There is a lot of great advice here and it is stated much better than I ever could. My advice to you or any soon to be father particularly those who are not sure if they are ready to be fathers is to relax and you will develop that connection with your child. I have had a number of friends who were concerned about being a father, they were never around babies much and weren't sure they knew how to handle them or what to do with them. I told all of them that unless they are a complete sociopath they will develop a deep connection with their children that they never thought possible. Some men develop it as soon as their children are born and for others it takes a few weeks or even a few months, but one day you will wake up and realize that they are the most important thing in your lives and you would do anything to love them and protect them. Don't worry if your wife seems to connect with them sooner than you. Do what you can to make her life easier, that in turn will make your life easier. Congratulations! Good luck.
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11/13/08 at 2:28pm