The first time I bought from AoC, Adam specifically asked me if I'd been fitted on the particular last I was buying. I'm sure he asked you the same thing, but even if you hadn't been it sounds like you gave him plenty of info, and I doubt he would have sold you what he sold you if he thought it wouldn't fit. Adam is a good guy and you ought to be able to work with him on ultimately getting it right. Even two exactly the same shell pairs can vary in fit - sometimes you have to just keep trying until you find the ones. A pain in the @ss, to be sure, but welcome to Internet shopping.
He asked me the exact same thing a few weeks ago. I told him about what I had and how it fit but he insisted I go in to a store and get fitted and am I glad that he did. I don't think I could order Aldens from any site that wouldn't take returns because as you said they all fit differently and IMO they all look much different in person than they do in pics.