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post #16 of 72
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I don't think it's that tough, all you have to do is tell the restaurant that you want the bill split in two, and they will bring you two separate bills, not that difficult to keep track of IMO.
There are some restaurants which have a one-check-per-table policy.
Odd . . . a lot of restaurants will not do separate checks based upon each diner's orders, but I have never come across one that is not willing to split a check in half.
post #17 of 72
The Chicago Chop House(one of the best steak houses in the USA) has a one-check-per-table policy. Not a problem for me because I evenly split if going out with another couple. Insisting on getting separate checks is more common among college students...much to the chagrin of servers. .
post #18 of 72
Maybe someone with experience can weigh in, but I had heard that the real problem came if at the end of the meal a table wanted the check rearranged among 2 or more diners. That means backing out the transactions, restating, and so on, right when the waiter probably has better things to do. I'd guess that if everyone were up front with this, it would be less of a problem. Occasionally, if I want to have some really good wine and my dinner partner (not a date-- I'm out of that game) is not as well-heeled, I'll often volunteer to take the wine bill if said friend will pay for the food. That requires a certain amount of trust, but it's one way of trying some good Burgundy without raising everyone's stress level.
post #19 of 72
When I was waiting tables (high end place), it was not a problem to have two checks for your table if you told me upfront before you started ordering.   Splitting a check down the middle is also no problem.  2 credit cards or one cash and one credit, whatever....   But I wouldnt split and itemize it according to what each person had if you asked me at the end of the meal.  If that's what you want to do, just say so up front.  With multiple courses and drinks and wine, it takes too long. K
post #20 of 72
I wasn't suggesting that they go total up what everyone ordered at the end of the meal, but simply split the bill in half and hand one to each party, but I imagine that one could have separate checks set up in the manner above, it just seems a little bit precise, and cheap IMO.
post #21 of 72
I vote to take turns picking up the check since most of my friends live out of town so if we are visiting they pick up the check and if they are visiting we pick up the check. Usually it is a fight to pay...it is nice to have good friends.
post #22 of 72
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I wasn't suggesting that they go total up what everyone ordered at the end of the meal, but simply split the bill in half and hand one to each party, but I imagine that one could have separate checks set up in the manner above, it just seems a little bit precise, and cheap IMO.
Kinda like having a tipping formula that starts with 15% and adding or subtracting based on certain events and guidelines???   Yeah, I agree that it seems a quite a bit precise and cheap... If it's a couple of drinks in a bar, then one of us usually just picks it up and next time someone else will.  Meals, usually just split the check...  If I had the lobster or a lot more whiskey, then I'll throw in a few more bucks.  No biggie.   K (Sorry, couldn't help pointing it out...)
post #23 of 72
one thing that pisses me off is that when my wife and her friends go out, they have sort of adopted a system where they pay according to the abilities of their husbands. so myself and the doctor in the group seem to treat all of the other women an awful lot.
post #24 of 72
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one thing that pisses me off is that when my wife and her friends go out, they have sort of adopted a system where they pay according to the abilities of their husbands. so myself and the doctor in the group seem to treat all of the other women an awful lot.
My, how does something like that ever get started?
post #25 of 72
good question - but one of the girls got married last summer, and one of the friends (the doctors wife) ended up stuck with the bar tab of the bachlorette party. I think that some of the girls just think that if you are comfortable then you shouldn't mind puting in for those who are less so, although it is a matter of priorities. I am sure that each of those ladies that let the bill lie there and wouldn't think of picking it up, have a bigger TV than we do.
post #26 of 72
Globetrotter that sounds a lot like communism to me. I wish I could remember where I read something about that where 10 guys would eat dinner and they would pay a percentage that they could afford. In the end the 2 richest guys ended up leaving and the other 8 couldn't afford to go out to eat anymore... We have picked up the tab for friends before that were hurting for cash...and just pretended that it was a late birthday present or something like that. To be EXPECTED to pay is ridiculous.
post #27 of 72
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good question - but one of the girls got married last summer, and one of the friends (the doctors wife) ended up stuck with the bar tab of the bachlorette party. I think that some of the girls just think that if you are comfortable then you shouldn't mind puting in for those who are less so, although it is a matter of priorities. I am sure that each of those ladies that let the bill lie there and wouldn't think of picking it up, have a bigger TV than we do.
Manners are lost on some people. Strange group dynamics. If they can't afford their evening out, they should think twice before indulging.
post #28 of 72
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I wasn't suggesting that they go total up what everyone ordered at the end of the meal, but simply split the bill in half and hand one to each party, but I imagine that one could have separate checks set up in the manner above, it just seems a little bit precise, and cheap IMO.
Kinda like having a tipping formula that starts with 15% and adding or subtracting based on certain events and guidelines??? Yeah, I agree that it seems a quite a bit precise and cheap... If it's a couple of drinks in a bar, then one of us usually just picks it up and next time someone else will. Meals, usually just split the check... If I had the lobster or a lot more whiskey, then I'll throw in a few more bucks. No biggie. K (Sorry, couldn't help pointing it out...)
Point taken, but I think there's a distinct difference, in the case of a split bill, I am dining with someone that I'm presumably friends with and will see again on a regular basis. If there are huge discrepancies in the paid versus owed amount, it can be settled later, while in the case of a gratuity, 99% of the time, it is a one time transaction. If there's a pattern of inequity in the first situation, then I will address it.
post #29 of 72
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Point taken, but I think there's a distinct difference, in the case of a split bill, I am dining with someone that I'm presumably friends with and will see again on a regular basis.  If there are huge discrepancies in the paid versus owed amount, it can be settled later, while in the case of a gratuity, 99% of the time, it is a one time transaction.  If there's a pattern of inequity in the first situation, then I will address it.
Agreed for the most part...
post #30 of 72
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Globetrotter that sounds a lot like communism to me.  I wish I could remember where I read something about that where 10 guys would eat dinner and they would pay a percentage that they could afford.  In the end the 2 richest guys ended up leaving and the other 8 couldn't afford to go out to eat anymore... We have picked up the tab for friends before that were hurting for cash...and just pretended that it was a late birthday present or something like that.   To be EXPECTED to pay is ridiculous.
It's some analogy to the tax system. I remember reading it a while ago, but can't find it now. K
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