Originally Posted by Connemara
Why do people think the "It's selfish to abstain from having kids!" argument holds water?
i know you're trolling here, but i will explain anyway. selfish 1: concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others as in, what shall i do with the next ten years of my life? devote it to ME or devote it to raising two babies? what should i do with my salary? spend it on ME or spend it on children? of course you can be selfless and not have kids. but be real: lots of single people with no kids do not give heavily to charity or devote forty hours a week, over and above their jobs, to volunteer work. people without kids are more self-centered. any parent will tell you that kids force you to give up a lot of your care for yourself. sure it's jealousy talking, and sure the non-breeders can scoff at the idea that spending all your dough on baby clothes and college tuition is actually spending money selfishly.