I finally hit breakup level depression this morning. It's been a long time coming, but it's here. I know how to avoid holes and how to deal with it, but I feel like curling up in to a ball and dying right now. I'm wondering if this phase is unavoidable after the end of a relationship, no matter how long you put it off. I've been trying to let it all happen to me slow and easy, but I'm starting to think that the final realization that it's not just over, but over, will hit like a ton of bricks every time.