Originally Posted by username79
I cannot go up to a woman and initiate a conversation with her at random. It doesn't make a difference if she is 500 lbs and using three bar stools. Still cannot do it. It induces a mind blowing amount of fear and anxiety in me -- even if I am already drunk. Usually when I go to a bar with friends a girl will walk over and start talking to me, which helps break the ice. I am fine in pretty much all other social situations.
Actually, this is the hardest part for me. It really depends on the situation, who I'm with, how much alcohol I've consumed, and how many people/who those people are that she's with.
I have a lot of apprehension going up to very attractive girls in large groups, it's easier if I have some guy friends with me and someone starts a conversation. If she's alone, I'm drunk enough, and with enough ribbing from my friends I would go up to a pretty girl. Like I said before, the initial "hello" is the hardest part.
I guess that's why those PUA's say to go up to the girl within 3 seconds of seeing her, kind of keeps you from thinking too much...also doesn't let you come up with anything interesting to strike a conversation with unless you use those gimmicky PUA lines they expect you to memorize.
My current girlfriend actually came up to me at the bar which helped to alleviate my issue. I was also extremely...extremely drunk....