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Stop the Texting People...

lefty

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Originally Posted by flashback
I think anyone that doesn't like it or understands its usefulness is probably an old fuddy-duddy.

Put me down as as fuddy duddy who refuses to communicate like a 11-year-old girl.

I don't respond to text messages.

lefty
 

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I love text messages for most things. No small talk needed and you have a record of things, which can be useful for directions, etc. Sometimes it doesn't make sense to text someone though. I hate it when people have text conversations like:

"Jigga where you at?"
"what?"
"holla!"
"oh."
"turn right"
"where?"
"where you at?"


Basically, I use whatever will make my life easier. Both voice and text can live in harmony.
 

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I was born in '82 so for all intents and purposes I shoud be hip to this whole text messageing thing, but I am like the first poster. Just pick up the phone i dont want to sit here and spell out what i can tell you in one breath and save us both the agony of a 20 minute text session. I have many friends from college that you call and call and call, and wont answer but you send them a text and they respond immediately ******* weirdos. I guess i fall in the 26 y/o fuddy duddy crowd.
 

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Originally Posted by garmentmerchant
I was born in '82 so for all intents and purposes I shoud be hip to this whole text messageing thing, but I am like the first poster. Just pick up the phone i dont want to sit here and spell out what i can tell you in one breath and save us both the agony of a 20 minute text session. I have many friends from college that you call and call and call, and wont answer but you send them a text and they respond immediately ******* weirdos. I guess i fall in the 26 y/o fuddy duddy crowd.

I don't quite get this whole twenty minute texting session thing. Whatever time saving gained from phoning is lost with the inevitable need to exchange pleasentries and the complete breaking of concentration for both parties. Receiving a phone call can ravage my morning, which texting rarely does.

On the other hand, I believe the etiquette for texting and cell phone use in general has not been made adequately clear or universal. It is rude to costantly send messages during a lunch and it is also obnoxious to send excessively unclear message that necessitate a long exchange.
 

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I'm with babygreenspots. Texting is just much more convenient. It doesn't interrupt you nearly as much as a phone call does and doesn't require intellectual or emotional investment.

I don't mind getting a post-date text message, like "thanks for seeing me" or "did you have fun?", but a post-date call would be highly annoying.
 

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Originally Posted by Brian SD
It...doesn't require intellectual or emotional investment.


If you don't need this investment why should this conversation be going on in the first place? Texting or otherwise? Texting just promotes more interaction that is pointless because it is easier than calling someone up.
 

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for those who refuse to text ppl, just admit it

























you have fat fingers. instead of typing a 3 letter word it becomes 7
 

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Originally Posted by michaeljkrell
If you don't need this investment why should this conversation be going on in the first place? Texting or otherwise? Texting just promotes more interaction that is pointless because it is easier than calling someone up.
this is true some of the time. There are texts sent to convey nicenesses for which one might not bother actually calling. However, at the end of the day, most of the texting I do is to settle small matters related to business. Most texting I do is to (1) give an instruction/convey a piece of work-related information, (2) write out an address or (3) arrange the time for a meeting. For the third one of these, it is a very simple message that simply requires a time, place and question mark. I just don't see how this takes so much more time than calling, which often means disrupting someone while they are either at work or socializing. If I am either working or socializing, and I see that I have received a text, I can wait a few minutes to look at it when I have free time and then take appropriate action. If I receive a call, immediate action is usually demanded. It is harder to not pick up the call, and once I have picked it up, I am often quite distracted from what I have been doing. I submit that more time is wasted this way. Since I am often very busy at odd hours, I instruct my friends and others to text rather than call. Those rejecting text messaging should think carefully about this and not just be knee-jerk about it. None of the texting I do is silly messaging with teenage girls. Also, the point about having an easily accessible record is very important. If someone calls me, and I promise some sort of action, I do sometimes forget (say if I am in a bus and it is not convenient to make a note of what must be done). If I receive a text, I have a record and a reminder. Now, I don't even have a blackberry. I'm supposing that I will like that even more.
 

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I guess my only experience with texting has been socially. For business I am either talking on the phone or writing an email on the computer.
 

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Originally Posted by michaeljkrell
I guess my only experience with texting has been socially. For business I am either talking on the phone or writing an email on the computer.

Certainly. Though we are more productive in the states, work is often confined to the office. The work/socializing divide is less distinct in China. One can receive a work related text long after leaving the office - related to an appointment the next day, for example.
 

Steve B.

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Originally Posted by nyf
Text messages are awful. However, women born after 1985 communicate obsessively through texts. Voicemail will go unanswered, texts will be replied to in minutes. They are a necessary evil when dealing with the opposite sex.

Not only that, but I resent that cell phone companies charge ridiculous sums (20-30 cents, are you kidding?) on per use texting, forcing you into their higher tier service plans.

The one good thing I will say about texting is that it's great for a booty call.


And erotic conversations...

Foreplay as it were.
 

Joshua Arson

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If I have to text someone more than once in the course of one "conversation," I'll call them. Texts are great for quick stuff like "how far away are you" or "what time are we meeting tonight?" but I can't understand how people can text for hours. I worked with a girl once who'd sent some absurd number of texts in the last month - we worked it out, and accounting for 40 hours at work and seven hours of sleep a night, she texted twice a minute. I just don't get it.
 

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Originally Posted by michaeljkrell
Is anyone else completely sick of text messages. Instead of calling someone up and saying what you need to say, you trade a series of text messages that last 30 minutes when the conversation would have only lasted like 2 minutes. Or you are talking to someone, and there phone goes off and they try to carry on conversation while they are typing out something on their phone.

Am I old-fashioned?


Yes, you are a bit old-fashioned. There is a time and place for each.
 

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