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post #31 of 197
11/10/08 at 11:48am
My wife is a white Guatemalan. Her parents are Americans who moved to Guatemala. She was born and raised there and did not move to the US until college. It is often hard for me to understand what her individual personality is compared with her cultural identity. Going to Guatemala a few times and experiencing the culture really helped me get a handle on how/why she typically reacts to certain social situations. Because she is racially white, we do not experience external pressure or weirdness.
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post #32 of 197
11/10/08 at 12:35pm
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That is a good point Rach. I would also like to hear the experiences from the gay perspective as well. Gays are discriminated against simply on sexual preference, regularly, but throw in race and what happens? Now this could be viewed as Straight to gay discrimination and vice versa as well as amongst the gay community.
I think the gay community is pretty accepting of anything when it is serious and committed. I've never heard of anybody who was accepted first for their homosexuality being then not accepted when they brought home a partner who was a different race/ethnicity. The only difference would be like anything else... if they feel the partner isn't a good "match" based on any number of non-ethnic factors. There's enough prejudice just based on the attraction, so beyond that, I find that most are really accepting of WHO you pick. I've never heard of anybody be like, "Oh, White X is dating Black Y. I wonder how that will work out!" Most everybody is just really proud that one has found a partner for whom they really like. If they can get past the social prejudice of being gay, the ethnic/racial factor is really minor. My friends, both gay and straight, are generally fairly jealous of my partner, just because he's really hot. He also doesn't speak English, so luckily I don't have to worry about any of them trying to "woo" him. (haha)
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post #33 of 197
11/10/08 at 12:44pm
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Do people who are/have been in interracial (as in different skin colour as opposed to different cultures) relationships ever get looks or remarks from other people when out in public together?
I think people in civilized places are generally pretty civilized.
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post #34 of 197
11/10/08 at 12:48pm
It's fun learning which things are the same across cultures and which are culture-specific. It's not always what you would expect.
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post #35 of 197
11/10/08 at 12:58pm
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I think the cultural differences between non FOB Americans is pretty small in regards to race. I feel a lot of Americans who like to think they have some kind of strong cultural identity would be very clueless if they were ever dropped into their "motherland." Anyone remember in The Sopranos when Tony's crew went to Italy? That's what I'm talking about.
I have found this to be true in my case. I am half Korean and moved to Korea three years ago. I was born and raised in America (except for 3 years in Hong Kong and 1 year in Seoul as a toddler). I was practically fluent in Korean before I moved here and thought I knew about Korean culture but there were a lot of cultural differences. In college, I had roommates of many different ethnic backgrounds (white, black, Asian, Hispanic) but I thought we were fairly similar for the most part. I think there would be bigger differences if I were to live with my Korean friends. In the end, I think there are more similarities than differences across cultures but there are still some differences.
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post #36 of 197
11/10/08 at 2:23pm
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I have found this to be true in my case. I am half Korean and moved to Korea three years ago. I was born and raised in America (except for 3 years in Hong Kong and 1 year in Seoul as a toddler). I was practically fluent in Korean before I moved here and thought I knew about Korean culture but there were a lot of cultural differences. In college, I had roommates of many different ethnic backgrounds (white, black, Asian, Hispanic) but I thought we were fairly similar for the most part. I think there would be bigger differences if I were to live with my Korean friends. In the end, I think there are more similarities than differences across cultures but there are still some differences.

My experience was somewhat the opposite, though not quite. Growing up I'd imagine I'd be more similiar to white kids than West Indian kids but the West Indian (the ones who lived in cities in their native land), since we all lived under American cultre but the West Indians and I tended to listen to listen to the same music and watch the same shows to a much greater extent. Not to mention things like spankings and such which most white kids I know never really encountered.
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post #37 of 197
11/10/08 at 6:22pm
i'm a white dude. live in japan, but i'm from canada. never dated a white woman in my life, never intend to. currently dating a japanese girl.

i find as others have mentioned language is usually the biggest problem. the second biggest problem is japanese girls don't want to go on the birth control pill which is a pain in the ass. ok it's not that big a problem but still.

i've never found any major problems really, asian parents can be a pain but as long as they like you you're golden.
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post #38 of 197
11/10/08 at 6:31pm
Haven't truly dated a white girl since HS.
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post #39 of 197
11/10/08 at 7:01pm
I've never dated anyone that wasn't white. I just am not attracted to other races(seen some pale asian girls I thought were pretty though). Dated girls from various cultures. Dated a girl from Romania for a very long time and was pretty close to her family.
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post #40 of 197
11/10/08 at 7:02pm
I ate French Saturday night.
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post #41 of 197
11/10/08 at 7:18pm
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i'm a white dude. live in japan, but i'm from canada. never dated a white woman in my life, never intend to. currently dating a japanese girl.

i find as others have mentioned language is usually the biggest problem. the second biggest problem is japanese girls don't want to go on the birth control pill which is a pain in the ass. ok it's not that big a problem but still.

i've never found any major problems really, asian parents can be a pain but as long as they like you you're golden.

Why do they not want to take the pill?
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post #42 of 197
11/10/08 at 7:50pm
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Originally Posted by merkur View Post
Do you date people from outside your own race/culture and if so, what is it like?

Why not go out and experience it for yourself instead of asking people you don't know about it? I retract my question if you're married.
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post #43 of 197
11/10/08 at 7:52pm
Whether by circumstance or otherwise, I've only ever dated white women, but (pre-marriage) I certainly would not have been opposed to the idea of dating someone of a different race or cultural background.
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post #44 of 197
11/10/08 at 7:56pm
I live in NYC, so I've dated girls from pretty much all major ethnicity groups. And I never really thought about it that way. The only thing that's really different from dating a caucasian is in the way other people look at you when you're together. Otherwise, there's no difference - of course there are cultural differences if from different cultures or religions, and individual differences, but nothing I can think of that's ethnicity related.
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post #45 of 197
11/10/08 at 9:09pm
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Why do they not want to take the pill?

The pill has only recently been legalized here, so it is still uncommon for girls to be on it. Many, for this reason, worry about it being safe. Also the Japanese Ministry of Health (like the FDA in Japan) requires that every drug sold within its borders be tested on Japanese people. Surprisingly enough the pill wasn't approved till after Viagra.
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