Originally Posted by APK
The friends thing doesn't really work out. You might be able to be cordial or friendly with them, but it's an oddity when two people are able to actually be good friends following a long/intense romantic relationship. My logic has always been that if you were able to be such good friends, the relationship probably wouldn't have fallen apart.
Originally Posted by Prada_Ferragamo
I have to agree with what everyone has said above with being friends. Too awkward.
Originally Posted by m@T
I've kinda been a serial relationship guy for the past decade, punctuated by intermittent bursts of singledom upon which the how we roll thread has hinged.
1st of those gfs - 4 yrs together - ended on decent 'weve just grown apart terms' - we are still friends and chat regularly on line. There was a little animosity for a while, but we're all good and continue to think highly of each other.
2nd of those gfs - 2 yrs together - ended very very hostile, patched up in due course, and hung out last week in HK. We're ok, but there is still a lot between us. I'm still in love with that fucking girl, and her me...but there is a lot of crap between us.
3rd - 1.5 yrs together - ended very hostile. She ignores me on sight and told my staff a couple of months ago that I 'destroyed her life'. She was fucking crazy. Stories of her conduct have been documented on here in the past.
4th - 2 yrs together - the start of this thread. We're pretty friendly. She is now dating one of my friends, and with my sincerest best wishes. It is occasionally awkward, but we have all been grown ups about it, and honestly, she's great, he's great, go over there and be great together.
4.5 - just like 6mths together - ended when she left the country (see upthread) and on good terms. Terms promptly deteriorated. See previous post.
So I guess that means I have about a 50% stay as friends/friendly ratio with my exes, generally taking a bit of time to settle down....
Hmm, I've had similar experiences. Still have trouble communicating with an ex I've spent years and years with. She's married now and doesn't feel it's appropriate to keep in touch. But this new breakup, we were like the golden couple, everyone thought we were gonna make babies and get married. So far we've been super friendly, talked yesterday for an hour, seems like we both are happy and sure that this is the way to go.
So I am really hoping we can make it as friends.
Anyway, details on the crazy broad? (bolded)
Originally Posted by Tokyo Slim
A year, a month and some days and I'm still dreaming about her. Stupid fucking emotions. Shit ain't worth it. Castration is the way to go.
Naaah, it gets better. But really, fucking a ton of other girls helps greatly.