Yes, m, give us an update!
(And add me to the list of people wishing you a belated congrats!)
Originally Posted by in stitches
very cool that you are considering going for more kids, G.
ime, there was no influx of getting sick with kid #2 or #3, thank g-d. but tbh, i dont recall that happening to us with kid #1 either. maybe we were lucky? in any case, i endorse you having a second child, if that is worth anything, obviously i wont be the one charged with the child's upbringing so its easy for me to say go for it.
even if ya'll get sick for a bit, the joy is beyond worth it imo. one of the things we enjoy the most about having more than one child is seeing the siblings play so well with each other. beyond the relief of the kids having what do without needing us all the time, seeing siblings that you brought into the world who love and appreciate each other is a tremendous thing to behold. i truly feel blessed to have kids that get along so well.
whatever you do, i know you guys will be doing the right thing. i have seen your posts about family and clearly you guys are great parents who understand what it means to have kids and what factors into these important decisions.
We never thought we'd stop at one. Truth be told, MrsG would probably have half a dozen if I were amenable to it, but I'm not inclined to do so. I love being a father, but I don't have any desire to have a litter. That said, I do want my son to have a sibling, both because I value my relationship with mine and because I'm afraid he'd end up with entitled-center-of-the-universe-only-child syndrome. That all being the case, when/if the next child is coming has become a big topic in our house, given I don't want them to end up being five or six years apart in age.
Getting sick definitely isn't going to stop us from having another one if we decide we want to. It was just something that came up as part of a bigger discussion on what it was like the first time around, and that made me think to ask what others experienced. If you didn't have it with kid #1, count yourself lucky. It was awful. Hands down the hardest part of my son's first year.
Originally Posted by globetrotter
my experience is that after the first kid we didn't get sick anywhere near as much, as a matter of fact, the twins didn't get sick anywhere near as much as their older brother. the whole daycare thing might be a once for a family event. but fuck, I was so sick that year.
This is good to hear, thanks. One thing I think of is the teachers we know who've had kids. They fared dramatically better during their kids' first year than we did with ours because they'd already spent a bunch of time around sick kids during the beginning of their career. Using that logic, I figure it should be easier with kid #2, and it sounds like that's the case.
And, yeah, it was staggering how sick we were for that first year.