Originally Posted by distinctive
In my eyes there is no excuse for this behavior, no "condition" where it is permissible.
That's partly why it's still going. You have no control over other's behavior, but you DO have control over your own. Nobody is saying, "Hey, that douchebag assgrabber was in the right!" Nobody is saying that at all. Anyway, as my final post on it, I'll offer why I think you "lost" this particular encounter, in case it hasn't already been obvious: You had it won before you even walked into that bar. YOU were the one with the attractive wife who loves you and who you love. IMHO, the douchebag ass-grabber is the lame, pitiable character here... think about what a shitbag and a sad, lonely life he must live if the only way he can get his jollies is to grab the asses of other men's wives. This guy was NEVER worth your time, your wife's time, or either of your overt anger. As such, you always had the upper hand, UNTIL you physically confronted him. Then, you not only legitimized his behavior, you also empowered him and gave him exactly what he wanted. He had the double satisfaction of NOT ONLY grabbing your wife's ass, but ruining YOUR night, too. He probably was quite happy with himself. Thus, like I said, the best reaction would either be to ignore it or do something funny that would embarrass him or make you look like roses... like my idea of sending him a drink and telling him "Enjoy that drink and the lonely car ride home" while you flick your ring finger. Then, for good measure, you might just make out with your wife where he can clearly see you. But, like I said... it's my last post here. I'm glad you didn't get 1) hurt 2) arrested or 3) killed. Keep in mind that may not happen next time, though. Cheers!