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post #16 of 28
12/2/08 at 3:49pm
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Originally Posted by davidj19 View Post
So I bumped into one of the friends that I knew last night and I asked how badly I embarrassed myself and she said I didn't embarrass myself too badly. Apparently I just kept asking her friend the same questions over and over again and then disappeared to bathroom to vomit the rest of the evening. She knew I was pretty drunk and was probably just amused by me. She also said that her friend thought my apology was sweet. So I guess it could have been worse. So I asked the friend to casually feel her out to see if I have completely turned her off or not. My game plan is stop by her place with a nice, simple but not too fancy bouquet of flowers then perhaps see if she would like to go for dinner sometime? I have this fusiony kinda upperscale pizza place in mind(its a nice but since they just serve gourmet pizza it keeps it kind of casual). Are the flowers too much? I don't think I've ever met a girl who didn't like flowers.

This is proof that the apology was unnecessary. If you had actually done anything the least bit offensive she would already be permanently incommunicado. The fact that she thought what you said was sweet means that she is crushing on you and you probably have about a week where you can do whatever you want with her and still come out looking like an angel. So strike fast, while the iron is hot. The crush is a brief, golden window of opportunity.

And no on the flowers. You don't need to add anything to this situation to improve your standing in her eyes.
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post #17 of 28
12/2/08 at 4:33pm
Dude. You already messed up by talking to her friends and acting needy.

Let this be a lesson: next time, just non-chalantly, with a grin, say "Hey, we got a bit tipsy the other night. Let's grab a bite [drink/coffee] and get to know each other a bit without the alcohol this time". It is forward, because you say "get to know each other", but this is fine, because you know she was interested already so you are in the driver's seat. Also, by saying this in a light-hearted manner, you show that you accept getting drunk and silly and this is not something you are deeply ashamed or embarrassed about. When in doubt, hide your shame and embarrassment.

But, now that you have already crossed that line, just try to play it off cool. No flowers (unless you already told the friends - they told her). Stop communicating with the friends about her. Just be a cool dude and don't take things too seriously at this stage. You seem like a decently cool dude, but you have just fallen out of your zone. Get back in it and make it happen.
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post #18 of 28
12/2/08 at 7:49pm
I see no problem with sending a Facebook message, provided you use intelligent grammar and spelling. Facebook is here to stay, an entire generation lives on it, and it provides a great casual medium for saying things that are awkward in person. Treat it like a letter, and it still comes off as thoughtful without the burden of penmanship.

+1 on the no flowers.
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post #19 of 28
12/2/08 at 8:12pm
If this is the most ungentlemanly you've been then may God have mercy on my soul for some things I did in college.
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post #20 of 28
12/2/08 at 8:14pm
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Originally Posted by PartagasIV View Post
If this is the most ungentlemanly you've been then may God have mercy on my soul for some things I did this year.

Fixed and +1
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post #21 of 28
12/2/08 at 8:30pm
You've shown too much interest in her. Chicks don't want a gentleman, they want a challenge. Your facebook message should have been more something like this: "Hey partygirl, thanks for the help while I was sick last night. How about you make it up to me by buying me dinner?" The only thing you can do now is wait 2-3 months until she forgets about you completely and then introduce yourself again, but this time not so SF. Chicks these days can't handle SF. Now get on it!
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post #22 of 28
12/2/08 at 8:33pm
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Originally Posted by tiecollector View Post
You've shown too much interest in her. Chicks don't want a gentleman, they want a challenge. Your facebook message should have been more something like this: "Hey partygirl, thanks for the help while I was sick last night. How about you make it up to me by buying me dinner?"

The only thing you can do now is wait 2-3 months until she forgets about you completely and then introduce yourself again, but this time not so SF. Chicks these days can't handle SF.

Now get on it!

I'll rispeckfully disagree. 2-3 months is like 10 years these days. She will move on and find other dudes. It certainly is a valid strategy if you don't care whether or not it works out, but not if you do. I think he should strike now while the iron is hot. Interest isn't terrible (especially while drunk) if you can reverse course and be cool once more. It all comes down to the big dinner. Don't eff it up, bro.
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post #23 of 28
12/2/08 at 9:01pm
In this thread, don't listen to people who listen to Mystery the Magician.
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post #24 of 28
12/2/08 at 9:14pm
Eason, are guys on this forum really this bad with girls? Flowers for the random girl? Pickup artist bullshit? C'mon guys. This is Style Forum. Have some style in your game.
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post #25 of 28
12/2/08 at 9:18pm
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Originally Posted by Eason View Post
In this thread, don't listen to people who listen to Mystery the Magician.

+1. i hate when u guys talk in certains! like you know how every situation is. you guys prob havent layed anything over a 4.395.
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post #26 of 28
12/2/08 at 9:37pm
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Originally Posted by West24 View Post
+1. i hate when u guys talk in certains! like you know how every situation is. you guys prob havent layed anything over a 4.395.

I laid your mom.

Where is the PU bullshit in this threak?
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post #27 of 28
12/2/08 at 9:40pm
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Originally Posted by chronoaug View Post
Eason, are guys on this forum really this bad with girls? Flowers for the random girl? Pickup artist bullshit? C'mon guys. This is Style Forum. Have some style in your game.

But I thought we should carry flasks to give girls alcohol if they want, or don't want any. And invite them out to picnics and kite flying instead of meals.
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post #28 of 28
12/2/08 at 9:49pm
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Originally Posted by Jumbie View Post
I feel dumber for having read this.

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