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post #2911 of 3570
C'mon, guys. I assume we're all relatively young here. It's an intoxicating thought to consider meeting someone we genuinely want to spend our lives with. But even if these relationships had panned out in the short-term, would they REALLY stand the test of time of "until death do you part?"
post #2912 of 3570
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Originally Posted by APK View Post

C'mon, guys. I assume we're all relatively young here. It's an intoxicating thought to consider meeting someone we genuinely want to spend our lives with. But even if these relationships had panned out in the short-term, would they REALLY stand the test of time of "until death do you part?"

Unfortunately, not that young, and have been through this more than once before - and in this case my experience is telling me something different.
post #2913 of 3570
I'm young, so it's not a huge issue, but it is sad that the only thing that fucked over my last relationship was timing, especially given the way I felt about her. The only person I've found who's almost as good of a match for me is a friend who's getting married in 9 months to another friend, and she's not as attractive as the ex anyway.

On a related noted, I ran in to slutcuntbitchwhore ex last night at a party. My best friend knew that I'd been having a bit of a rough time this week and figured I could use a win, so he invited her without telling me. I was a bit of a passive aggressive dick at first, but found after a few minutes of talking that it was actually really nice seeing her. I'm completely over her, which is great, and I think we're ready to be friends. I got her number last night and will hopefully be seeing her around.
post #2914 of 3570
Currently feeling bummed myself. Against my better judgment, I reactivated my facebook account after over a year off of it and immediately (and unintentionally) found 2 of my long term girlfriends both have new boyfriends now. It just opened up this pit in my gut, as I cared about both of them deeply, but both ended the relationship with me. One relationship I was engaged to her, and the other lasted for about a year. For some reason I just feel awful that they found happiness and I haven't yet.

/I just moved overseas to get away from all the drama and pain from the last 4 years of my life. And because of my bad judgment, it followed me here.
post #2915 of 3570
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Originally Posted by Eason View Post

This girl is fucking evil, soulless, she is hollow inside. I've never been so fucking ruined.

http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/top-stories/2011/10/21/chinese-girl-run-over-twice-and-left-for-dead-in-street-dies-115875-23504101/

i have dated a handful of asian chicks. some are great, but when their not, ^ this
post #2916 of 3570
I'm feeling pretty shitty at the moment. My alert went off a few hours ago reminding me about the checklist of things for my (now ex) girlfriend's birthday. They're going bar hopping tonight and our bar area (Northgate) is so small that I'd run in to her if I went out tonight. Mix that with the fact that all of my close friends are going out with her tonight and I don't have anyone to chill with right now, and it's making for a depressing night.
post #2917 of 3570
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Originally Posted by HgaleK View Post

all of my close friends are going out with her tonight

I'm not one for the whole "don't talk to my friends" thing, but that's shit. Close friends gotta know it'd be a hard night for you and be there for you, not partying with her.
post #2918 of 3570
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Originally Posted by Luddite View Post

I'm not one for the whole "don't talk to my friends" thing, but that's shit. Close friends gotta know it'd be a hard night for you and be there for you, not partying with her.

Nah. She's an awesome person, so she's close friends with most of my close friends. It's totally kosher, just a little rough. It just means that SF is getting my earful of bitching.
post #2919 of 3570
^ thats rough and I can relate. My ex-gf in college and I shared mutual friends. And it was always awkward when during our breakups, my mutual friends would go clubbing with her. Im sure she felt that same way when I was out with them. Sometimes you had to ask your friends out before the ex if you wanted to hang out with them that night/weekend. and its especially difficult when the ex is an awesome person and everyone thinks she is the bomb. makes you feel self-conscious and shit. shiiit
post #2920 of 3570
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Originally Posted by NAMOR View Post

^ thats rough and I can relate. My ex-gf in college and I shared mutual friends. And it was always awkward when during our breakups, my mutual friends would go clubbing with her. Im sure she felt that same way when I was out with them. Sometimes you had to ask your friends out before the ex if you wanted to hang out with them that night/weekend. and its especially difficult when the ex is an awesome person and everyone thinks she is the bomb. makes you feel self-conscious and shit. shiiit

That sounds about right. We essentially do rotations for certain parties, and I get 2:1, which is kind of nice. I'm also pretty secure in my awesomeness. The bad part is just that it's a reminder of what's not there, how great she is, and how nice it would be to no have to segregate shit. It sucks, but it gets easier to deal with each time I hear about it, so we may be cool to chill again in a few months.

I was thinking about dropping a booty call, but I can't stand most of the girls that I've been sexing lately, and that makes tonight sting a bit more.
post #2921 of 3570
^ I hear that. Since finding out my ex has been dating a pretty cool guy, I just cant stop thinking about it her. Do I really want to get back with her? not really but at the same time its preventing me from dating anyone else. I just keep thinking of her in a pleasant, warm way. So much so that when the song "cant get enough" by the Black Eyed Peas come on, I just germ inside her love. nod[1].gif
post #2922 of 3570
So you guys basically cannot fully get over your ex?

I am wondering, is there always an ex in everyone's past that they cannot get over? Like that 1 ex but not speaking on the same level as "the one that got away" fyi.

In my recent experience, I cannot remember off the top of my head when the breakup was, what happened, etc. I miss her from time to time, and think about her a lot. I think for now I have taken that blackness and put hid it in a box somewhere in my head to be reopen at a later time.

But it wouldn't surprise me if she has found someone else, etc. I care a lot about her, but at the same time, I have ignored all contact from her.

For me, I am trying to get my own life on track, which is one of the reasons I think we ended our relationship since we have reached the stage of establishing our own careers.

But if the both you ^^ have already found your "path in life" I do not see why it is still being hung up on the ex, which is my main question.
Example, I feel that once I have a solid career track, I will meet new people and new potentials.

tl;dr
I guess what I am saying is that you guys are awesome, so what is stopping you guys from moving on and finding a new bird?? I am not "awesome" yet b/c I yet to have a stable income/career.
post #2923 of 3570
^ one reason Im hung up on her is because the sex was the best. why? because i loved the woman. I just cant be the pornstar fucker that I am unless I love the woman i be fuck'hen. Otherwise im just average. meh

And since we broke up, I havent found anyone like her. It doenst make me feel any better knowing that I ended it because I was being an insecure dipshit who was soley focused on my career.
post #2924 of 3570
I hear you about the career part. I feel that I am the work-a-holic type. Another reason why the last relationship took a real toll...neglect...

Makes me a little sad that I could not find the perfect balance in the relationship.

So would you consider that the one who got away? I feel like that title gets harder to pin down as one gets more experience with more relationships.
post #2925 of 3570
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Originally Posted by HgaleK View Post

Nah. She's an awesome person, so she's close friends with most of my close friends. It's totally kosher, just a little rough. It just means that SF is getting my earful of bitching.

Ah, fair enough. I'd just kinda expect at least one of my closest friends to swing over with a DVD and takeaways or something, instead of going to the party. But I've never had a totally intermixed circle of friends.
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