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post #181 of 294
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Originally Posted by globetrotter View Post
have to say that this is an extremly mature way of looking at it. good for you.
I've always found that humor is the best way to diffuse touchy/dangerous situations. In 30 years (okay, 29), I've NEVER been in a fight, nor really ever come close to one. I've never really seen the point and weighing the costs/benefits to doing it never made sense to me. AND, keep in mind that most of you know I'm a gay guy who grew up in a Bible Belt rural town in KY... so the fact that I've managed to avoid fights, have NEVER been beat/up assaulted, etc. should probably tell you that I know more about "diffusing touchy situations" than most. That's why I'm always both bewildered and a little amused at the fighting threads or the threads about "which martial art is best for defense," as though for the vast majority of us we're still living in lawless lands requiring daily combat for survival. I'd say 99% of the fights people have been in on this forum have been for some misplaced "assault to manhood" than because the fight was REALLY necessary. Instead, I think it's always better to get everybody laughing while also making the larger point... which is that the douchebag in question who does the ass-grabbing is probably going home alone that night, while I'M the one going home with the ass. I've ALREADY won, ever before a punch has to be thrown.
post #182 of 294
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Originally Posted by rach2jlc View Post
I've always found that humor is the best way to diffuse touchy/dangerous situations. In 30 years (okay, 29), I've NEVER been in a fight, nor really ever come close to one. I've never really seen the point and weighing the costs/benefits to doing it never made sense to me. AND, keep in mind that most of you know I'm a gay guy who grew up in a Bible Belt rural town in KY... so the fact that I've managed to avoid fights, have NEVER been beat/up assaulted, etc. should probably tell you that I know more about "diffusing touchy situations" than most.

That's why I'm always both bewildered and a little amused at the fighting threads or the threads about "which martial art is best for defense," as though for the vast majority of us we're still living in lawless lands requiring daily combat for survival. I'd say 99% of the fights people have been in on this forum have been for some misplaced "assault to manhood" than because the fight was REALLY necessary.

Instead, I think it's always better to get everybody laughing while also making the larger point... which is that the douchebag in question who does the ass-grabbing is probably going home alone that night, while I'M the one going home with the ass.

I've ALREADY won, ever before a punch has to be thrown.

I've never been in a fight either. I hear you find out a lot about yourself that way. I have wanted to fight but only when in the car.
post #183 of 294
hs this thread not taken a slightly my sexist tone?m seriously if women are weak fragile irrational things that need to be protected form the outside world why did the OP bring her outside al women need to sty in there walled garden.
post #184 of 294
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Originally Posted by RunningBeagle View Post
I have wanted to fight but only when in the car.

Okay, me too... luckily, it's hard to throw punches at 75 miles an hour. But, if I could, that 80 year old lady in the Lincoln Town Car would have her ass laid out flat!!!
post #185 of 294
Admittedly, the OP asked "How would you have handled the situation." The answer to that is, "I don't know." But insofar as this thread has proceeded by evaluating how he handled the situation, I'd say "Win-Win". He threw a guy down in a bar, defending the honour of his wife. That got brownie points from the wife, and at the same time he didn't get his arse kicked by the guy. That is what they call a total result.
post #186 of 294
Check out how many friends he has with him.

If more than two, let it go. If less than two, beat the piss out of him.
post #187 of 294
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Originally Posted by VKK3450 View Post
Let me get this straight,

you went out to a bar...

in Athens, a notorious college partytown...

and a hell of a meatmarket...

after a big game...

and you threw a guy into the bar because he grabbed your admittedly drama queen wife's ass?

If you and your wife are that sensitive then you probably dont need to put yourself in those kinds of environments. I'm not condoning guys molesting your wife or any women, but ass grabbing in those situations is something that happens in college town bars. Guys grab girls asses. Girls grab guys asses. Everyone dances and does another shot.

At least those were the kind of college bars I used to hang out in when going to visit friends in Athens. Maybe you were in some grown up bar where more civilized behaviour would be expected, but if dudes were drinking PBR and watchin the game then it doesnt sound like it to me.

