I broke up with my gf (general breakup thread)

[Dakota rube]

I don't understand the whole "never talk to me again" attitude.
You were in love. How can you just cut those people out of your life?

Can't even be friends? Seems childish to me.

 

[bbhewee]

The whole "don't talk to me" thing comes from the following: from my standpoint, the relationship was going very well, and then this was dropped out of the blue. Talking to her would be letting her end things on her own terms and then getting everything she wanted out of the situation, while I'd have to indulge her wants and needs and still be reminded constantly of her and how I still am in love with her.
Ive remained friends with a couple of exes where one or the other ended things, but there was mutual acknowledgement that the relationship wasn't working out.

I most likely won't see her when she comes around. I agree with you APK. I think my mind was already made up but there's always this lingering "what if".

 

[randallr]

Date her again but bang girls on the side. It will probably make you a lot more happy in the long run. Plus, you can always rock her world if you need to.

 

[mellowfellow]

Girlfriend and I of six years broke up over the weekend. We have so much love for each other but we need some growing to do on ourselves apart. This hurts so much. Right now I'm having a hard time believing in myself that i can move on.

 

[edinatlanta]

So...I broke up with the girl we were still cool talking and ****.

Well March 3 or something was the first time we met and she left me a really nice card about all thank you for being in my life and ****. St. Patricks was when we became bf and gf or whatever.

So last Friday rolls around and I get a text and she's all....so my nosy coworker was asking about you.

I said "howd that happen" "She wanted to know why I don't get flowers anymore" "Is that your way of subtly asking for more flowers

" "No which is why I almost didn't mention it but something did bother me about it" "what bothered you I was joking"

Remember...we broke up: "Well you didn't acknowledge either of our anniversaries".

I texted her and was like I'm sorry I meant nothing by it blah blah blah she goes "but you didn't say or do anything" and I just let it die.

Going to text her later be like "left my charger @ work and phone died" because I just don't know how to tell someone gently that I was unaware you had to acknowledge anniversaries when you break up with someone

 

[deadly7]

***** sounds psycho. Just don't respond unless she has something of yours.

 

[edinatlanta]

Originally Posted by deadly7

***** sounds psycho. Just don't respond unless she has something of yours.

I already knew of the cray-cray.

 

[Neo_Version 7]

Originally Posted by mellowfellow

Girlfriend and I of six years broke up over the weekend. We have so much love for each other but we need some growing to do on ourselves apart. This hurts so much. Right now I'm having a hard time believing in myself that i can move on.

Six years? Wow. I can't even imagine. I hope things look up for you.

As for Edward, I had no idea you were the flower-giving type. I always thought of you as being super alpha. A fail but alpha. It's nice to know this side of you.

 

[edinatlanta]

Originally Posted by Neo_Version 7

As for Edward, I had no idea you were the flower-giving type. I always thought of you as being super alpha.

False dilemma dood.

Also: are you attracted to the flower-giving type?

 

[Neo_Version 7]

There are not many things I truly like in the world but flowers are one of them.

 

[mm84321]

Are you an orchids or rose type of gal?

 

[kwilkinson]

Sometimes I buy flowers for my own apartment. They look pretty and smell nice. Y'all are the weird ones if you don't like flowers.

 

[edinatlanta]

Originally Posted by kwilkinson

Sometimes I buy flowers for my own apartment. They look pretty and smell nice. Y'all are the weird ones if you don't like flowers.

Fo real.

I may buy some tonight.

Planted some this weekend.

 

[gort]

Originally Posted by mellowfellow

Girlfriend and I of six years broke up over the weekend. We have so much love for each other but we need some growing to do on ourselves apart. This hurts so much. Right now I'm having a hard time believing in myself that i can move on.

Sorry to hear. Six years and no ring? Any pressure from her?

 

[Neo_Version 7]

Originally Posted by mm84321

Are you an orchids or rose type of gal?

I adore orchids. Roses are classic and while they are overexposed, I still like them. I love Morning Glories as well -- especially Little Violets. Primroses and lilies. There are days where I enjoy sunflowers too. You can't go wrong with flowers really.