I'm getting married in late 2015, and my fiancee is crazily-well organised, right down to fonts for name cards, etc etc
$36k is huge, but I can see how the figure gets there though:
$150/head inc grog for 100 guests is $15k. Add in a good suit, a nice dress, accessories, and you're up $3k each for clothing ($21k thus far); throw in flowers (NFI but I know its lots), photographer ($2-$3k), transport, clothes for groomsmen/bridesmaids, wedding bands, etc, and you're very close to $30k for a 'smallish' wedding.
That's what I don't get - I don't even like 100 people.
For me, it would be my intermediate family, 2-3 good friends who I know would behave whilst being bored shitless.
I think for women, there is a level of one-upmanship and need to stick the boot into work colleagues, childhood friends, and the girl from the coffee shop who gives you the evil eye.
Where'd you get so tasteful?
Btw - channel 7 showed Bill Shorten and Abbott's faux pas - same boots, suit, shirt and tie. Scary stuff.