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Dating question: to hook up or not

post #1 of 32
10/12/08 at 11:23pm
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So I met this nice girl recently and I've been getting along pretty well with her. Things have been fun but not physical as of yet. She actually wants it to get physical and "carefree" with no commitments. This has been perfect so far as I am in transition.

She dropped a bomb on me last night. She has a young son.

Do I ...or Do I not? I just sense a lot of conflicts in the future...

Any advice from ppl who have experienced the single mother situation would be fantastic. I just need some motivation/demotivation...
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post #2 of 32
10/12/08 at 11:25pm
If she told you she wants a no committment fuck session, I would take her at her word. I don't really see how her being a single mother makes you rethink that. Odds are, her life is so stressful trying to raise the kid, she's not looking for a father figure for it. She just wants some fucky fucky to blow off some steam.


Be a good guy and give her what she wants.
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post #3 of 32
10/12/08 at 11:31pm
If she's pleasant to look at and you turn down the opportunity, the only logical conclusion I can come up with is that you'r a joyboy in hiding.
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post #4 of 32
10/12/08 at 11:41pm
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kwilkinson, u know what? you're right. I'm going to go right this situation.

wait wait, whats a joyboy?
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post #5 of 32
10/12/08 at 11:42pm
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Originally Posted by kwilkinson View Post
If she told you she wants a no committment fuck session, I would take her at her word. I don't really see how her being a single mother makes you rethink that. Odds are, her life is so stressful trying to raise the kid, she's not looking for a father figure for it. She just wants some fucky fucky to blow off some steam. Be a good guy and give her what she wants.
This is definitely not the mindset you should take. Chances are if you keep hanging around her she's going to expect you to play some kind of father provider role for the kid. You should hit it. Just know that you're playing with fire if you like kids like I do. joyboy = gay guy
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post #6 of 32
10/13/08 at 12:55am
I wouldn't do it, but then i've been accused of being a joyboy around these parts. I just can't imaging a situation in which a single mother was not ideally looking for a man to help raise her kid (unless she's a total whore). There are lots of women without children that you can bang.
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post #7 of 32
10/13/08 at 1:00am
It depends on what she's looking for in the relationship. If she's pursuing the relationship for recreation, then there isn't much harm in it, so long as you don't get too involved with the kids. If she's looking at getting physical as the next step in an overall progression towards marraige, then you may want to reconsider. Single Moms are still women, and have needs. But often they get intertwined with the needs of being a parent. Depending on your outlook that may be meaningful to you.
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post #8 of 32
10/13/08 at 1:04am
Do it, but make sure she knows up front that you're just in it for the sex. She's got enough on her plate, I wouldn't fuck around with her head even more. But, as said before, sometimes a woman is just trying to fulfill her needs.
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post #9 of 32
10/13/08 at 1:14am
Another thing to be aware of is that if you end up falling for her you will always be in SECOND PLACE compared to the kid, unless she's has mental issues.
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post #10 of 32
10/13/08 at 1:27am
take her at her word. she wants sex. nothing else. the fact that she has a kid is a double coupon bonus: she aint' a virgin and the kid takes up her time. Dude, if she is hot, think of it this way: MILF
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post #11 of 32
10/13/08 at 2:40am
Just do it but be upfront yet not in a way that will shut the door. Last thing you want have come up is that you'll fuck her but her kid makes you shit bricks. IMO kids are great and if you find a LADY not a chick that has one, who's cool and the mum is hot then all is good.

Let it be known that fucking her for any length of time is going to end up with some sort of relationship no matter what you or her say. One of you will become hooked be it for the sex, person, warm body, family or what ever random thing you can bring up.
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post #12 of 32
10/13/08 at 2:59am
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Originally Posted by boozingalcoholic View Post
She actually wants it to get physical and "carefree" with no commitments.

Why don't you be a nice gentleman and give the lady what she wants? What's the matter with you?
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post #13 of 32
10/13/08 at 5:19am
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Originally Posted by A Canuker View Post
Let it be known that fucking her for any length of time is going to end up with some sort of relationship no matter what you or her say. One of you will become hooked be it for the sex, person, warm body, family or what ever random thing you can bring up.

+1

And if she doesn't want you to use a condom, then she wants you to be the dad of her two kids.
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post #14 of 32
10/13/08 at 10:51am
On an irrational level though, that would freak the first time a chick told me she has a kid though, no doubt.
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post #15 of 32
10/13/08 at 11:51am
personally, I wouldn't touch it. And coming from me...that's kinda saying something.
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