but never felt like this about anyone else.

Honestly, there is a cold, logical part of me that tells me it would never work, and then there is a part of me that doesn't care about any of that and would give anything for another day, and the day after that... Ugh.
post #2945 of 3570
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Originally Posted by Flambeur View Post

Ugh, the next 24 hours were even better... WTF. I hate this girl. I was about to write her off, and now this. Been in so many long term relationships, came close to marrying before, loved before - but never felt like this about anyone else.
Honestly, there is a cold, logical part of me that tells me it would never work, and then there is a part of me that doesn't care about any of that and would give anything for another day, and the day after that... Ugh.

Ask somebody you respect who do not have any interest and involvement in this particular situation...

That person will give you an unbiaised objective view of this relationship...

Repeat that many times and do a ratio...

If more than 80% tell you to ditch her foverer, follow the advice.
post #2946 of 3570
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Originally Posted by Flambeur View Post

Ugh, the next 24 hours were even better... WTF. I hate this girl. I was about to write her off, and now this. Been in so many long term relationships, came close to marrying before, loved before - but never felt like this about anyone else.
Honestly, there is a cold, logical part of me that tells me it would never work, and then there is a part of me that doesn't care about any of that and would give anything for another day, and the day after that... Ugh.

Listen to the cold logical part.
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Originally Posted by jjangles View Post

Currently feeling bummed myself. Against my better judgment, I reactivated my facebook account after over a year off of it and immediately (and unintentionally) found 2 of my long term girlfriends both have new boyfriends now. It just opened up this pit in my gut, as I cared about both of them deeply, but both ended the relationship with me. One relationship I was engaged to her, and the other lasted for about a year. For some reason I just feel awful that they found happiness and I haven't yet.
/I just moved overseas to get away from all the drama and pain from the last 4 years of my life. And because of my bad judgment, it followed me here.

Facebook reactivation is like the part in Indiana Jones when they opened the Ark of the Covenant.

They haven't found happiness. “Happiness is not something you experience; it’s something you remember” - Oscar Levant
Edited by willpower - 10/27/11 at 8:36pm
post #2947 of 3570
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Originally Posted by Flambeur View Post

Ugh, the next 24 hours were even better... WTF. I hate this girl. I was about to write her off, and now this. Been in so many long term relationships, came close to marrying before, loved before - but never felt like this about anyone else.
Honestly, there is a cold, logical part of me that tells me it would never work, and then there is a part of me that doesn't care about any of that and would give anything for another day, and the day after that... Ugh.

I am in the same boat, I am conditioning myself to move on...
post #2948 of 3570
Wanted to talk some things out with my ex after I ran into her at parties a couple of times recently...

"Hey x, do you already have plans for wednesday or thursday evening next week?"

Couple of hours later:

"Hey y, I already have plans"

A month ago she was going on about how of course she wants to stay friends...fuck bitches.
post #2949 of 3570
Get on with your life, looks like she has. People say they want to remain friends to imply there's no bad blood. Doesn't mean they want to grab drinks or watch a movie together. Read between the lines.
post #2950 of 3570
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Originally Posted by Joffrey View Post

Get on with your life, looks like she has. People say they want to remain friends to imply there's no bad blood. Doesn't mean they want to grab drinks or watch a movie together. Read between the lines.

LOL, too true. Same thing when a woman you've gone on a few dates with says she wants to just be friends. She doesn't actually want to continue hanging out.
post #2951 of 3570
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Originally Posted by dune View Post

Wanted to talk some things out with my ex after I ran into her at parties a couple of times recently...
"Hey x, do you already have plans for wednesday or thursday evening next week?"
Couple of hours later:
"Hey y, I already have plans"
A month ago she was going on about how of course she wants to stay friends...fuck bitches.

Why didn't you call her? It doesn't sound like you were calling for a date, but given your relationship with her, getting together at this point isn't the same as grabbing a burger with a buddy. Calling her may not change the outcome, but it would have made it more difficult for her to blow you off. And you could have gauged whether or not she sounded disappointed about already having plans.

Text messaging is one of the worst things guys can have at their disposal when it comes to the opposite sex.
post #2952 of 3570
Some more texting today. She says that I should have just asked her whether she wanted to talk sometime, and that she would have said yes. Then she blew up because apparently she keeps having to justify her behaviour to me. And so the saga continues.
post #2953 of 3570
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Originally Posted by dune View Post

Some more texting today. She says that I should have just asked her whether she wanted to talk sometime, and that she would have said yes. Then she blew up because apparently she keeps having to justify her behaviour to me. And so the saga continues.

She is complicated...

Stay away from her..
post #2954 of 3570
Haha yeah, I've known that for a while now. Very low lows, but high highs. Know what it looks like on the forum here, already knew what the advice was going to be, but needed a place to bitch/get it off my chest.
post #2955 of 3570
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Originally Posted by dune View Post

Haha yeah, I've known that for a while now. Very low lows, but high highs. Know what it looks like on the forum here, already knew what the advice was going to be, but needed a place to bitch/get it off my chest.

Rollercoasters are the most fascinating relationships but also the most soul destroying...

If you're a masochist or young enough to bear the weight of crushed dreams , go on.....
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