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post #1 of 161
10/5/08 at 9:50pm
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I met a girl on the bus to Chicago and, to my delight, ran into her as I was boarding the bus back to Ohio. She waved and asked me to sit next her (which of course I did) and we made small talk, etc. during the trip. At one point I woke from my slumber and realized her leg was against mine. Let's just say it made me happy (yes I am that desperate).

Anyways, we got to campus and I asked if I could have her number. She forked it over and I am now in a dilemma. When do I call? Should I give it 48 hrs. or so?
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post #2 of 161
10/5/08 at 10:04pm
With experience comes judgment.

Honestly, the stronger the connection I perceive, the more aggressively I pursue. It is usually reciprocated. You'll learn to read people. For now, take a risk.
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post #3 of 161
10/5/08 at 10:29pm
Wait 24 hours. Call. Give lots of attention over next three days. Forget her number for a week. Resume contact.
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post #4 of 161
10/5/08 at 10:44pm
If you like her, call her tomorrow. Set up a time to get lunch or something between classes. If you like her and actually want to pursue this as anything serious, don't get caught up in all the stupid psychological bullshit of exactly how long to wait and when to do what. Games are of no use.
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post #5 of 161
10/5/08 at 11:27pm
^^ agree. If she digs you, she won't mind that you didn't "play by the rules."
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post #6 of 161
10/5/08 at 11:39pm
Pussies. You met a girl on a BUS. Call her Tuesday since tomorrow you'll be drinking watching MFL. LOL. Like you're gonna take kwilk's advice...
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post #7 of 161
10/5/08 at 11:47pm
Call her soon and arrange a meet-up. Or just call to say hello and then DON'T arrange a meet-up if you want to play games. But either way, don't wait too long. I never bought into the three-day or six-day or whatever-day rule.
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post #8 of 161
10/5/08 at 11:54pm
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Originally Posted by whodini View Post
LOL. Like you're gonna take kwilk's advice...

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post #9 of 161
10/5/08 at 11:57pm
If you sat next to her that long, you have kind of already done the first date - and to the surprise of everyone on SF - apparently not disgraced yourself. You can call her promptly and not bother with all the mindgames involved with the will-he-wont-he-he-said-he'd-call-he-promised-he'd-call crap.
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post #10 of 161
10/6/08 at 12:03am
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You can call her promptly and not bother with all the mindgames involved with the will-he-wont-he-he-said-he'd-call-he-promised-he'd-call crap.

Well said.
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post #11 of 161
10/6/08 at 12:26am
Don't call until you know of something fun the two of you can do. Don't just call her to go out to lunch. Who the hell wants to go out to lunch?

p.s. Doing lines of coke off each other's stomachs is really friggin' fun.
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post #12 of 161
10/6/08 at 12:27am
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If you sat next to her that long, you have kind of already done the first date - and to the surprise of everyone on SF - apparently not disgraced yourself.

You can call her promptly and not bother with all the mindgames involved with the will-he-wont-he-he-said-he'd-call-he-promised-he'd-call crap.

+1

I think that if you´re gonna call her, arrange a meet up, by this I mean that, at least as I see things at first, you should call her with a good excuse for it, not only for the sake of callig her.

Besides you a great advantange in the fact that she called you to sit next to her, so she must have some kind of interest, (but don't dream on the fact that her leg was against your's, that´s very subjective.

Anyway, good luck.
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post #13 of 161
10/6/08 at 12:29am
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If you sat next to her that long, you have kind of already done the first date - and to the surprise of everyone on SF - apparently not disgraced yourself.

The OP seems to indicate that he was asleep for a substantial amount of time.
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post #14 of 161
10/6/08 at 12:30am
Post her number here so we can warn her.
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post #15 of 161
10/6/08 at 12:38am
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Post her number here so we can warn her.

I was going to fix this to "so we can bang her" but then I remembered that we're talking about Conne and at no point did he mention this person's age.
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