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post #46 of 354
Thread Starter 
You guys are good! Thanks for all the advice so far. A lot of food for thought

Thanks for the encouraging words and congrats too
post #47 of 354
congrats.

Speaking as a son and not as a father, if you intend to help your kids or do something for your kids. Do it, and dont complain about it.

Make sure they understand that you're helping them, and they should be greatful, but dont spend your spare time complaining about what needs to be done and whats being done.

I heard alot growing up about how expensive it was to have me and my brother and sister around, and being old enough to contemplate it now i understand it was my parents DECISION to have kids.

Set the rules before hand, not afterwards, no one is a mind reader.

Dont spend all your time reminding them that they're not grown-ups and letting them know that they dont know how tough the real world is, they live in the real world, just like you, and they'll find out as they go.

I suggest if its at all feasable you let your kids know what you do, and involve them in it, so they have an understanding of what daddy does.


That being said, from your personality i've experience on here, i think you're going to be a GREAT dad! Congrats.
post #48 of 354
i have 3 boys, ages 8, 6 and 4:

i'd say:

when you do something, so it for the right reasons, not because you're overcompensating for your past or prior behavior

don't be afraid to say no, but don't be afraid to say yes either

no matter how boring a baby is, enjoy them all the time because it goes really fast (as does life in general post fatherhood)


start understanding that the pecking order is child first, wife next, you last

attend every school function and game you can because again they are fleeting and will want nothing to do with you soon enough

provide a good example of how to treat women whether you have a son or daughter because your son will emulate you and your daughters will invariably end up with someone like you
post #49 of 354
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Originally Posted by romafan;1452641

I wasn't real keen on the support groups, but they can be a good resource for nanny contacts, buying & selling gear, etc. : [url


my wife really enjoys the moms of twins groups here in chicago. it is really nice to have people who understand the situation.

and, yeah, get help if you can (and Inthink that you can swing it) we have a woman for 30 hours a week, and it is very helpful.
post #50 of 354
mommy groups are great for trading too. we've traded toddler beds for cribs, etc.
post #51 of 354
I am 22. So I can only speak from a son's perspective.
  1. Pictures of your child are good. But don't take any naked pictures, that's not cool (especially if you show their friends later in life)
  2. Encourage them to play team sports (emphasis on encourage)
  3. Don't push them to do anything against their interest (piano, football, math... whatever) You are only wasting time and money
  4. Pass him down something meaningful (a watch, a knife, a jacket...)
  5. And finally, Love your wife.
post #52 of 354
I am expecting a baby in a few months, too. How to make baby a tennis pro or concert pianist?
post #53 of 354
RUN!

Just kidding. I like that drugstore.com suggestion. I used them for a while and was very happy with the service and quick delivery. Also, if you have an AmericanAirlines ff#, they give something like 6 miles per $
post #54 of 354
G, IIRC, you are having two boys, right? I have some great advice for you for when they are about 3, that you probrably don't want to hear now. remind me then.
post #55 of 354
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Originally Posted by globetrotter View Post
G, IIRC, you are having two boys, right? I have some great advice for you for when they are about 3, that you probrably don't want to hear now. remind me then.

That's right. I'll put that in my calendar
post #56 of 354
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Originally Posted by pocketsquareguy View Post
I bet I drew a million sharks!


That is hilarious. I LOL-ed.

One day I'll probably have a kid or so, and I'm definitely stealing that idea
post #57 of 354
No advice here, but CONGRATULATIONS to you and your wife!
post #58 of 354
Thread Starter 
Special question for the NYC dads (e.g. romafan and others): do I need to own a car now? Can I survive with cabs and occasional zipcars?

I should note that all the grandparents and family members live overseas so there wouldn't be a lot of weekends at grandpa and grandma
post #59 of 354
You're an ibanker, but don't be an absentee parent. Mine were and I turned in to a cold-hearted conservative. Seriously though, my relationship with my father is luke-warm, partly because i didn't see a lot of him growing up. I never developed any comfort talking to him about anything besides politics, business, or history. To this day I can't talk to him about personal stuff (queue Ed).
post #60 of 354
live on LI now, but while the cab thing doesn't work so well, a zip car is a good option.

also, i always make time for the boys no matter how shot i am. i coach bball and baseball and make sure i am with them between 7 an 8:30 every night, and put them to bed before going to the gym. i had no dad around so i tend to overcompensate but that's better than undercompensating or repeating the pattern.



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Special question for the NYC dads (e.g. romafan and others): do I need to own a car now? Can I survive with cabs and occasional zipcars?

I should note that all the grandparents and family members live overseas so there wouldn't be a lot of weekends at grandpa and grandma
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