I'm reluctant to say this in public but you know:
- the first step is to admit you are powerless in the grip of this need.
- recognizing a higher power that can give strength;
- examining past errors with the help of a sponsor (experienced member);
The two above are referring to me of course.
- making amends for these errors;
- learning to live a new life with a new code of behavior;
- helping others who suffer from the same compulsions.