K


not going to read whole thread but after the first page...this post clearly stood out
post #188 of 294
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Originally Posted by distinctive View Post
So my wife and I and several of her friends went out after the Ga/Tn game in Athens Sat. I'm watching the Fl/LSU game in another part of the bar when my wife comes up to me. She can be a drama queen sometimes but she tells me that some guy just grabbed her ass. Now I was ready to blow this off but she tells me it wasn't a tap but an actual grab and squeeze. Not only that, she confronted him and he says "You liked it." That was the final straw. I'm not normally a confrontational person but things like this really get me going (that and I've had a few beers to boot). I go up to him and he starts playing dumb like what are you talking about...who?...etc. Then I say "her"-referring to my wife behind me and quirks this little smile. That really ticks me off and so I go into angry husband mode and start versing him on how he should learn to respect women. He tries to walk away and I grab his shoulder, he cusses me out and I throw him down in the bar...classy right? So he gets up and starts like shaking his PBR at me like a drunken fool. A few final words and my wife forces me to leave the bar. I got some points with the wife but I wasn't really proud of my actions. How would you have handled the situation?
You handled it, got out of the place with your respect and without an assault charge being filed. As for the person saying it was to be expected in such a bar, that's bullshit. If more people got their asses whipped for such shitty behavior, it would happen a whole lot less.
post #189 of 294
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Originally Posted by distinctive View Post
So my wife and I and several of her friends went out after the Ga/Tn game in Athens Sat. I'm watching the Fl/LSU game in another part of the bar when my wife comes up to me. She can be a drama queen sometimes but she tells me that some guy just grabbed her ass. Now I was ready to blow this off but she tells me it wasn't a tap but an actual grab and squeeze. Not only that, she confronted him and he says "You liked it." That was the final straw.

I'm not normally a confrontational person but things like this really get me going (that and I've had a few beers to boot). I go up to him and he starts playing dumb like what are you talking about...who?...etc. Then I say "her"-referring to my wife behind me and quirks this little smile. That really ticks me off and so I go into angry husband mode and start versing him on how he should learn to respect women. He tries to walk away and I grab his shoulder, he cusses me out and I throw him down in the bar...classy right? So he gets up and starts like shaking his PBR at me like a drunken fool. A few final words and my wife forces me to leave the bar.

I got some points with the wife but I wasn't really proud of my actions.

How would you have handled the situation?

Metroman would have hit him the moment his gives that little quirky smile.
Thumb to the throat..... let him gag and think about what he did for a moment.

But a true manly man would ask him to step outside.
post #190 of 294
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Originally Posted by Mauby View Post
Yeah, well when looking at an ass like that, we all go a little retarded.

...i starred too long.
post #191 of 294
What if the guy had been a biker gang member? Would it have mattered in how you all responded? Just curious.
post #192 of 294
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Originally Posted by sincerity View Post
not going to read whole thread but after the first page...this post clearly stood out

In my eyes there is no excuse for this behavior, no "condition" where it is permissible.

Is this thread really still going???
post #193 of 294
Obviously most of the people here have never been almost stabbed, so we have to leave it at that.
post #194 of 294
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Originally Posted by distinctive View Post
In my eyes there is no excuse for this behavior, no "condition" where it is permissible.
That's partly why it's still going. You have no control over other's behavior, but you DO have control over your own. Nobody is saying, "Hey, that douchebag assgrabber was in the right!" Nobody is saying that at all. Anyway, as my final post on it, I'll offer why I think you "lost" this particular encounter, in case it hasn't already been obvious: You had it won before you even walked into that bar. YOU were the one with the attractive wife who loves you and who you love. IMHO, the douchebag ass-grabber is the lame, pitiable character here... think about what a shitbag and a sad, lonely life he must live if the only way he can get his jollies is to grab the asses of other men's wives. This guy was NEVER worth your time, your wife's time, or either of your overt anger. As such, you always had the upper hand, UNTIL you physically confronted him. Then, you not only legitimized his behavior, you also empowered him and gave him exactly what he wanted. He had the double satisfaction of NOT ONLY grabbing your wife's ass, but ruining YOUR night, too. He probably was quite happy with himself. Thus, like I said, the best reaction would either be to ignore it or do something funny that would embarrass him or make you look like roses... like my idea of sending him a drink and telling him "Enjoy that drink and the lonely car ride home" while you flick your ring finger. Then, for good measure, you might just make out with your wife where he can clearly see you. But, like I said... it's my last post here. I'm glad you didn't get 1) hurt 2) arrested or 3) killed. Keep in mind that may not happen next time, though. Cheers!
post #195 of 294
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Originally Posted by distinctive View Post
In my eyes there is no excuse for this behavior, no "condition" where it is permissible.
Of course there is. When the other party can be presumed to agree with it (say, at a swinger's club). But that was not your case.

Still, the question discussed by most here was not on whether the behaviour was wrong (it was), it was on whether it warranted physical violence as an answer (clear disagreement here).
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