First, welcome back Mex.
Second, and you know I love you brother, but did you have to throw a hand grenade in on your first post back?
Third: This again?
Fourth: I'm going try to stay true to form and tread the middle here. We're all victims of our own circumstance. Sometimes I'm able and truly enjoy hooking someone up. Sometimes I'm not -- either because, yes, I have bills to pay, or because my buy-in was large, or because I ate too much broccoli that day. Sometimes I make a genuine mistake with my initial expectations, and just as often when I ask for offers I get lowballed -- kinda goes with the audience. We're all just doing what we can and what we feel is right under the circumstances.
Should people be more realistic, diligent with their homework and open to offers? Yes -- I'll count myself first in that lot. Does it suck we don't live in a Utopian, Kitonic commune of shared free clothing? Yes. But such is the imperfection that is life.
Switching gears only slightly, if the folks don't think the bar has been raised, re-read the thread (as you're so anxious to encourage newbs to do). Early posts feature much more Thomas Pink than is seen lately. As so often, we seem to be longing for a Golden Age that's actually currently upon us.
So, as my Dad used to tell us when we kids fought in the back seat: SMILE! Back to the find posts.
I think, out of all the times this argument had been raised, this is the most eloquent response. This needs to be archived and re-posted when this topic inevitably comes up again.