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post #2746 of 3533
10/1/11 at 9:58am
Once a chick uses the word "friend" to refer to you, it's the equivalent of them saying "there's no way that I'll ever sleep with you again"

It's patronizing as hell for the person who dumped you to tell you that they'll help you get over them.
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post #2747 of 3533
10/1/11 at 10:54am
Finally over the ex. It's amazing when you wake up one day, and the thing you've been telling yourself ("that relationship was not good for you, despite the good times") finally clicks and makes sense. Truly liberating.

In other news, I am falling for a girl I've known for three years and knowing me, horrible embarrassing hilarity is soon to come.
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post #2748 of 3533
10/1/11 at 11:33am
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Originally Posted by willpower View Post

It's patronizing as hell for the person who dumped you to tell you that they'll help you get over them.

Yup. I'm sure she means well, but that's a bit like someone murdering a friend of yours and then saying, "But it's OK because I'll help you move the body."
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post #2749 of 3533
10/1/11 at 12:53pm
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Originally Posted by willpower View Post

Once a chick uses the word "friend" to refer to you, it's the equivalent of them saying "there's no way that I'll ever sleep with you again"
It's patronizing as hell for the person who dumped you to tell you that they'll help you get over them.

Don't get them that pleasure...

It is about control and feeling better about ourselves...

They might be motivated by guilt or pure narcissism..
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post #2750 of 3533
10/1/11 at 1:18pm
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Originally Posted by lasbar View Post

It is about control and feeling better about ourselves...
They might be motivated by guilt or pure narcissism..

yup. I am a bad enough person to have done this myself.

We all want to feel good about ourselves.
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post #2751 of 3533
10/1/11 at 1:54pm
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Originally Posted by hendrix View Post

yup. I am a bad enough person to have done this myself.
We all want to feel good about ourselves.

Carpe diem mon ami...
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post #2752 of 3533
10/1/11 at 5:45pm
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Originally Posted by willpower View Post

July isn't that long ago. I've read that the average healing time is half the length of the relationship - if you went out for a year, it will take 6 months to "get over her". I haven't found that in practice, but it all depends on how your life is going at any given time. If you're doing well at work, if you've found a business mentor, if you've been working out and dropping weight, finding a girl you're really compatible with and can suck the chrome off of a bumper (who has chrome bumpers?) etc - these will make the "get over her" time quicker.

I don't buy the half-life theory... the one and only time you get over a girl is when you find an upgrade. If you can upgrade to a better chick, you'll get over the last one almost instantaneously. If you don't, you'll be thinking about the last one forever, as many men do who have settled for bad marriages.
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post #2753 of 3533
10/1/11 at 6:35pm
^ I don't think finding someone smarter, richer, and more attractive will necessarily purge one's remaining feelings for an ex. I mean, I'm sure it helps but in most cases, said ex had more things going for her outside of the looks/intellect department.
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post #2754 of 3533
10/1/11 at 8:56pm
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Originally Posted by Neo_Version 7 View Post

^ I don't think finding someone smarter, richer, and more attractive will necessarily purge one's remaining feelings for an ex. I mean, I'm sure it helps but in most cases, said ex had more things going for her outside of the looks/intellect department.

It sure wont hurt, though. Great and frequent sex can go a long way towards mending the wound.
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post #2755 of 3533
10/2/11 at 12:50am
Yeah. I haven't gotten any since things went south with the previous girl, and that's certainly not helping me right now.
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post #2756 of 3533
10/2/11 at 4:29am
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Originally Posted by Neo_Version 7 View Post

^ I don't think finding someone smarter, richer, and more attractive will necessarily purge one's remaining feelings for an ex. I mean, I'm sure it helps but in most cases, said ex had more things going for her outside of the looks/intellect department.

Agreed...

Nothing will make you stop loving somebody expect yourself..

L'amour est un enfant de boheme qui n'a jamais connu de loi...

Bizet was right then and will be right on that one..
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post #2757 of 3533
10/5/11 at 10:14pm

Hmmm I need some help fam. Me and my girl stopped talking a couple days ago. Were still young so she's the first girl I've taken serious. I really liked her alot like I never connected with someone else the way I connected with her, we always had problems though. We would have atleast one big fight every other week. Anyways she told me from the start she wasn't ready to be in a relationship but I still tried and after 4 months she's still not ready so she doesn't want me to wait so were not talking anymore. We stopped talking saturday and she's all I've been able to think about. I'm not depressed but I do get sad when I think about her, Im trying to let this go but we would stop talking alot when we were talking so maybe I'm holding on subconsiously? Anybody have any idea what I should do? Thank you

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post #2758 of 3533
10/6/11 at 1:02am
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Hmmm I need some help fam. Me and my girl stopped talking a couple days ago. Were still young so she's the first girl I've taken serious. I really liked her alot like I never connected with someone else the way I connected with her, we always had problems though. We would have atleast one big fight every other week. Anyways she told me from the start she wasn't ready to be in a relationship but I still tried and after 4 months she's still not ready so she doesn't want me to wait so were not talking anymore. We stopped talking saturday and she's all I've been able to think about. I'm not depressed but I do get sad when I think about her, Im trying to let this go but we would stop talking alot when we were talking so maybe I'm holding on subconsiously? Anybody have any idea what I should do? Thank you


I wont give you advice but will say that time heals most wounds. I am sorry you are in this fix.
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post #2759 of 3533
10/6/11 at 3:28am
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We would have atleast one big fight every other week. ... after 4 months ....

If you're fighting once a week in the first four months, run far and fast. If it ain't over, end it sooner not later.

My breakup was mutual, after nine months of weekly fights and monthly explosions. Before that, there were nine good months.

Now, press ups every second morning, cycling more than ever, and bought whitening mouthwash and blackhead remover today. I guess I must be single.
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post #2760 of 3533
10/6/11 at 4:16am
Dude. You're on this forum too?
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